Asking for some opinions

TIM3R12 — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 10:32:36 +0800

I broke up in the first day of this year earlier. The reason maybe was because the time that I couldn't spend with her since I am a student and she is working. She was older than me by a year and we met each other a year before her graduation. At first, the relationship progresses smoothly and sweet, but the problem came after the first semester break after we got together. That was the first period we were split apart for more than 2 days.

Well, at first the semester break was looking nice for both of us since we went back to our own hometown (Our uni was in Perak, my hometown in Selangor, and her hometown in Johor) and told our own friend and circles that we got a partner. I still remember it clearly since that was the 4th night after we split apart, we did our usual night time phone calls before sleep. I just told her some usual things like any interesting things happened to me that day, then she picked up the topic of her friends' opinion about our relationship.

That was roughly 1 month only after we got together. She told me that her friends does not give high expectations and regards for our relationship. I think I am a rather carefree person since I told her I don't really care about opinions from others if both of us focus on the relationship and each other. And thats how we got into the first small fight since she said that she value the opinions from others alot. But the fight cease after a while since I don't really take that statement really serious at first.

Then things came to the next semester and we reunited again. We planned and met each other's parents and family when we got back to our hostel near our uni. After that, I have a dinner solely with my family only and my family hinted that they also do not have any high expectations and regards for this relationship. I was taken back abit but then I decided not to tell her about my family opinions on our relationship since she holds high regards about others opinions. That was all the problem started.

We got into alot of fights because of her friends opinions about our relationship altho I tried to maintain and improve our relationship as hard as I can since I am leaving from the campus in Perak (I am moving up to degree in the next semester to another campus in KL). I was getting more and more tired about the relationship and even regretted why I made that decision at first in that particular semester. But I kept hanging on and told myself it was my own choice and I should stick on it (well that was one of my principle that is not to back down on a decision I made on my own.

After that, before my degree registration I planned to go for a short vacation with her (just both of us) and asking my parents permission for it. She was happy about that idea but I am not so since I got into an argument with my parents just to get the permission to go vacation with her (I think my parents are somewhat overprotective about their child but like I said I don't give a d@mn). Well long story short that vacation went well for both of us altho I am facing the consequences afterwards lol.

After I got into my degree, I was studying hard since I am quite a dumb student. Well, that time I couldn't pay as much time with her as before and I regretted it that time. She was hanging out with some new friends which also holds the same opinion about our relationship and it seems it affected her very much. Our first cold fight happened. It lasted a whole year. That was last year December.

At first I tried my best to recover our relationship. I kept on visiting her at Perak on the free weekends that I have got. Well the cost of travelling and hanging out is definitely higher but I make do with reducing my own meals and meal money. But it seems it does not work well, and another trimester ends. After that trimester, she graduated and started working. She chose to work nearby her hometown. That was last year June.

Well I kept on my pursues and trying to recover the relationship but it was the same as Magikarp's Splash. Around October of that year, I realized that I am physically and mentally exhausted for all the pursues. My sleeps werent good enough for me to recover my physical and mental states. My studies also was affected by that abit. That was when my gay bro(nah just a old good friend of my since high school) advise me just give up. And I took up on that suggestion.

She played cold for the whole 10months of that year and kept killing our conversations with something similar like 3 great convo killers : ok, oooo and ahhhh. Then I decided to played back the same card since I thought about our relationship might as well as end it, if not my lifestyle might be affected by it seriously. And thus I got my good sleep after a long time. I also able to spend time with my friends and even able to get my body fitter (I got fat after got into the relationship).

Well long story short that lasted only a simple 2 months and she could not hold it in anymore. It was on the last day of the year, she called me for the first time. That time I was waiting for count down with my friends (it was semester break) and my gay bro saw that call. He said just make a quick over from it and come back to us. I took up that suggestion again from him, and I just answered the phone call. She complained about alot of things and I just kept it cool. She kept on complained about the other opinions on our relationship and I just stood there and listening to her, without saying a single word. I couldn't even bring up the fact that my family also does not hold high regards about our relationship and now, I also felt that it just does not work. After a good few tens of minutes, she told me that we should cool down first (well I was still cool about it but just could not bring up the fact I couldn't tell her about the opinions from my side of view) and discuss it tomorrow (as y'all know that tomorrow is the last day lol).

Well after that I got a great count down with my friends and got a good sleep. By the time she called me for the second time in the whole relationship, it was already nighttime. (nah I don't care about the time since I gonna sleep soon lol). The conversation was short and simple. She complaint the same things as ytd and I stopped her. I just end that relationship on that time. I do not know what she felt but I hope she won't feel too bad tho. But at long last, I was free from relationship. I did a call for my friends the morning after for some gathering and yeah, I told them I was single.

Well, the story above it does not really matter for y'all to give me some advice. Just that I wanna ask if do y'all really hold high regards of others' opinions on your own relationship or not? This question haunts me after my breakup with her and I decided to ask about it at here.

PS: No, we did not do any sexual activities since she told me that kinds of activity should be done after marriage and I will respect that decision. And err yeah, it was my first relationship and also hers. We still contact each other from time to time just to ask somethings only.

The story might be very long so there is no problem if y'all does not read it. Thanks for reading and hope the replies of my thread does help any others who have the same situations.

Peace out

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