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Picky- App to learn about skincare ingredients

Hammox — Thu, 01 Oct 2020 17:52:51 +0800

Hey ladies, just want to share a pretty useful app I found when it comes to skincare ingredients.

I am one of those who don't really know how to choose skin care products properly, as to me there's just too many out there .
Recently I had a really bad breakout after using products that contain salicylic acid, which was not suitable for me .

Its only after good friend of mind pointed out to me that the ingredient might not suit me and why it might not be, despite it actually supposed to help with breakouts, that I realize knowing about what those ingredients means on the lable really helps.

So I found out about the app Picky, which so far seems pretty good to see if the ingredient matches your skin type.
Seems to have a sound number of products in their database. And for beginner into all this like me it is very information already.

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So just leaving this here, in case can be useful for the other ladies here

FB page: Picky Facebook Page
<- also contains quite useful info on how to approach choosing skincare products

You can download Picky from the Playstore or Appstore.

Hormone imbalance -home remedies

Hammox — Thu, 31 May 2018 23:30:06 +0800

Hello ladies, i am currently having hormone imbalance/ irregular periods, they tend to come too early (twice a month) and also having spotting before that.
Used to be okay at some point but recently have this problem again.

I often here Bak Foong pills or EPO (evening primrose oil) are recommended to balance hormones, anyone have experience whether they are effective?

List of recommended reading for relationships

Hammox — Sun, 05 Mar 2017 18:17:07 +0800

I am one of those people who felt that there are actually good books that made an impact for my relationship. Just sharing what i feel that can help anyone who is still looking, already in relationship or simply want to understand people better . Anyway, what is yours?

Hope this is helpful

Books

1. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus - John Gray
Definite must read for everyone. Really helps to understand how men and women communicate differently, why misunderstanding occur and how to overcome them.

2. Conscious Courtship - Raymond Switzer
Personal favourite. Explores concept of dating tied with deeper psychology and spiritual understanding of relationships. The author is quite humorous so it's easy to read.

3. Why Mars and Venus Collide - John Gray
Like no. 1 but explains more on different stress responses by men and women and practical ways to deal with it.

4. How to Talk To Anyone - Leil Londes
Good to build social skills. It offers practical steps that you can use immediately, not theory only.

Personality Tests
5. MBTI/ 16 personalities
i like this as the analysis quite in depth about your strengths and weakness, and it doesn't view any personality as better than the other. good to gain a better general understanding on how you work best.

6. Love Language test
People express love in diferent ways, some like gifts, some prefer quality time. do this test to find out how you prefer to express and receive love. .

Web articles
7. 11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs a Man
I actually used this last time as a start to know what I want in a partner .

8. The 11 Differences between Dating a Girl vs a Woman
Like 7 but I use this for my own personal standards.

What is formal, semi-formal and smart casual?

Hammox — Sun, 15 Jan 2017 16:45:06 +0800

Hi girls, want to ask because i feel i don't have suitable attire for these categories, like a number of my dresses are not formal enough for business meetings and interviews.
What actually constitutes formal, semi-formal, and smart casual? Any guidelines?

Any recommendations for what clothings/brands should i get for those categories?

Advice on International Marriage

Hammox — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 15:05:47 +0800

Hello fellow Lowyatians,

As per title, i'm wondering if there are any lowyatians who would happen to know about technical procedures on marrying a non-Malayisan, currently i don't know where to start so....

Current status:
1. My bf is highly considering living in Malaysia, but is it possible to marry if he doesn't forgo his current citizenship and work/stay here on Visa or smth like that?
2. Where can I find information on matters related to Visa and international marriages in Malaysia?
3. What is possibly the easiest way/ method to work out an international marriage for Malaysians?

Relevant answers appreciated

11 Differences between Dating a Boy vs Man

Hammox — Fri, 04 Oct 2013 22:10:54 +0800

Have you wonder why some ppl keep getting attracted to bad guys/those who don't treat them well?

Or what should one look for in a partner if they want a mature relationship?

Here i found 2 good articles that may provide fellow forumers insights to the above questions.
Applies for whether you are looking/You are already in one/You just want to improve your own character

Disclaimer: i am not the author of these articles, they are just for sharing purpose; links/sos are in the title.

11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs Man

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When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked. You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player. I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents. Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.

“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness. Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” - Psychology Today

So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.

But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed.

I learned to love myself. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In a sense, I finally grew up. I went from being a girl to becoming a woman. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl.

A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply. Or, read this post on “The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman“.

If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it.. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.

2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life). A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.

3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.

5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.

6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.

7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.

8. A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.

10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.

*To clarify, when I’m referring to “games” I mean mind games.

and vice versa..11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman

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Recently, I wrote a post on “The 11 Difference Between Dating a Boy vs a Man“. The post can have the genders swapped and most points would still apply. However, we can’t deny that there are some fundamental differences between men and women – from how we are socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to follow up with a post on the difference between dating a girl, vs a woman. Again, many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around.

A boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman won’t ever have “girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one’s maturity and most points would also apply if you switch the genders as well.

If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.

4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.

6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.

7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

8. A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with. “A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah

9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. “After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah

10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available…

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.

Any part-time/short courses for art?

Hammox — Wed, 26 Jun 2013 23:42:56 +0800

Just want to know if there are any part-time/ short courses for basics in drawing, illustration, or graphic design?
Last time saw that Dasein offers 1 year course or some sort, are they still available?

Currently taking a management-related course (because I'm forced to ), but I still want to know if there are other options for me other than taking a long course after I'm done with my current one.

Thx in advance~

How do you know if a person is right for you?

Hammox — Sat, 25 May 2013 10:13:54 +0800

As per title.

I'm currently not in any relationship, nor will i be looking for one for awhile, but still i'm curious and would like to know.

What are the important qualities that you should look for in a life partner? And how do you know that person really has them?
Also, do you think it's important to find someone different from you?

Just want to hear uoll opinions. But, if you are already in long term/married, would appreciate if you share .