Husband & I are always fighting & then he runs.

RebelDevilette — Thu, 30 May 2013 06:08:11 +0800

My husband and I have been married for over a year. We live with my parents. We moved back with them in August last year. I'm a stay-at-home wife and he's just started to work here in Malaysia. He's British and I'm Malay. He's 25 and I'm 34.

We constantly fight and when we do, he would run away. Once I had to drive around KL Pudu area to find him. Another time he went walking to KL (we live near PJ) for 3 days and didn't know where he was and I had to direct him home by phone. Lately we've been fighting about his job. He's just switched jobs and I'm finding it difficult to cope with him having to work alternate weekends.

Yesterday I brought up about his weekend hours again and we argued. Then he said, "F**k you! I'm leaving!" He has a tendency to run away every time we fight. Because of this, I brought my dad into our fight to stop him from running away. In the argument my husband called me a b**** and said I'm an evil person. Whenever I tried to defend myself, my dad would ask me to shut up. I used to scream & shout when we argue but yesterday I managed to maintain my composure and calmly explain my point of view (mainly because my dad was there) but my dad keeps saying that I was shouting at my husband. When I was at the verge of tears, I walked away to our bedroom and slept alone for the night.

I cried a lot. I feel hurt. I cried for hours. Couldn't sleep. When I think about the fight, tears would start rolling again. My husband SMS later said he wanted to talk but I told him I needed time alone. I'm actually contemplating divorce because I don't want to be hurt any more. He SMS me several times, but I said I needed more time and wasn't ready to talk to him.

Then around 9pm he asked for his passport and said he's leaving for good (he's running away again). I told him if he wants to leave he should tell my parents. He told me to tell them myself. So I told my mom that my husband has left me and I want a divorce. But my husband is not granting me a divorce, he said wait 4 months and the Shariah court will grant me auto divorce. We then told my dad. My parents put the blame on me. Saying I shout at him. I'm not understanding. I bully him. I'm aggressive. Fine. I'm the bad person here. It hurts that they're not even seeing my side of the story one bit.

I don't know what to do. I'm so weepy I can't stop crying. I feel I need help but I don't know where to go. Then I found this on Lowyat so writing this to at least get it off my chest. But I'm also afraid of what people might say

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RebelDevilette — Wed, 22 Nov 2006 19:18:16 +0800

Hey... anyone play Animal Crossing Wild World out there? I'm looking for buddies to play wifi with me so I can visit new towns... any takers? If so, we can swap friend codes (discriminately of course). Cheers...

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