Seeking advices- tie the knot

dontknowwhattodo — Sun, 21 Apr 2019 20:29:38 +0800

Hi All, after 2 years of break up. I got myself a new girl friend lately. We are both same age 32, and recently i realised i am having random negative thoughts of our relationship and being indecisive all the time.

Story: We have been seeing each other for 8 months now, and out of the blue, topic of getting marry came out (from her, of course). Well, not to say that i am not ready, but i wish to get to know her more , or stay/live together just to see if we would have any compatibility issues. Thing is , i am not sure how long would i need to evaluate her to be my life partner / tie the knot.

Another thought is that we are both 32 years old this year, to be honest, i don't mind but i worry about her. She is 32 this year and i feel scared if i take too long and **assume for the worst, what if we don't end up together after few years later? I might ruin her life by occupying her all these year and both end up not settling down together. I can't help but keep having all these thoughts (Not sure is negative thought or overthinking).

Yes, i do thought of breaking up just to set her free so that she can have someone settle down with her quick. Of course i keep this just to myself.

Our dating life is consider good, she is a lawyer, she is pampered (Coming from a very wealthy family), and our family background and living style is significantly different. For example, she eat at the mall all the time. While on the other hand, i am a corporate worker, who make 9k per month and like to eat at mamak/hawker/food court frequently.

P.S: She bring up the topic of getting marry at least twice a week, and she will get angry if i just ignore her and even claim that i don't love her.

Any advice?

Devastated...Need advices

dontknowwhattodo — Sun, 05 Mar 2017 20:23:44 +0800

Hi guys, first of all, i have to apologize by creating a new account to open this topic as some of my colleagues are LYN user as well.

Recently, i am devastated over my breakup with my girl friend (Happened on christmas week). We have been together for more than 3 years. It has been almost 3 months after the breakup, but thing is i still cannot overcome the sadness, especially when i m inside my room looking at the stuff that she bought for me all the while.

Story: I worked in Australia last time (LDR for almost a year), due to some arguements we had over LDR, and i prefer to be on her side (We planned for marriage). Hence, i decided to come back to Malaysia and i land myself a job in one of the consultation firm here. After i come back for few months, i sensed something wrong with her. She reluctant to tell me her inner problems and our hang out and dates are getting lesser (dinner and movie night once a month).

I am so devastated until i couldn't focus on my job and i resigned. I have been crying for everyday until today, believe me. It's very hard to overcome the sadness inside my soul. I do not blame her for costing my Australia job because it is my final decision that i want to come back to Malaysia for the relationship. I went for some interview and i got myself two job offers. One is an oversea job in germany, another one is in Malaysia.

I am thinking to take the job in germany to bring a sense of relief to my breakup. But i also thinking to take the job in Malaysia as i have friend and family here.

Some people might think i should post this on Job & Career section, but i would like to hear opinions from here. Thank you.

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Seeking advices- tie the knot

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