http://forum.lowyat.net/ Thu, 25 Jun 2026 11:44:22 +0800 FeedCreator 1.7.2 http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/3080739 I&#39;m a working professional in my mid 20s and I&#39;m feeling terribly lonely recently after a breakup with a long term ex since 6 months ago. Everyday I return from work to an empty home, and no one from the opposite gender hardly shows me any interest. Seeing most of your friends getting attached/married one after another doesn&#39;t help with this situation too <!--emo&:cry:--><img src='http://static.lowyat.net/style_emoticons/default/cry.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='cry.gif' /><!--endemo--> <br /><br />I realize the fact that I feel lonely and I&#39;ve been doing several things to fix the situation by going out meeting new people, cultivating new hobbies, helping others and doing things that I enjoy. I&#39;ve tried going out, meeting new people and dating other girls but none of them seem genuinely interested in me.<br /><br />I really don&#39;t know whats wrong with me. Am I really that undesirable as a person that nobody cares? Maybe there is something wrong with my personality? <!--emo&:hmm:--><img src='http://static.lowyat.net/style_emoticons/default/hmm.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='hmm.gif' /><!--endemo--> Nobody seems to care about me even though I care enough for everyone else. <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://static.lowyat.net/style_emoticons/default/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo--> I know I&#39;m lucky enough to have a high flying career that pays well, stable financial situation, own home, car, significant investments and I&#39;m pretty sure I don&#39;t have faceproblem. On hindsight, I&#39;m pretty sure I would be willing to give up most of these things to have a stable and loving relationship. Personal success is indeed empty and Pyrrhic if you have no one to share it with.<br /><br />Sometimes it feels as though nobody cares about me. Nobody seems genuinely interested in me and they only approach me if they need something from me. <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://static.lowyat.net/style_emoticons/default/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo--> I think this is slowly but surely affecting my self esteem and confidence. I am always having this illogical fear that I will be alone forever. I know its not true, but sometimes its so difficult to convince yourself that life is all good and a bed of roses when the bitter truth just stares you in the face. But when I&#39;m with other people I almost never show this trait. People describe me as being a confident and assertive person (maybe due to the nature of my career), but I have this personal dark side with low self esteem that I only know or am willing to share to the few whom I really trust. In reality I am a shy and lonely person deep down, even though most people don&#39;t see it that way.<br /><br />Appreciate if anyone here can give some pointers or share their experience in helping cope/solve this problem. I realize this is a problem I need to fix myself before I can scale greater heights. perdido Cupid&#39;s Corner Sat, 28 Dec 2013 07:58:36 +0800