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How do i get her out again? (update)

mrbarnes — Sun, 05 Jul 2020 03:20:19 +0800

Story goes, i once asked her out a couple of years back and she told me she had a bf. i took a step back.

I think she broke up a while back (late 2019). Since then, we've hung out a few times. Dinner, drink, etc. (since our offices were next to each other). Even dinner on V-day night this year, sadly we were both alone and single.

We spend a good amount of time texting during MCO, netflix parties, meme's sharing (a lot), etc.

Met up few weeks back for a long lunch + walk in mall. bid goodbyes. Was a very enjoyable "date" i'd say.

After that and I've asked her out on a second meet up but she hard pass due to weekend work, plans, yada yada. I mean i even offered to have bfast near her place, she declined due to work....

There's definite spark, chemistry between us but i can't express or speak to her face to face since which makes this a bit uncomfortable playing the waiting game.

It's still very much a 2 way communication, i'm not the only one doing all the asking/msg. Even missed a tipsy call from her last night.

i'm contemplating expressing what i feel to her via text/call. Or should i keep trying to ask her out for a 2nd meetup/date where is would be more situative?

(update)

asked her out last night again (thru a cheeky indirect way). interestingly, she was amused and said she hopes to see me again this weekend...

Will there be a better time to ask?

mrbarnes — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 23:11:15 +0800

Long story short, i work in this corporate world. Occasionally we'll have a trainee attached to our dept and team. And it's quite normal for the rest of floor to try to matchmake me with whoever walk over the door right, given i'm single lately.

This happened to the past 2 person, and now all over again with the 3rd.

I could brush off the first 2, but this time it feels very different. I'd go out and say there is chemistry and awkwardness kinda feeling in between.

As she is supporting me in my portfolio, you'd expect both of us to work very closely right. But sometimes my team and colleagues go over the top, by pointing out every time she's comes to my desk. You can actually see the smile and smirks from my colleagues.....you know those high school kinda look. It's weird, but i brush it off most of the time. I'm sure she notices it too.

We've been working late over the month, usual chat in between and stay up in the office. Send her home after meetings, kinda normal stuffs. Some of my colleagues have noticed this and start spreading rumors between us as well.

Where I'm coming at is, it's different to ask someone out knowing if things go wrong it you can avoid if its a different team or division. But this is someone i'll have to work with over the next 2 months. Things can go south real quick if the wrong question and intentions are made.

I'm all open to ask her out, so far we've hangout in a groups after work. Whenever i try to organize an outings it's been a yes.

Oh, and if you need further view on how my colleagues are. My line manager is insisting that i make a move now. zzz

Need your advice if this is the best timne to ask before the spark runs out, or wait till her attachment is over.

how to say so?

mrbarnes — Mon, 07 Oct 2013 02:10:55 +0800

so the story goes like this, i gave a gift to a girl. the gift bounce back cuz she got bf. i wanted to move on.

but then we started to talk and chat. from sorry for rejecting the gift to everyday talk....

if she see's we, next thing she chats with me

asking whether i have a gf or not

its been 1/2 a year now.

the thing is, i know she's just itching around. like how girls like to feel when they know someone likes them.

but i dont like this feeling of being played around. i know she's the girl of my dream, and i've done done crazily stupid thing for her....

but i need a clear answer. i dont care if im in the friendzone. or whatever bro-zone. all i expect is honesty and sincerity from a person.

cuz everytime she msg me, im giving myself false hope and so on. i lack self control.

so how do i explain this to her?

worth a try?

mrbarnes — Sat, 11 May 2013 14:35:36 +0800

i kena reject by this girl once d, but then she keep finding me on FB...

msg on fb la, ask come support this la, etc la......i try to forget her, but then next thing she msg on fb and chatx3

the thing is she reject me cuz got bf d, but why still contact me then?

spare tayar or dowan me feel bad?

i know asking another guys girl is bad, is a lunch also a no-no.....

i feel if i sit and talk can get better answers je.....

opinions?

rejected by her, yet she keeps coming at me.......

mrbarnes — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 16:10:12 +0800

ok, so the gift working didn't work.......got rejected. ask me not to get my hopes high.

i also went on with my life. almost got over her.

then lately she msg me on fb, asking obvious questions. giving tips for exam etc.

i thought maybe she trying to be friendly and not make me feel bad.

all this while i have been goin after her to start a conversation, now its the opposite.

can see she's looking at me in class, coming up talking la.

even advising to smile more la, etc.

then few days back, she msg ask personal stuff bout "that" night.

ask am i mad la, why i choose that particular gift, even asking me why i like her

i just reply some sense words, then put in some jokes to change topic la.

all i wanna know know is, is she just "being nice" or in a awkward way asking me to get back after her?

cuz all i do after seeing her, is acting busy and walk off......

do advice properly, i have an idea how to deal with this. but to get the society's view or maybe experience could work better.

thanks

Cake for a "stranger"?

mrbarnes — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 18:11:06 +0800

i have met this girl that im interested in, spoke to her once.......get to know name etc.

then through her friend i found out that her birthday is coming up this saturday.

so before she go back if i were to get a cake to celebrate with her this thursday night, and a couple of her friends..........

a surprise cake that is, is it a good move or a total NO.

cuz i REALLY like her, and everytime i see her its just a short "hi" or glance only

advice needed

next move ideas needed.....stuck

mrbarnes — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 16:43:48 +0800

ok, inb4 i use new account........to protect my main id, since that wan a lot of online business etc.......

so i really like this girl in one of my class, 2 weeks back i gathered all my dragon balls. went up to her, introduced myself.

then had a short chat back while i walked her back. then i asked her fb name, she gave it. before she leave she reconfirm my name again .

so i went back a happy man and added her up.

but till now no reply

i do see her from time to time, and since only 1 class i see her, all i can say is "HI" and she gives a "HI" back la.......

so she does know me, knows my name.........why not approve?

any plan B ideas how i can go up to her again?

first time already my heart like wanna blow up d.........