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A Messy Partner - Can it cause tremendous stress?

BubuTheStar — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 10:46:04 +0800

Hi,

Okay here's a topic I don't know whether we have discussed before. I live together with my gf and always had a small issue with her let's say messy attitude. I am not to say a very super crazy clean person, but I like my home to be organised and neat. The problem is my gf is the total opposite.

Example will include she throwing her stuff all over the place, like her handbag, phone, plastic bags, books on the dinner table for days. Also she will do the laundry and dump all the clothes on the bed for days and just take the clothes from there to wear. I used to have a clean room to do my work, but that now too has become a place for her to dress, do make up. Of course, all her stuff is everywhere i.e. towels, makeup products, more plastic bags, the list goes on.

I have tried many times throughout the 2 years to tell her to clean up. I do most of the cleaning but if I go work outstation for a week or 2, I usually come home to a really messy place and it really stresses me out. We have had many arguments about this and she will usually get mad and say that she everthing also not good, and that she is a lousy gf.

Her own home is the same, i mean her room. It's a total mess of clothes, books, toiletries, make up. I mean i am talking about all things in a heap and you have to dig to look for stuff.

How do I stop her from saying all this things and to change her attitude? I just want someone who respects the home, and to actually give a shit about the home. Am I being too selfish as a bf? I know i should accept my partner for who she is, but this topic has been a huge issue. I have tried using hints, even pay for cleaners but the cleaners can only clean and mop and sweep, they can't do much about the messiness that is thrown all over the house.

Anyone have such a similar issue, and how did you fix it with your partner?

Conversations on Marriage with Long Term GF

BubuTheStar — Mon, 23 Jan 2017 12:58:44 +0800

Hi all you sifus in relationships.

Ok so I am starting to seriously think about getting married to my gf of 2 and half years. In general, our relationships have their normal up and downs, we are quite ok in communication and i think we both are ok with our parents side.

So I just want to ask those ppl who are happily married, what are some of the key things you really have to talk about when discussing marriage? Do you really need to sit down and write things down and if yes, what? I have some ideas like buying a house together, the marriage date, financing the marriage...what else??

Any advice is greatly appreciated...as in what did you guys really discuss about when wanting to get married? Also please note I have a slightly high fear of marriage due to all my relatives 80% are divorced, including my own parents

Extract ISO problem

BubuTheStar — Thu, 03 Mar 2016 17:10:51 +0800

Hi My sifus

I am really frustrated here, trying to extract files from an ISO. I have tried MagicISO and PoweISO but same result. When I extract an ISO that's about 7 gig, I only get 2 files that is few MB.

Can a sifu tell me what am I doing wrong? I find youtube and surf online but no answers...

PLEASE HELP!! gonna go mad adi

Thanks!!

DIY Home Lights

BubuTheStar — Fri, 30 Oct 2015 09:32:24 +0800

Hi people

Does any one have an article or know how to install your own lights at home? I love doing DIY, but lights are the 1 thing I have no clue about... any help or advice here will greatly help. Just those standard normal lights on the ceiling type...

What is marriage really about?

BubuTheStar — Wed, 07 Oct 2015 11:12:16 +0800

Hi my fellow experienced forumers who are lazy and not really working,

I'm terrified of getting married. Let me tell you why. My parents are divorced. My mum's side grandma, 4 out of her 5 kids (which means some of my uncles and aunties) are divorced. 2 even divorced twice.

Growing up in this unstable environment (personally and observing the others) has made me very negative about love and marriage. Can you really blame me?

So why is this a dilemma? I am seeing someone now and am nearing the age where marriage is something on my mind constantly. I feel like I need to settle down and not wander from relationship to relationship.

What is important to make a marriage work? How do we even start, and how to keep the spark - I get bored with sex with the same person., well not exatly bored but I kinda don't initiate it after a few months...? 90 % of my friends cheat in their marriage - whether it is going to clubs, brothels, or mistress etc... and I don't want to to things like that. I don't see any model for a happy marriage...

What's the key?

Super Ugly But Living In Fantasy Land Women?

BubuTheStar — Fri, 26 Jun 2015 09:30:00 +0800

Hi Guys

Just a light fun thread for a Friday. Have you guys/ girls met women suggested in the thread title? They are rare but I can assure you they exist. When I as in Uni, there used to be a group of us hanging out together. You know the drill, our main group..then the loose groups that form together if we go out clubbing, holidays etc.

Anyways we used to know one girl..who was unfortunately butt ugly. I mean there was nothing positive you can say like.. nice legs or nice eyes. From top to bottom was bad, plus she was fat too with bad skin. I feel bad saying this but it was true. Strange thing was she also had a very bad character and thinking she's damn hot. Always in the middle of every single drama - infighting between this person and that..all the gossip also she will take the lead and try to mediate even when no one asked her to.

Yet despite all her bad stuff she really think she is the shit. Will share with us many guys chasing her from this faculty la...another student from another uni always msg her and stalking her - that time no fb so using phone and also friendster to bomb her with msg. Sadly I really think all mad up...where go such thing?My point is maybe for some of us who are the opposite - who are actually not too bad can learn something from her. How to be so damn positive?

Anyone have a friend/ colleague like that last time or now?

To trust or not to trust new gf - Fast switch

BubuTheStar — Fri, 15 May 2015 12:01:26 +0800

Dear Experienced Forummers,

I need some short, good advice, and not some trolling shit. I met a girl a few weeks before and we started dating. So far everything is good, the usual small arguments here and there. We are quite compatible in terms of likes, simple, activities etc.

My dilemma is, before me, she was engaged to another guy overseas. They broke up and within 3 weeks she was with me. To my knowledge is they don't ever talk again and have removed each other as friends. Now, for me I'm thinking, is this girl for real, or am I just a cushion to soften the blow?

I always think we need some time before moving to another rship, at least that's how I do it. Although, some people have told me this isn't wrong, she could be really into me.

Right now I'm 50/50 on this, some parts of her shows me that she is good and serious, other part is seems like she is really rushing things, and impatient. like wanting me to buy home fast and also say I love you ( which I haven't)

What you guys think?

Dog for a Single Person No Family

BubuTheStar — Thu, 20 Nov 2014 10:03:47 +0800

Hi Ppl

Was wondering if anyone out there has experience. I love dogs and used to have one with my gf. Now that we have separated for a year or so, I really want to get another. Only thing is I fear the dog will be very lonely as I have to work, and sometimes travel every other month.

I've heard in this situation is to get 2 dogs at once. Then when I leave to work they will play with each other and have less separation anxiety.

Can I have some people advice me on this kinda lifestyle, what to expect etc. And what to do when I need to go for work overseas.

Thanks appreciate it

Lost Careers Club

BubuTheStar — Wed, 24 Jul 2013 17:58:31 +0800

Hi my fellow forummers,

Was just wondering if there are any or many out there who are in the same position as me. I'm in early thirties and kinda sitting in a boat without any steering. Every since graduation from a degree that I had no interest in (IT) I basically went from job to job without really thinking much. First was a IT programmer for a few years, then sales and marketing jobs till now. I have been working for over 9 years and still feel that I haven't really found what I'm looking for.

This type of thinking terrifies me and also many times I feel shy when ppl ask me what I do. I honestly can't tell them.. am I a marketer? Salesperson? In IT?

I guess what i'm trying to say here is how do i work towards identifying what career is best for me, when it seems I can't stay interested in something for long...
Will career consultants help as I've seen some and did all those personality tests and resume checking etc ( I'm really good at writing resumes now) but I don't seem to think it helps.

Hope some of you can relate. Would love to hear your similar stories and maybe we can set up a club or something!