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Urge

careyluv — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 03:53:25 +0800

Hi All,

I am unsure whether to post this in Girl's Club or Cupid Corner or Serious Kopitiam, but decided to post it here to get more female's serious opinion.
I have sexual urge, i dunno whether it is in normal or high sex drive.

The thing that is bothering me is, i do not know how to release it in a healthy way. I meant since i am small, my religion, background, and surrounding ppl certainly despised ppl who engaged in ONS, or to cincai sleep with any guy. N i do not have a bf. I do not want to find a bf just for sex.

I actually quite in awe of some of my frens who can know some guys, after some time, sleep together. N then move on, and know another guy again, and sleep again, and move on after that. For me, our culture dun encourage such open relationship.

My question is, I need help and advise, on how to control these sexual urge?
I know some will suggest masturbation, i tried b4, but I dun reli enjoy it. I want a guy, but deep down, i know i don't want to with just any guy, because after doing it, i'll cry and look down on myself.

So, i want to read other's female's opinion on how to control own's sexual urge when one is single.
Serious opinion/advise, no troll please.

2 EA form

careyluv — Wed, 18 Mar 2015 22:04:42 +0800

Hi all,

I just want to ask I just received 2 EA form. 2 also Bagi Tahun Berakhir 2014.

Company A: left the Company Dec 2013. Company B: Start working there April.

The company A EA form is mostly TIADA at all the column , except for the column Tip Kasar, Elaun -Elaun lain where there is the amount of rm20.00

Can i just ignore the Company A EA form since it is just a blank paper almost, n just pass up the Company B EA form.

Pls advise. thx.

Banking background check

careyluv — Thu, 03 Apr 2014 16:02:41 +0800

I went for 3 times interview, and the assistant manager as well as the manager seems 90% want to hire me. And i also pass the test the 3rd time i went, some computer test. The assistant mgr told me that i pass the test. I have to sign some consent letter about background check. They told me they'll call me 1 month later, even show me where i'll be sitting. N 1 month have pass.

I understand financial institution have strict requirement/rules/regulations and they need to do intensive background checking, but my question is:

a) why the background check takes such a long time? Need to go to every University that i have attend, need to go to every company that i work at? If the university/workplace sudah tutup, then how?

b) if i fail my background check, will the HR of this company or the background check company inform me?

I don't think i'll fail the background check, but it's been over 1 month. I keep thinking what mistake have i written at the application form, makes me worry a lot. Some of my ex-Company already change name or maybe not in service anymore, i'm not sure.

Can any bank HR and those who know this background check procedure let me know is waiting over 1 month is normal, and whether the company will let me know if i fail the background check, and what is being check in all this background check stuff. Thank you very much, all your info will hopefully make me less worry.

Dealing with collegues

careyluv — Sat, 05 Oct 2013 16:34:54 +0800

Hi,

I really need some advise on how to deal with this issue. It really bothered me a lot that i cried in the car on the way home after work. I have work for 17 years, certainly not a fresh grads. In my 17 years of working experience, I've deal with tons of work, i'm fine with this. I've deal with difficult colleague, i can just ignore him/her, it's ok. The problem now is i change to a complete new industry, work here for 6 months d, in a senior position. I dunno much about this industry. When i 1st come here, as a newbie the 1st few days, everyone seems ok with me. After the 1st week, everything change. A gang of ppl start to masam muka with me, when i try chit-chatting with them, they either ignore me or just 1 answer reply me.

If they're from other dept, i dun even care. But these r the ppl i've to see everyday. They can really masam muka with me, n completely ignoring me. I feel so sakit hati. I can only assume they dislike me, maybe coz i dunno much about this industry yet i get a more higher position than them. That's the only reason i can think of. How to deal with this? I dread seeing them everyday from Mon-Sat. I tried be nice to them, offering them to ride on my car when it's raining, all i get is masam muka and no reply from them. If it's just 1 person hostile/dislike me, i can accept it, but it's like one gang of ppl. I can't change job because of this, i need the $. At my age, to change a job and getting the same pay isn't easy.

I do not want to confront them, will create more problem. I do not want to tell my superior this issue, if my superior ask the others whether they're hostile to me or dislike me, it will backfire, all this will create more problem. Previous job all no problem for me, i can deal with many of the problems. But this new company with the few ppl who dislike/ignore me, really affect me a lot. I know i can't control what ppl think or say about me, that i can only control my response/my thought/my reaction, but imagine if everyday have to meet with them, i can't be so positive anymore. Pls advise me how to deal with this few ppl in same department as me, that i've to see everyday. Their muka masam, one word reply, ignoring me, never ajak me go lunch or other work activity, affect me a lot. Thanks.

Michelle Lazar brand, heard b4?

careyluv — Mon, 08 Jul 2013 12:11:22 +0800

Hi,

The beautician used a machine to scan my face, the surface is dry while inside the skin is really very oily. She told me that I've dehydrated skin, dry outside and oily inside, and recommend me to only use serum (which is water-base) as a moisturiser. My question is, anyone used this brand, is it good? And using only serum or ampoules as a moisturiser, is it sufficient? Coz if use moisturiser, it'll make my skin more oilier, that's what she said.

How to have appetite n gain weight

careyluv — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 17:41:56 +0800

My height is 160 cm and my weight have gone down to an alarming 35Kg. Looks like a walking skeleton. I know the way to gain weight is eat, eat n eat. But most of the time, i dun have the appetite. I look at the noodles, n i only end up eating 50% of it, i look at the rice and i throw half of it. If normal ppl can many types of food, i can only eat 50% of the food coz i'm allergy to seafood, spicy food n i've skin sensitive problem also. Sometimes i try to force myself to eat more, end up i throw away the food. I think i'm nearly anorexia stage where i really looks like a skeleton, all bones and no meat. Pls help n advise.

How to deal with ppl

careyluv — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 03:21:28 +0800

Hi, everyone. This isn't issues about love, just dunno where is more suitable to post it. Kopitiam isn't a suitable place to post it, RWI forum is not suitable also. Since it's related to my emotions/feelings, i'll just post it here and hopefully can get good advice from all the brothers and sisters here. The ppl whom i dislike refers to my relatives. U dun have to meet up with your enemy or even your ex, dun have to c them for your entire life, but relatives isn't the same. Gatherings, family dinners, or even funeral, have to meet up with them. Some ppl say just ignore or dun care, but sometimes can't ignore entirely.

I dislike my uncle and his family. He n his family too dislike me. It's a long story why we dislike each other. Story about kena backstabbed and kena betrayed. I try really hard to avoid them, but how many times can avoid, coz sure will meet up. My uncle n his family sama-sama is united dislike me. My family pulak, only me dislike them. My dad will go out with my uncle, my brothers will go out with the uncle's children sometimes also. I dun mind my family members is close with them, coz i dislike them myself but i dun stop my family from being close with them. I'm not asking my family members to support me sama-sama dislike them, but some of my family members dun understand n dunno the entire story why i dislike them, n my own family members will said that i crazy lahh, that i'm sensitive lahh, said y i'm like that lahh.

I happily share with my family members my own personal story but my family will tell to the relatives some of it also. So, my personal things also will be known by my relatives. It makes me dun tell much to my own family members nowadays. I've been thinking to go overseas to avoid relatives n also to avoid my family members, coz when i'm overseas, my family won't know much about me, n they can't tell much to the relative also. But i'll miss my family too much, so this extreme measures is something that i'll just think, n not really go overseas.

I dun wanna explain to my family members, coz they dun n won't understand completely. For example, i kena bite by the snake, i really afraid of the snake. N my family members is not the one whom kena bitten by snake, they'll just selamba said nvm lahh, why i so afraid lahh, this lahh, that lahh. So it's really no use to explain anything to my family members. The only thing to do is control my emotion, which i sometimes fail to do. When my family members already plan/confirmed go out with me, but last minute want to go out with the relative whom they know i dislike, i can only black face n didn't go out. At last my family just go out with the relative. Many times i already ignore n dun care. But somehow my things still will be known by my relatives.

I just hope i dun have to meet the relatives forever. I just hope my stuff/my things won't be known by ppl whom i dislike. I really hope so. But i know can't avoid. I didn't go to a family gathering, my family already tegur me. I tried letting go sometimes, try be happier, but knowing i can't avoid these ppl whom i dislike forever, makes me dunno what to do. I woke up middle of the night, coz thinking of this relatives issue, it's really bothering me. N my own family members pulak not very understanding n all very close with the relatives. Any good advice, pls, pls.

I c some ppl or frens, they'll just openly scold or tegur the relatives on FB, or tell the ppl they dislike to GTFO. But i'm not that type to be so agressive. I also dun wanna tell my family members about my issue coz i know i'll end up begging n at the same time crying in front of them while explaining the whole story/situation to them, n begging them not to say a word anymore about me to the relatives. Just advise me.

Oil seed removal/dry skin issue

careyluv — Wed, 05 Sep 2012 05:53:07 +0800

Hi,

I've dry skin both on my face and legs. For this few months, i tried various facials and also many type of moisturisers. Some of the beautician put fruit acid on my face resulting in more drier face as well as open pores problem. N now because all the type of moisturisers i am using, many oil seeds grow beside my nose. Maybe those moisturisers too rich.

So, my question is, how to remove all this many oil seeds? To look for beautician/beauty saloon or to c DR? I dun want to undergo laser, just want them to remove using needle. N which saloon/DR to c n may I know the price? I hope there won't be scar. These oil seeds makes my face appears so rough.

N the 2nd question is, what type of good moisturiser that I can use that can moisturise my face without causing oil seed? I've tried various samples of moisturisers but still caused this problem. Is it to stick to just using face essence or to use water based moisturiser, any brand to recommend? I'm also searching for a good sunblock/sunscreen that don't cause too much oiliness to my face, coz using sunblock on top of those moisturiser surely make my face more oily.

N the last question is, i used Johnson&Johnson body lotion on my leg/arms/hand, n i notice more small red dots appearing, some have grown a bit bigger and become a mole. Now really many red dots on my hands/arms. I'm unsure whether the body lotion causes this, coz b4 i start using this body lotion, i dun face such issues. Any good body lotion to recommend?

I'm really desperate for solution for my oil seed on face, dehydration which caused pigmentation becoming worst, n red dots on my hands/arms. Hopefully forummers have some good advice/recommendation. I'm not lazy, i'm very willing take care of my face, but the more i care for it, the worst it've become. In this 2 months time, from no big pores and no oil seed, and now so many oil seed n open pores, really sakit hati. Thx for reading, pls advise, thx. Anyone experience oil seed removal b4, is it safe with no scar? Pls help.

Oil seed removal and dry skin issue

careyluv — Tue, 04 Sep 2012 06:39:43 +0800

Lorry License

careyluv — Mon, 14 May 2012 13:21:16 +0800

Hi,

My bro have license D. Now wanna get a lorry license to become lorry driver for his company. Is it go for GDL or E license? Does anyone know good/reliable driving institute/academy around Cheras? Thx.

Does a bf/gf's morality, his friends...

careyluv — Tue, 31 May 2011 15:20:49 +0800

Hi everyone,

Would like to seek for forumer's advise/experience/views on this issue. Let's say you're from a decent family background, good education, mix around with type of friends which have no bad influence, and then u've a bf/gf which are totally opposite from you. Bf study till primary level only, mix around with friends which is all smokers or gamblers, talk in foul language, and go to hookers type of fren, yum char till late night, go pub frequently. My bf have quit all this bad habits. His family background also entirely different from mine. Most of the guy in his family have also find hookers in the past and some still do so now.

My question to all is, to guys or girls also, would you accept a bf/gf's immorality past? Such as finding hookers or sleeping randomly with anyone. Is morality important in a relationship? Can you accept such difference in family background in terms of family value, different view of morality? Can you accept your bf/gf's circle group of friends which always talk in foul language, man who go to hookers, go pubs, and cheat on their wife? Will really appreciate if some can comment based on their own experience. M I a bad person for minding bf's past and mind his friends/family background? Coz it's just really very very opposite from mine. Thx.

Does a bf/gf's morality, his friends...

careyluv — Tue, 31 May 2011 15:08:13 +0800

To accept or no?

careyluv — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 15:20:56 +0800

Hi, fellow forumers

Hope those experience similar issue or mature lowyat-tians can provide me with some useful guidance. This guy around 30, around same age with me. Have known him for quite some time, but now only both have feelings for each other. He's the type very straight forward. If he likes you, he'll tell you 'this is whom am i, you can see it for yourself, and u already know me for quite some time, and thru my frends, u can c for yourself what kind of guy i am'. Yeah, i've known him for quite some time, and now getting to know more of him.

He's not handsome and not rich. He's the Tai Lam Yan (ego) kinda guy. He'll however provide financial security to the woman he loves. He is not the romantic type, won't go extra effort even during wooing/early stages. He won't say anything romantic, won't buy movie tickets but will ask/request the gal to buy nearby if the gal if free, and if the gal ask him 'do u miss me/love me' those of questions, he'll tegur the girl letting the gal know that this type of question not to ask coz he's busy most of the time, and if he reply 'dun miss much, or am busy, so dun miss much', this kinda ques, for him, will create unhappiness or can cause arguement, so he thinks better dun ask such question.

He's the real man kinda guy. Dark, tough looking, ah beng on the street kind of looks. But girls like him, even some previously ask him to be their bf. Reason is he's quiet when out even in pubs, his frens will be noisy or taking advantages of other girls, but he won't take advantages of the gals. His ex likes to drink so much that after a few chances, he dump her. Even that pretty lady begged him, also no use, coz he gave chance already and that's it. He pursue a gal previously, and when he find out that she's using him for his $, he straightaway ignore that gal and dun want waste anymore time with her. Even that gal find him back, he'll also just say hi/bye.

He's the loyal and very honest type of guy. Will provide financial security to the gal. But he smoke and socialise a lot, too much. He said he will try cut down smoking. He yum char almost everyday till late, clubbing/pubs once a while and with relatives if he's not with frens. I believe communication is extremely important while to him, no need communicate much, as long 2 ppl happy together, that's all. But he willing to talk to if i want/insist to. Most time, even during early stages, he'll prefer go out in groups or with his frens even though i told him i prefer alone time with him. He emphasized a lot on his job and won't take off days to teman anyone also. I'll suggest a masak-masak session with him one public holiday, and he said dun want work that day to go Genting with his family/relatives.

He have told me b4 that he is not like those other guys who will do extra effort to the gals. He said he is like that. He won't give 100% time or effort just for a girl. He said that his life has work, frens, family. N as long as he's good/ not bad to me, then I should feel enough d. Gals do stick with him coz he's no nonsense/bullshit kinda guy, and is very honest guy. Things like movies, if he dun want watch that movie that u wanna watch, he'll tell u and hope u dun ask him to watch it.

My fren said 'He's not handsome, he's Tai Lam Yan. U like honest, loyal, responsible, ambitious kinda guy, there's many out there. Just your fate have not reach yet. They ask me just reject him coz love and passion will die after some time, and what's left after that, is to compromise/tolerate each other's behavior. Fren said if I can't accept his Tai Lam Yan, his way of socialising now, later lagi susah for me. Should I change/tolerate because of him? He ask me be his gf, he said he won't treat me bad, he'll provide financial security to me, he can't fight but if i'm being disturbed, he'll try his best protect me. He said he'll do what a man will do. His manly behavior is one reasons he's attractive to many gals. He dun beg gals for love, if gals want him back, normally it's the gals who'll do the begging.

He dun believe in LDR, he'll say no b4 even start the relationship. If the gal just broke up with her bf and be with him, and she's pregnant with the other guy's bb, he also won't accept such a gal. This is just examples that he's straight forward, dun play with love kind of guy. Even though he love me, he said that if I dun want give birth, he said he also will let me go and say bye-bye to me.

I m just confused. Both of us love each other. Should I just accept him or reject or how? To accept him, i know that i'll be taken care of in a few important aspects. But will have to tolerate his many unacceptable habits to me, such as always going out late, he who prefer spending time with others, his egoistic attitude. N also have to go thru with him supporting him to quit smoking. To reject him, sakit hati pulak. Scare nxt time there won't be such a loyal/reponsible/honest/amibitious type of guy, and me not that young anymore.

Even he not rich, he always finding ways to improve himself financially. He won't pujuk gals, and if gals demand/complain much, he'll also tegur or tick off that gal. I've communicate/talk to him about his lifestyle/attitude. He'll tegur me saying that as long as happy, dun complain/demand much, that it won't be healthy for a relationship. N he add he'll try cut down the smoking habit.

Early stages should be a more romantic type of feelings, but he won't put extra effort, he is who he is. He already said from beginning, and up to me whether to accept or not. He's in his prime 30's, he won't have hard time to find another girl because of his manly attitude and his financial status will grow as he is older because of his ambitious sikap. I willing to be with him ups and downs also coz he's the type who'll strive hard, and i like him coz of his loyalty (even though he looks at gals most of time and won't feel sorry/bad even though u tegur him that he looks too much), honesty, responsible guy.

I dunno, feeling very confuse. To accept or not. I like some of his sikap, and dislike/hate/can't accept some of his. Should I change myself to be more acceptable or how? Advise needed , thx for reading, thx a lot.