My gf's mom passed away

aminpilgrim — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 13:11:59 +0800

Hi unker and kawan kawan,

In need of your kind advise about this. Last 2 weeks, my gf's mom passed away. I thought that I am at fault as I am late to pick her up and shoot straight away to hospital as her mom was dying. I could feel that she blame me for the reason of her mom's death(partly maybe).

I attended and take part of her mom funeral from A-Z. weeks later to now, she become demotivated to work, tired easily and neglecting all the resposibilities like barely living. I am trying my best to help her, from cooking to doing laundry and motivate her.

But there's one time she said to me that i didnt understand the feeling of losing the loved ones(family), eventho she knew, i lost my dad when i was 3. Its kinda hurt me in a way.

She stopped to have decent conversation with me even i try to make so as balik, makan and tidur only, rinse and repeat.

If you have anything on mind, im open with any suggestion to help her

My healing story

aminpilgrim — Wed, 17 Jun 2020 14:14:47 +0800

Hi guys, just wanted to share about my failed relationship and how i tried so hard to recover from that nightmare. And this is my first thread😅

Last 2 years, I dated one johorean girl that we both connected through social media. She's much older than me(around 2-3 years) and working as gov servant, while i just started working in private firm.

Its all good until 3-4 months later, I sensed something wrong about her. She kept comparing me with her ex, which is way better than me, from what she explained. Its like we're not even 'clicked' as couple. She kept comparing my salary to her ex,(note that, last time i have minimum degree salary) eventho i send money and present, to her,for sake of love since we both are far away( i lived in kl area).

And i always make an effort to come to jb that time, eventho i dont have a car back then. She kept belittled me in every aspect, even sex, until my self-esteem and confidences become so low. There's one time she said that to me "if you're poor, then dont fall in love" while i am making more many than hers.

She kept calling me names, calling me a kid, just because i like cosplaying and gym workout.Hell, one time, i saved up my own money to buy an iphone for her( yeah im that stupid). And the climax, she accused me of cheating, just because i have unknown number called me during our date. We broke up after that.I felt into deep depression and almost killed myself back then. I started drinking back,(which i stopped for almost 4 years). It was really a nightmare back then. Took me a year to heal a bit.

I am glad that we ended the relationship back then. It drove me to keep improving in every aspects of life. Yeah she was a muslim malay girl which is thinking to marry a royal and enjoice life.

But thank God, now im all over it. Currently dating a chinese girl which have same mindset that to improve together. We went to cosplay and workout together. I feel blessed.

For those that have similar experience, lets share how you deal with it. Kudos

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