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Ex Suddenly Unfollow Me on Social Media

Neshimaru — Wed, 07 Jun 2017 09:09:45 +0800

So this is rather strange .. my ex and I broke up in January 2016. He was the one asking for the break up because he wanted to focus on the career and worry has no TIME to commit. YET he still could say that we can meet up every weekend for movie at his place. I got mad about this silly arrangements, concluded that he's just looking for friends with benefits / booty call, and I stopped talking to him. He was shocked by my anger and didn't understand why.

In the past few months I started to realize he's been following me on Instagram because he likes some of my photos that triggered my notification. I didn't bother and continued my life.

Until recently he texted me to ask for meet up. Said he wanted to understand what made me so angry last year when he asked for break up. Said when he saw some of my Instagram latest photos, he thought about what happened and needed to know why. So I agreed to meet up and explained everything based on my logic on why I should be upset. I explained that it was ridiculous to say he had no time for relationship yet he could still commit to weekly movie date at his house, explained how he did all this over WhatsApp and not calling me .. and during office hour. It was all bad reasoning, bad approach and bad timing. The meet up literally started with THAT because he insisted he needs to know before we talk about other things.

The meet up still went well after that, we laughed and chatted and joked. It lasted for hours of laughs. It was like back in the old days again.

Next day I realize ... he unfollowed me in Instagram -_____-

So ... what gives?

The meet up didn't seemed wrong at all and I can honestly say he enjoyed the time too. He's definitely not angry or upset with me.

Any idea? Men .. please explain.

[WTB] Long Purple Dinner Gloves

Neshimaru — Sat, 08 Nov 2014 17:19:36 +0800

I am looking for a pair of long purple dinner gloves the covers above my elbows. Any recommendation where in Subang Jaya I can buy or any of you selling?

[WTB] Hair Wig for Cosplay

Neshimaru — Sat, 08 Nov 2014 17:07:28 +0800

I am looking for a long hair wig in red or fiery orange colour for a cosplay event as I am appearing as Jessica Rabbit. Anyone selling?

[WTB] Hair Wig for Cosplay

Neshimaru — Sat, 08 Nov 2014 17:04:50 +0800

I'm looking for a full hair wig in red or fiery orange as I am dressing as Jessica Rabbit for a cosplay event. Anybody selling this? Urgent. Thanks!

Pahang Tourism Survey

Neshimaru — Sun, 10 Nov 2013 13:52:01 +0800

Hello lovely people out there. I am a student pursuing in Masters in Integrated Marketing Communication at Universiti Sains Malaysia. One of our subjects, 'Brand Management', requires me and my team members to study on tourism in Malaysia and we are focusing on Pahang.

I need your KINDEST HEART to help me and my team members with this particular survey. I'm sure many of you have been to Pahang already for vacation so we need to hear out from you okay? Greatly appreciated if you can complete this survey soon. The link is given below:

http://kwiksurveys.com/s.asp?sid=0p54m8mpxe6167i251099

Anyway for you students out there, kwiksurvey is a pretty awesome FREE online survey that works better than surveymonkey because it allows unlimited number of questions and unlimited number of respondents while surveymonkey (FREE version) limits to only 7 questions and 100 respondents. Hope it helps!

<WTB> Baby Joey - Sugar Glider

Neshimaru — Tue, 27 Aug 2013 15:51:01 +0800

PM me if anybody is selling baby Joey. Looking for one as a new family member for my family. Preferably around Klang Valley area for easy COD. Thanks!

Boyfriend's Mother Obsessed With Him

Neshimaru — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 11:22:20 +0800

Okay I hope this is the right place to share my problem and request for advice especially from those who experienced the same issue with me...

Let's talk about the background of my boyfriend and his family. His parents are divorced and left with only Mother, First Son (boyfriend) and Second Son. The mother never remarried though she did had few boyfriends along the way. From the way I observed and from what his favourite aunty told me, his mother ALWAYS PAMPERS him since young and calls him every day without fail. The younger brother was more of a lesser favourite among both ... high possibility that my boyfriend looks a lot like his father and also because he's the first born. Because of that, my boyfriend took advantage of her over-pampering characteristics when he was young but now he's a lot better .

Okay brief history over.. let's look at current situation.

My boyfriend is now 32 years old. We've dated for a year already. When I gave my number to his mother initially, I thought I was scoring high because she was calling me every now and then to tell me to take care of him, give me medicine (he's a little unwell and I do not really want to share .. don't worry it's not fatal and it's only minor sickness that he as an adult can handle ), tell me not to pamper him too much or he'll take advantage, tell me to be firm with him. Yea it was enjoyable knowing that his mother entrusted her favourite son to me.

But.. as time goes by.. her calls to me became more and more frequent to a daily ritual. She would call to tell me the same thing for the past one year.. "Give him medicine, I boiled chinese herbal drink and I'm coming over to pass to you, don't be too nice to him, be firm with him, be nice to him, I can't call him where is he?? I made him some barley and coming to your house to pass to you, remember give him medicine, be firm with him, be nice with him, I can't call him do you know where is he? Is he with you?"

Note : He moved out and staying with me now.

Yea perhaps to most of you, just reading like this seems normal and perhaps something to be proud of .. but PLEASE TRUST ME IN THIS ... the frequency of her calls to me and to him daily becomes an overload for me to handle. It's like a mother who just refuse to treat her son as a man ... a real 32 year old man. He's embarrassed by it at times cause when I talk to him about his mother's obsessed behaviour, he would get angry.

I later found out from my boyfriend that she's like that since young .. he told me that she pampers him a lot and treats him like a child. Even now when he's 32, she would still call him at least 10 times a day (I know cause he shows me all her calls and missed calls) and he would get really annoyed sometimes leading to argument because she would do it during our working day. Like yesterday when she called him during his meeting. She called few times (because by now me and him often refuse to pick up her calls cause we knew it'll always be the same topic). After 3rd or 4th ring he picked up during the meeting worried it was emergency.

Him : Hello?
Mom : ... Where are you??

BOOM! He exploded and argument started. I don't blame him for being annoyed with her. It's working day, and working time .. and an obsessed mother would call and ask where is he when he's very busy in a meeting ... I would react the same way too.

By now I have stopped picking up her calls and my boyfriend too stopped picking up her calls ... he would let her call him many times and only pick up when he's convenient or night time. But the topic will always be the same ... "Have you taken your medicine? I boiled you barley, I'm coming over to pass to you. How come never pick up my call?? Don't be rude to me! Etc etc etc"

For me, I totally stopped picking up her call. In fact I have blocked her incoming calls and asked my boyfriend to tell her that my sim card is broken. Yes I'm that afraid of her now! I couldn't take the nagging sound of her daily telling me the same thing over and over again .. it's like an obsession to a young child!

Again I ask you all this ... reading seems easy as compare to experiencing it. Please be empathetic with me and understand my situation here. I don't hate her of course. And I don't think there is anything wrong with a mother's love... but in this case I personally feel that it's more of a love that leads to an obsession. He's 32 and I'm 29 .. we're both adults .. and we're feeling the burden of his mother constantly nagging down our necks. He told me she did the same to his ex-girlfriend too last time.. constantly calling her over the same topic. That time his ex stayed with them under one roof. Called her, knock on the door to talk to her about him when he went out ... or sometimes when they argue downstairs she would walk to the room where she's hiding and knock on the door to talk to her ... etc etc etc.

I'm not worried of marriage but I'm worried that one day she might stay with us .. and there's no way of me escaping the face-to-face daily nagging and treating us like children ...

Please help ... I'm desperate ...

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Some updates of my recent findings: http://ezinearticles.com/?Parental-Obsessi...ction&id=690964

"Umbilical Addiction, the most common form of this disorder is in women, the maternal instinct propagating into an obsessive need to smother and control, turning the child eventually into an over weaned, incapable shadow."

"As the child becomes older, the early spoiling tactics produce unacceptable acts of rebellion and disobedience, usually incurring the disapproval of the rest of the family. The child staggers into adolescence displaying alarming behavioral dysfunctions such as thieving, lying, rudeness, and always the young adult will continue to remain closely attached to the very parent causing the damage." - Yes he used to be very rebellious when he was young but good thing is he's not attached to his mother.

"Elaborate lies may be invented to cover misdemeanors, both by the parent and the offspring, until eventually, as the young adult leaves school and enters the workplace, the delinquent has developed into a dangerous, ego obsessed, narcissistic psychopath." - He's not dangerous or psycho but he's narcissistic and to an extent, egoistic but bearable.

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Some updates ...

24th August, Saturday - My boyfriend and I went to Malacca to visit a temple for prayers. His mother called him while we were getting ready to burn joss stick and pray (there were about minimum 8 Gods there to pray). Hence, he told his mother that we were about to start our prayers and conversation ended. We silent our phones, put our things aside and went off to pray to each God.

After were were done and checked out phones, I had 18 missed calls and he had 10 missed calls from his mother. I even had 3 sms from his mother asking "Why you don't want to pick up my call" and "Pick up my call"

So I quickly told my boyfriend to return her call. We already knew what was going to happen since she could sms me like that. The moment he called she went mad and scolded him for not picking up her call and he started reasoning with her that we were praying and we silent off our phones and put aside to avoide distractions at a sacred place. She refused to accept his reasoning and said, "You could have at least sms me!!" He explained again that we both silent our phones and PLACED ASIDE so we won't even realize anybody was calling. But she refuse to accept and continued to scold him with unreasonable excuses. He got angry and shouted back and all I could see from the temple entrance was him shouting over the phone far away from the temple. After that nothing happened until ...

26th August, Monday - When we got back from work, shortly after that his mother got home. I called her as most would do when an elderly is around to show respect but she never bother to respond to me. She just nodded her head and went off to do her things. I then left to take my bath while my boyfriend cooked dinner. Next thing I knew, while showering in the loud gushing water, I could actually hear my boyfriend and my mother shouting at each other out of sudden. I ended my bath and listen to their shouts. Neighbours were watching. But I could clearly hear what was the argument about ... it was about the incident that we didn't pick up her call on Saturday when we were praying. "OMG" I was thinking ... I could hear her clearly saying that "You both never bother to answer my call! No respect!! Called so many times!!" and "You both could have sms me if cannot pick up!!" When he kept repeating, "We were praying and we silent our phones and placed aside!! We need to respect the sacred place! At least we returned your call immediately after that!!" But she still repeated the same thing, "Excuses!! You both just want to avoid me! Move out!! Move out of the house!!"

@_@

There I was hiding in my room and next thing I know she came to the room knocking hardly on the door. "Neshimaru!! I'm telling you now .. you and my son have no respect for me! Both of you move out!!" and she continued to bang the door as my boyfriend trying to stop her. I got angry and opened the door and then explain to her firmly what happened at Malacca, that we were praying. But she pointed her finger at me with her piercing eyes and shouted, "You both have no respect for me!! Move out!!"

I cried after that and had no choice but to call her sister who is my boyfriend's aunt to talk to while they continued arguing. His aunt thought it was odd too that she took it so offensively and kept it for days and bring it back up to argue with us. She calmed me down over the phone and assured us that she will talk to the mother.

'Invalid Http Request Header'

Neshimaru — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 10:45:33 +0800

Lately when I want to surf the internet, I realise it's suspiciously slow. I initially thought it was my company's connection but the rest of my colleagues didn't face any slow connection. As of recent, things got worst and most of the sites I go to I won't be able to access. Instead I get a white page with a message saying 'Invalid Http Request Header'. I checked online and though most say to clear the cache .. it didn't work for me. Now itself I'm posting from my phone cause I can't even access lowyat forum!

HELP ME PLEASE!

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Edited:

It happens in Chrome. Firefox seems to be working fine...

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Edited:

I seem to be having the same problem with Firefox .. white page comes out with the message "No site configured at this address"

Friend Of Many Years Cheated My Money

Neshimaru — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 17:25:52 +0800

Just to share with everybody how real this world is. I know this friend of many years ... since secondary school. We've been quite good friends. Hang out, share problems, etc. We've learned to trust each other in many things. But I think she have changed since she started dating this Nigerian guy. She socialize lesser a lot and seemed different...

The other day she called sounding upset saying she's at the police station and she's low on funds and she's alone. She told me she met an accident and it was her fault. She needed me to bank in RM300 into her Maybank account. Knowing it's a friend of many years, I didn't ask much about it and banked in the money straight away. After that I constantly checked on her to see if she's alright, to see if she's still in the police station or home already.

That was two weeks ago. Until now, she have yet to return the money. I smsed her many times to remind her. Early this week she said she banked into the public bank account already after I checked with her again on my money but when I checked online, there were no incoming transaction. Until now, I am unable to get her on the phone. I sms her but she never reply. It was pure obvious she's trying to avoid me.

RM300 is not a big deal to me. It's just that I'm angry with her for doing such things that will definitely ruin our many years of friendship because I will never trust or talk to her again. At the same time I'm also worried if the Nigerian guy is actually manipulating her to be like this. It's common for Nigerians to sweep asian girls off their feet and take everything from her when the time is right.

Sigh... I'm here to let out my frustrations and at the same time telling everybody ... even the closest friends can turn on you and cheat you off ... whether they mean it or not .. it'll happen.

Bf's Annoying Ex Won't Stop Bothering Him

Neshimaru — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 10:21:27 +0800

My current partner (let's call him A for Aaron) was with his ex (let's call her B for Betty) for many years. During the years they were together, the beginning was all fine and lovey dovey. At later half of their relationship, Betty changed and started partying and clubbing a lot with her newly found rich friends (she's rich too). She literally went wild and became a party animal and a drama queen, drinking a lot of alcohol whenever she parties hence she tends to do stupid things. There were even once when Betty found out her previous ex-bf started dating with someone new, she started doing lap dancing on her ex-bf at a club and later on begged her ex-bf to go back with her ... all the time in front of Aaron. Aaron got so mad and pulled her away and drove home. Angry as he was, he still forgave her and gave her all the freedom to go partying. But time went on and she took his love for granted. She only go to him when she needed him. Otherwise, she'll be too busy with her rich friends and sometimes, rich MALE friends for attention.

They finally broke up because he couldn't handle all her wild partying and drinking. They talked and they even argued .. but nothing worked.

Her final words to him during the breakup day was, "You will NEVER find a girlfriend after this!"

Two years after the breakup, Aaron and I met. It was by far the most beautiful moment for us since then. We fell madly in love gradually and moved in together. He loves everything about me. He calls me nerd in a good way because I don't drama a lot, I stay at home often doing things I like and I cook for him foods that he likes. He even talk about marrying me, saying that I'm a wife potential and a good mother. He has yet to propose me but already telling everybody that we're gonna get married next year. Likewise, I love everything about him too. He treats me well, protects me, gave me all his trusts, cheer me up when I am down, and every weekend he would bring me go for day trips or 1 night stay-over trips around places because he knows I enjoy outdoor life.

Problem starts when Betty found out that us. She started to bother him, calling him non-stop, telling him how she don't like us dating, saying that she actually expected him to go back to her. Even when he did during the 2 years of singlehood, she was actually playing ego with him, refusing to accept him. Probably expecting him to literally crawl back to her like a dog only she will accept him. Nevertheless, she got REALLY UPSET the moment she found out that he moved on. It's bothering me too because her annoying phone calls is bothering Aaron's mind. He's really frustrated .. sometimes she even called when we're having sex! Of course, he never went to pick up during sex .. he was too busy satisfying me

Aaron did told me that she will go very far to try to get him back. She will do ANYTHING! She's showing hints of wanting to take his dog ... she got her parents to talk to him and buy him back with MONEY as long as he goes back to her ... now even going trips with friends can be worrying in case she appears. He did warned me that she will make huge drama if she appears in any of our group trips but he assures me that he will protect me from her no matter what. Of course, it is sweet that he tells me immediately when she calls and assures me everyday that he will NEVER let me go .. and that she's just being the typical drama queen.

He has moved on and we plan to get married. But his ex is a major pain in our ass now ... does anybody have any problems like this? Any advice on what to do? Does ignoring her helps? She seemed very persistent in trying to get him back. I've never seen a crazy ex like these before.

HELP!!

How Do You Get Your Man To Listen To You

Neshimaru — Thu, 03 May 2012 17:59:07 +0800

Girls,

My man always think I'm nagging even when I'm talking REALLY SOFTLY and REALLY POLITELY with a smile on my face. How do you get your man to listen to you when we want to have a serious talk? I don't mean listen as in follow your every orders. I really mean ... listen to what your heart wants to say.

Why Do Men Walk Away From Arguments?

Neshimaru — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 10:29:59 +0800

I'm 28 and my partner is 31. We are in a new relationship together for about 3 months. Very fresh and still learning to adapt each other's lifestyle and behaviour.

The only thing I find very difficult to handle so far is that every time we argue, he would quickly walk out of me, saying that I like to provoke things. When we do get back together, he doesn't apologise even though I apologised (no matter who's right or wrong). But he still treats me well nevertheless.

As a female side of party, we always believe that couples should settle a problem as soon as possible because us women do not enjoy staying angry or sad for too long. Especially when we are left angry / sad at night to sleep on our own.

I am a very fair person. I do not want to conclude that my relatively new bf is some irresponsible or ignorant man who would treat a women like that. Hence, I am here to seek feedbacks / comments , preferably from men, on why you do that (since I heard most girls complain about the same issue). I want to understand my man better by asking you to share your reason why you do that.

Myself do not enjoy arguing too but you know us females ... we have a very vast emotions and I ask you men to understand (and live through it with) us. But by saying that, I am also here to understand you men better so that my relationship with my bf grows stronger rather than weaker. I am not here to change my man. And I hope that this will also help other women understand men better too so they know what to do when they argue with their partner.

Many appreciation for all your honest and sincere comments.

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New edit (10.45am):

Take note this topic is not for both genders to insult or offend each other k? Let's keep our minds open!

Recovered From Alcohol Addiction

Neshimaru — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 15:04:05 +0800

My boyfriend was an alcoholic when I first met him. But he was not those abusive type thankfully. Even though I knew he was an alcoholic, I still love him for who he is as a person and he loves me too. When we started dating, it was like fireworks as most newly dating couples would experience. He needed to see me everyday. He couldn't stop thinking about me all the time. He enjoys talking to me every half hour over the phone. I enjoyed the attention completely. His sex drive was high too. We enjoyed sex almost everyday for 1 month since we started dating.

After that 1 month, he finally took his very own initiative to check into rehabilitation centre to stop his alcoholic problems so that he can enjoy a healthy relationship with me. I was thrilled when he successfully completed his mission. Nobody forced him to go to rehab. He decided on his own and I am proud of him.

Now it is 11 days since he checked out from the rehab and I notice a big change of character and sex drive in him. Character wise, he doesn't seem to need me so strongly as before. He talks lesser .. calls me lesser. Of course we still date everyday. He still asks me out everyday but he seemed so dull and mundane now. I also realise that he no longer have the need to have sex with me everyday. His sex drive slowed down to a near complete stop. He's no longer active and funny as he was when he was an alcoholic.

I still love him without doubt! But I just want to further understand if this is due to a major change in his health that may cause his whole character to change (psychologically and/or physically) and whether if this is a short term problem or it will be permanent.

Professional advice and sharing from experiences is greatly appreciated!

My Cat Is Entering Neighbour's House!

Neshimaru — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 09:34:41 +0800

About a month ago, I stopped caging my 11 month old DSH cat. Since young he was known to be a cry baby whenever we cage him up. No matter what toys or food I give him, he could cry and cry and cry.

After neutering him and training him to hang around in our car porch day by day, I stopped caging him altogether because he doesn't run away. He would wait at the car porch for me to return home everyday from work like a typical puppy.

Just this morning my neighbour complained to my mother that my cat had been entering their house lately and they are not too happy about it.

I do not like the idea of caging my cat again since he's really big now ... almost the size of a young Shih Tzu. Myself never like the idea of caging my pets either ...

My mother on the other hand, never allow me to let him run freely in the house when I go to work.

I'm stuck! Any advise for me?

Demotivated To Work

Neshimaru — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 12:40:30 +0800

Just need some constructive advice ...

I've been working for 1 year in this current company as a Marketing Communication Manager (MARCOM). Perhaps it was my mistake, but I gave my very best efforts and capabilities and stood out instantly, receiving big smiles from my two bosses plus increment.

Problems began when they started to enjoy squeezing more and more potentials out of me without thinking twice. Even when I voiced out a few times in a professional manner that it is beyond my knowledge and capabilities for certain assignments, they turn their cheeks and expect miracles ... at the LOWEST BUDGET POSSIBLE. Worst is that I am the only MARCOM staff. I even talked to my boss that I need at least an executive, and he said, "No budget" My work is pilling up, my bosses expectations keep increasing that now they are barking at me asking, "why can't this be done? why so busy? why cannot cheaper? why cannot faster?"

As of late, my motivation to give my very best efforts and capabilities has died down slowly. I stopped trying to meet datelines, stopped showing so much to my bosses ... I take my time to see my bosses when requested ... I just sit quietly in my office.. doing my work ... slowly .... Most of the times I dread going to work already as compared to last time. I asked myself, "Why should I give so much when they are not appreciating me for the right reasons?"

I'm very down.

I just need some advice/feedbacks.

Legal Fee for SPA & Loan Dilemma

Neshimaru — Tue, 10 May 2011 16:37:14 +0800

Hello,

I am currently buying a condo worth RM244,000. Down payment is RM24,400 which means loan to obtain is RM219,600.

It is requirement for buyers to appoint their lawyer to handle the Sales & Purchase Agreement (SPA) and etc. There is this lawyer that is quoting me RM9,000 for Legal fee for SPA and Loan ... which I find very expensive i'm sure of it.

I'd like to ask anybody here to provide some idea and give a breakdown of what are the necessary fee I need to pay to the lawyer for all these legal matters and estimate ACCEPTABLE PRICE for the property value of RM244,000. Any suggestions? Will bank be better than a stand alone lawyer company?

I am buying from a house owner.

Many thanks!

Blood Donation

Neshimaru — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 17:32:38 +0800

Hie everybody. I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask about blood donation but hear me out.

I've been doing blood donation for the past two years and will be doing my third donation this year. The first round was done in UM Hospital while second round was at a chinese temple. I might consider going to a private hospital nearby by place this month since i've yet to find any blood donation campaign around my area.

However, I have heard of people saying that though blood donation is good, but it is better to do it in a public hospital because private hospitals sell blood at a higher rate then the public ones. And since my yearly vow is to do it out of charity, I do not really like to idea of donating blood only to realise some patients have difficulties in paying a big sum amount of money to obtain blood in a private hospital.

Is it true that private hospitals sell blood at a higher rate?

Do enlighten me.

Thanks!

Sales Calls From Gym

Neshimaru — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 16:03:02 +0800

Somebody gave my number to a gym recently and their sales personnel called me on a Sunday morning. When I asked the person's name who gave my number to them, the sales person said it was given by the Customer Service. When I called the Customer Service, they mentioned that they will NEVER collect numbers and it is the sales people who helped customers sign a contract to collect names and numbers from the customers. I screwed the sales person for lying and demanded to know who is the 'friend' who gave my personal number to them.

24 hours has passed and they did not get back to me.

I'm sure many of you have experienced these sales people from gym calling you saying 'a friend gave me your number' and offer you a free trial. But have any of you tried obtaining the 'friend' name from them before? Can I actually make a police report for abusing my personal details?

SIGH! Help me!

Adobe Illustrator Price

Neshimaru — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 11:55:27 +0800

I'm looking for ORIGINAL Adobe Illustrator software and would like to as if anybody know the price of the software here and where can I get them. It's pretty urgent.

Your assistance is greatly appreciated!

Where's Bee?

Neshimaru — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:03:53 +0800

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