Confused but not lost..

ChrisMikie — Sat, 28 May 2016 02:08:17 +0800

Hi guys, this issue has always been wandering around my mind since ages ago, and I feel that I should post it up here for advice as I'm currently in a dilemma..

A little back story regarding my relationship:

I'm together with my gf for 4 years now, we met through our mutual friends in secondary, and got close after many interactions due to our circumstances (same co-curriculum club, activities with friends, etc). Initially I was suppose to be a wingman for my friend to approach her (since I'm close to her, thus understanding her better), and was also on a chase for another girl, sadly the latter didn't turn up well and I was harshly rejected.

I felt devastated, unconfident, and don't see a meaning in life. But during that period, my gf was very supportive and was constantly in contact with me to make sure I'm okay (she have a caring characteristic, thus these actions). Needless to say I fell in love with her as I was grateful that she was the only one there for me when no one else was (I'm not the kind of person to open my heart to people easily, thus nobody was aware of my situation, except her).

As she made it clear that she have no interest in my other friend, whom I was suppose to be his wingman, therefore I made my advancement and approach her. Needless to say, the rest was history.

Our first year of relationship was a rough journey, as I didn't open my heart to voice out my feelings, we got into constant arguments and fights, some were so serious to the point where we were on the verge of breaking up, but chose to continue as we believe there was still hope in this relationship. With her huge heart and accommodating attitude (to put up with my constant insensitive arguments, and sometimes verbal abuse), we managed to brave through that period after many Heart-to-Heart talk sessions and our commitment to change ourselves for the better in order to accommodate each other. This hard work really did paid off as we are now very happy of where we finally are, minimal arguments, disagreements are handled peacefully with rational discussion, and an outcome is always achieved to solve to problem.

However, here's the problem behind those lovey-dovey side of our relationship. Simply stated, I am not attracted to her looks. I know this sounds very ego-istic, but it's been constantly bothering me. I always have this feeling that I am capable of getting someone more decent looking or pretty.. Sure both of us have gained some weight after the relationship, but this wasn't the main factor of the problem. She was always a decent girl, just not up to my expectations.

I asked myself why has this become an issue, and it hit me that I was initially attracted to her inner-beauty, and love makes you go blind, added on to the fact that I was recently rejected by another girl at that time, made me realized that this relationship was a rebound relationship unknowingly, although the facts doesn't add up as I don't feel that way.

I have this vision of a perfect relationship, whereby as a couple, we have the same view in life, same goal, same interest, etc. A perfect couple would enjoy doing what we love together, and doing silly things in the name of love, but my current relationship is the total opposite to this. My gf is a rational thinking girl, which makes her life fairly boring, and she is not adventurous in trying anything new. Besides that, we both have literally ZERO MUTUAL INTEREST, thus anything we do is accompanying her to do the things she love, and vice versa. All our conversation topics are about life catching up session, gossiping, expressing how we really feel in certain situations, and the rest being talking cock (as all us Malaysians are professional in during mamak session).

The dilemma starts to kick in when I evaluate my relationship status. Sure the above mentioned are negative aspects, but there are positive aspects. For one, she have characteristics that are unique, she have a big heart, is caring and kind, always there when I needed someone, independent, and rational. Unlike other girls who are constantly in need of attention, manja, and having the princess syndrome, my gf showed non of this aspects, save from the over-sensitive attitude during PMS and manja-ness when we are separated for prolonged period (its in girls DNA), thus effectively making this whole rational thing a double edged weapon. She's also currently madly in love, constantly telling me how much she misses me, the cute things I do, and our marriage plans down the road.

Back to the topic, my dilemma is should I just call it off in search of someone better or stay with her for the rest of our lives? The thought of breaking up with her kills me, but on the other hand I feel that it's just a feeling of 'pity' as I can't bear to see her breaking down.. Sometimes I feel that I'm into this relationship just to show my appreciation and gratefulness of her being by my side when no one else was, as I'm not physically attracted to her, but she is definitely a wife material with her inner beauty.. Cheating is out of the question as its a scumbag move and I don't want to hurt her, she don't deserve this shit for my needs.. I don't have the heart to ask her to change who she really is (by putting make-up and making the effort to dress-up/doll-up, as she is not the kind of person who would do this, unless there is a rare special occasion that requires her to e.g. Company Annual Dinner).

I feel the need to make a decision quickly as time is running out and I don't want to waste her time and youth on me due to my indecisiveness.. (as the saying goes, girls tend to have difficulty looking for a partner once their youth is over), she is a wonderful girl and I think she deserves a wonderful life..

So dear cupids, if you were in my position, what will you do? Will you find someone better, or would you settle down?

Feel free to ask me anything for you to have an honest opinion if you are in my shoes.

Thanks for reading this post!

Best bluetooth stereo headset for iPhone?

ChrisMikie — Thu, 09 May 2013 01:50:39 +0800

So I am considering on getting a good quality headset/headphones/earphones for my iPhone since every earphone I get doesn't last more than a month... Since wires are troublesome I decided to get a bluetooth cordless headset/headphones/earphones.

I've did some brief search and these headset caught my eyes. Which is:

1. Avantree Sacool Bluetooth Stereo Headset - AVANTREE-339-SCL
Check it out here!

2. Sensonic BH100 Bluetooth Headset With Mic
Check it out here or here!

3. JayBird JF3

4. Jabra Sport

Any recommendations on where to purchase them? And if you have any other brands in mind, feel free to share.

My requirements are as follow:
1. Price not above RM200
2. Bluetooth compatibility with iPhone (Mine is an iPhone 4)
3. Good audio quality
4. Preferably with built in microphone
5. Stereo (Plugs in to both ears, better music experience)
6. Able to purchase around Selangor & KL region

Please share your thoughts, thanks !

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