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OT without extra pay and replacement leave

Da Mon Sta — Tue, 05 May 2020 12:38:17 +0800

Company enforce everyone to work extra on Saturday and PH to make up for MCO in March and April.

As an employee who tendered resignation letter, how do you tell your bosses you won't work on Saturday and PH during your notice period?

Overprotective policy for buyer

Da Mon Sta — Fri, 24 Jan 2020 10:39:50 +0800

I think the culture and policy in the west that overprotect buyers is terrible and feel lucky it is not something we practice/enforce here.

Imagine selling a brand new headphone, sealed in box, buyer buys it then after open and try, feels "not as comfortable as he thought" and decide to return it and ask for 100% refund.

Imagine how much losses a business would make if every 1 in 5 customer does this.

And being a wearable goods, a brand new product is now opened, used, and unhygienic thus not suitable to be resold.

P.S. Just ranting cuz recently sold something online to someone in the US, the buyer request to return it as he claims "not as comfortable as he thought". Paypal currently withhold my fund so gotta shoot email back and forth to resolve this issue.

Business vs Employment

Da Mon Sta — Fri, 30 Aug 2019 00:16:08 +0800

Been in the workforce for almost 10 years, progressing and learning from different employers, currently at a mid managerial position.

Past few years I started running my own business, mostly online sales and personally service and attend to clients during weekends & after office hours.

Year on year, my business grew, YTD net profit already matching my YTD net salary, and past few months net profit even exceeds monthly net salary.

Therein lies the problem, I'm feeling less motivated at work, I still get my job done, but at a level of an average performer. I feel stress when I have potential client calling me but I can't pickup because I'm in a meeting at work, afraid I may lose the potential client to competitors instead.

Apart from that, I'm also sacrificing half of my personal/family time to manage my business/meeting clients, because I can only do that during weekends & after office hours.

Thought about quitting my job and see how I can further grow my business if I'm full time on it, but my fear is if one day my business market starts to decline, I'm worried about my employability is affected after taking a hiatus from the workforce. Apart from that, the idea of losing a significant fixed income also seems scary (or maybe it's just my greed).

I'm aware only I can make this decision, but I know having 3rd party opinions would definitely be helpful.

What I'm doing wrong?

Da Mon Sta — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 22:46:50 +0800

She rant about her work, her colleagues etc.

So I tell her don't worry, I know you've done your best and that's enough, don't need to care so much about your colleague, and finish work already try to relax and don't let work related stuff affect your mood.

Then she throw tantrum at me. Say I never sided her. Say I ignore her.

WTF suddenly got into an arguement, totally spoil my mood.

Hard to imagine marriage

Da Mon Sta — Wed, 06 Sep 2017 08:53:28 +0800

I'm been with J for almost 2 years, but somehow when I start thinking about the future and is she the one I wanna marry, I seem to lean towards a no.

We've been getting along ok so far, arguements are minimal. We can even go for overseas trip together.

Not sure is it just because I still not mature enough to think about marriage or is it because I think I'm so opposite of her.

I manage my money properly while she sucks at money management yet not hesitant to spend (her own money).

I like walking and exploring during holidays while she prefers a more comfortable style of holiday like not willing stay cheap accommodation and prefer shopping (but I guess it's a girl thing to have shopping as part of the holiday itinerary?)

I'm the plan ahead kind of person, have a to-do-list to fill my weekends while she basically is a lazy person and just sit around surfing the net all day.

Yes she never say no to me for pursuing my hobby or interest, but at the same time she never really ask me about it or try to know more about it. While I on the other hand, have no idea what is her interest as she just play phone and when she talks to me, its only about her workplace and colleagues. She has no particular passion or hobby so there's really no such thing as doing something we both enjoy together, she has to be persuaded to go gym or go jog with me, or when I propose some activities like badminton or bowling, she would just say ok she'll accompany me but she don't join.

I guess the reason we made it thus far is because we're good at tolerating each other? Like me accepting she likes branded stuff eventhough she's broke as long as she don't ask me to buy for her and her accepting my style of holiday itinerary as long as the room is decent and i allocated a day for shopping. But what I wonder is how long can these tolerance last before one day either one of us don't wanna tolerate anymore? What if one day I woke up and rather have someone with closer ideology to spend the rest of my life with.

She isn't like my other crushes I previously had which I was so infatuated and get nervous the first time we met. Tbh she was just someone whom I think, "ok I've been single for so long, she seems ok, why not just try it out and see where this goes". And I also believe its roughly the same for her, I think I'm not really her type but since she's also single for so long why not try it out. So I guess there no such thing as trying to rekindle a spark.

Or maybe this is what marriage is like? Me minding my own business and she minding hers, as long as we can tolerate each other then life goes on?

Just looking for some opinions and advise here, not judgement.

Woman's Breast Implant Burst on the Dance Floor

Da Mon Sta — Thu, 25 May 2017 13:20:25 +0800

Partygoers at a popular Kuala Lumpur nightclub on Saturday night were shocked after a 23-year old local woman’s breast implants burst on the dancefloor, causing chaos and confusion.

The venue, which cannot be named as investigations continue, is a popular club in central KL, and was crowded with hundreds of guests on Saturday night when the incident occurred.

According to a statement by investigators, the woman involved in the incident was a local KL resident who often visited nightclubs. A number of witnesses who were at the club spoke to local media to share their accounts.

“I was quite close to her on the dance floor,” said one male witness. “For most of the night she’d been dancing with this tall foreign guy, and the pair of them had their hands all over each other. I think they were pretty intoxicated.”

According to the male witness, the pair were quite brazen in their display of physical affection for each other. “They really weren’t shy, I saw him reach under her skirt and under her top several times. Some of the other people nearby were telling them to get a room.”

However, at around 1:30 AM, the witness recalled the chain of events that led to the breast implants bursting. “I saw the guy put his hands up her top again, and it looked like he was squeezing her [breasts]. I guess he must have squeezed too hard, because the next minute we were covered in a spray of liquid and the woman started screaming so loud we could hear her over the music.”

The woman collapsed to the ground and caused a panic amongst other guests who were on the dance floor. “A lot of people thought she’d been attacked, because her top was stained with blood,” said the male witness. The venue’s security team rushed to provide first aid and medical help was called. The venue was evacuated and closed for the rest of the night with investigators summoned.

So far, investigations into the incident are ongoing and the woman is said to be in a stable condition at hospital as surgeons attempt to repair her damaged breasts. In a preliminary statement, the medical staff offered some insights into what may have caused the implants to burst.

“We’ve found a lot of women are travelling throughout Asia for cosmetic surgery to take advantage of cheaper prices, and it appears in this case the victim has had her augmentation procedure done in Thailand. While the prices may be cheaper, the quality of the implants is often not as good, and in this case it appears some defective implants have been used.”

Surgeons are hopeful the woman’s breasts can be completely repaired, although the scars – both physical and emotional – will likely last for some time.

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Am I asking too much?

Da Mon Sta — Sat, 07 Jan 2017 19:52:45 +0800

We've been together for 8 months now, all these while, I've been taking care all our dating expenses (trips, meals, movies etc), she never showed any gesture to ask to share but once in a blue moon she does pay and treat me.

So recently we had an arguement, and since we're both working adults, I decide its time I bring this up.

I told I do not expect equal sharing, just that its nice that my other half willing to back me up on dating expenses.

Then I found out she always believed the guy should pay for everything. She said all her friends do that too, she even asked her male friends to make sure she is not asking too much when she expect me to pay and somehow her male friends are also the full chivalry kind. Guess she grow up and surround herself with this kind of environment all these while.

She mentioned that's how it is like when you're dating an educated KL girl, KL girls are that materialistic.

Even though she did put in effort to lessen my burden by letting me bring her to less expensive place or hawker stalls, her unswayed principles that a man should still pay for everything have made me decide to break up.

Planning to meet her later tonight to end it, am I making the wrong decision?

Update...

just back from finding her. The plan to break up is unsuccessful.

Honestly its so hard to think straight and objectively when talking directly with her, the decision to break up suddenly feels like a rash decision already.

She don't wanna answer whether she intend to stand by her previously said principle that guy shd pay or not, instead she kept reminding me that she nvr expected expensive meal from me and it was always ok to go hawkers if I can't afford.

She said she is very hurt when I mention I wish she can be more considerate by occasionally chipping in on dating expenses because she feels she's already very considerate by being ok with cheaper food, eat at home etc. That made me feel a lil' guilty and thus the change of decision to think further before deciding on breaking up.

Too clingy perhaps?

Da Mon Sta — Sun, 20 Nov 2016 17:48:33 +0800

Is it normal for a girl to want be involve in every part of your life?

Current situation is, she expects me to be with her all the time.

Say, during the weekend, I can't just chill and stay home, its either I go pick her up and bring her over or we go out. Else she'd think I abandoned her alone, with nothing to eat at home, unless she/me already have other lunch/dinner plans. And its not like every meal during the weekend that abandoned her, just maybe one day or half day out of the 2 days weekend. And its not like we only see each other during weekend, we see each other everyday.

Another one, say, my family have special occasion so going out for dinner, and I never invited her, she'd also think I abandoned her, she'd think I treat her as an outsider. But we're just together for what, half year? And I always bring her over to dinner with my family.

Is it normal? I mean, do girls suddenly get so dependent after being with someone? I mean, when single I don't see her starving to death cuz no one bring her out for meals, she has a car and can drive no problem, so why suddenly like can't live alone for a day?

I mean, sometimes I just get lazy to leave home, or just feel like not moving and enjoy my hobby. Is it a sacrifice I need to make for being in a r/s?

Just need help to understand.

Decision to take a break

Da Mon Sta — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 14:05:24 +0800

Am considering to take a break from my current r/s.

From my side of the story...

From the start we both know we are both very different type of person. But all these while I strongly carry a believe that no two person are completely the same and if we don't try it out we won't know, and also if we work hard enough we can understand each others differences.

One main difference is our financial management. I'm very disciplined in managing my money. I commit a fix amt for house loan, car loan, parents allowance, foreseeable future expenses etc before spending the leftovers.

Therefore I can't afford to bring her out all the time. Going out can be very costly nowadays, petrol, parking, food, and 80% of the time I pay for everything. She knows how to treat me but generally I bear 80% of our outings.

Even when we decide not to go out and hangout at each others place instead, she expects me to bring her to my place which is 4 way trip instead of 2 way if she just come over herself although its half an hour drive per way. I don't know what cause ladies to have the expectations of men making all the financial effort, mayb its influenced by friends, sisters, I dont know.

Or maybe because she just doesn't have the habit of saving. She have zero savings even after working for few years, justified by rewarding herself for hardwork and OT.

And when I don't spend time with her, she'd get mad. I've done significant restructuring of my budget, squeezing everything to the limit to have more leftovers to spend. I hangout lesser with friends, eat cheap economic rice for lunch, etc. The only thing I won't ever consider squeezing is the above said commitments.

I see myself as a stoic person, try to see the benefit in every situation, things like this push me to increase my income, push for better pay and promotion, push me to think of ideas to make money.

But no matter how stoic I try to be, sometimes when she gets mad I really feel unappreciated. I've put in alot of effort to change myself (because I know I was quite extreme in being cheap before, as commented by friends) , but I hardly see effort from her part to improve herself for the r/s.

I don't believe in the quote of "just be yourself and the right person will accept you". I believe we should grow and improve ourselves and each other for the better.

She's overall a good person, not a gold digger, she don't ask for expensive gifts, so far I've never buy her gifts cuz everything was spent on outings. She buy her expensive stuff for herself with her own money.

The only thing stopping me from seeing a future in this r/s is her financial sense.

P.S please don't quote my post cuz I might wanna delete it, appreciate it.

how long to wait

Da Mon Sta — Tue, 03 May 2016 00:03:25 +0800

we all know for the 1st date, guys will get the bill, or for most even the few dates after that.

But in today's modern society where both parties and working adults enduring the ever rising cost of living, it should be reasonable to expect splitting and sharing of bills after both sides get together and dated for a long enough period.

So the question is, how long a dating/relationship period should be b4 it is reasonable to suggest or bring up the discussion of the sharing of dating expenses?

Relationship Expenses

Da Mon Sta — Fri, 29 Apr 2016 12:45:30 +0800

Compared to when single, how much extra will a normal person in a relationship spend? How much is too much and how much is considered cheapskate? Or say in terms of % of salary, how much is too much and how much is too less taking into account you still need to pay for housing and car loan? What is the norm?

Opinion needed

Da Mon Sta — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 20:33:49 +0800

I'm deciding between staying or accepting a recent job offer.

Relevant points:
I'll be promoted in a month time, if I start serving notice I won't get the promotion.
The new job offers a few hundreds more than what I'll get if I stay and get the promotion.
Promotion in my current job happens quite fast, ie every year.
New company business activity relates to my interest although I'm not in the dept which directly runs the business.
Current job is stress, tiring, exhausting, weekdays basically no personal time, work till night go home sleep next day continue, no OT claims.

Was thinking of waiting after got the promotion but worry vacancy to join this industry won't be there anymore. I wouldn't say this industry pays very well in Msia such as OnG or Property Developer but atleast it relates to something I like.

Both current and new job is in the somewhat similar field but different job scope and function.

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Da Mon Sta — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 22:32:22 +0800

/k/ can rekomen camera? No pureview

Da Mon Sta — Mon, 03 Mar 2014 22:28:58 +0800

Hi

anyone can recommend best bang for buck compact digital camera for family vacation use? price around RM400.
I was looking at PowerShot A3400 IS and IXUS 132.

and no, my semakphone is not flagship so kenot take acceptable quality photos.

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Da Mon Sta — Sun, 02 Dec 2012 23:32:55 +0800

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Driving Instructor

Da Mon Sta — Sun, 02 Dec 2012 23:31:40 +0800

anybody know's what's the steps and procedure to qualify to be a driving instructor? like get recruited into a driving school to teach?

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Da Mon Sta — Sun, 25 Nov 2012 18:53:18 +0800

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asking a cantonese singer's name

Da Mon Sta — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 23:09:30 +0800

there's a female cantonese singer pronounce as "jeh onn kei" in cantonese, trying to search for it but no idea how is it typed in chinese characters.

Galaxy Y or W or Xperia Mini

Da Mon Sta — Sat, 03 Mar 2012 17:32:49 +0800

with budget as low as possible and not more than RM500, and mainly need for normal browsing, normal phone function(call and sms), and GPS(in case I'm lost). I'm currently looking at Galaxy Y.

But after browsing around, reading some positive and negative review of it, i come across DiGi's Galaxy W promotion.

It made me think, should I spend a couple hundred more for W, or is Y already good enough for my needs, or is there better recommended phones? do note that I'm not interested in gaming on smartphone nor am I too interested in what the camera can do, something that can operate simple apps will do fine with me.

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Da Mon Sta — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 18:56:23 +0800

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Lowyat.NET: Latest topics by Da Mon Sta

OT without extra pay and replacement leave

Overprotective policy for buyer

Business vs Employment

What I'm doing wrong?

Hard to imagine marriage

Woman's​ Breast Implant Burst on the Dance Floor

Am I asking too much?

Too clingy perhaps?

Decision to take a break

how long to wait

Relationship Expenses

Opinion needed

what is valid.canardpc.com

/k/ can rekomen camera? No pureview

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Driving Instructor

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asking a cantonese singer's name

Galaxy Y or W or Xperia Mini

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Woman's Breast Implant Burst on the Dance Floor