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SwooshY — Fri, 24 Dec 2010 04:32:00 +0800

I'm sick of myself repeating back my comments when I'm in heartbreak/suicidal threads
Rather pinpoint my thread to reply easier and save some time from typing out recycled words.

Before you stumble this page in Cupid's Corner LYN..

You might felt this few hours ago: You feel the rush of blood on your cheeks when your special one said "breakup, it's over, we can't continue on, I don't want to be with you" etc. Heavy emotions are beginning to flood within you. Anger, betrayal, frustration and sadness all bundled into a single blow to your face. Whatever the reasons are for the breakup/rejection that you faced, you managed to stay in a good physical condition and you turn to Cupid's Corner for some relief/soothing.
Common breakups & rejection factors include: financial instability, love feel good period had ended, you are not his/her choice to be together with, parental objection, 3rd party spannar, insecurity, lack of trust, infidelity etc.

@ You managed to keep yourself fine to even read until this sentence. Hence, keep it that way. Suicide is not an option for you to consider would it do justice to consider you are at tip top health and decide to end your life compared to a patient who is struggling to keep 1 more minute to be alive. You don't need to be another 14th floor base jumper and land on a car roof.
@ Crying is okay, let's say you are walking around KL's busiest streets and you cried. It's fine to cry out irregardless of where you are, you had cried before when you were a baby hence crying is an acceptable act.

@ Stay positive in your thinking. Some things you may overlook like taste, feel or even listening. Won't you miss listening to music? Having your favourite food?

@ Rejection or breakup is one of outcome as opposed to success. You don't expect all stories to be happily ever after do you? Centuries of men and women had heartbreaks too and there is always a silver lining after a dark storm
@ Memories aren't erasable as you wish. The brain is a super-memory-storage and multi-functioning compared to our computer's HDD. A short term gesture that you can do is to remove items related to your new ex. Gifts, pendants, rings, facebook status, you name it.

@ Consider venting out in here, Cupid's Corner with sufficient details and click & read up on this thread HOW TO GET OVER A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP, Post all "getting over" advice here (Serious) by Baronic http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/700051
to lick your wound. Summed up from Baronic's thread (main points, hence easier to comprehend Baronic's words):
- step 1: to decide to forget/weighing pro and cons
- step 2: decide/accepting what is in mind
- step 3: taking action on what you had decided/what to do
@ Initiative must be taken by you, avoiding is futile as you will have to re-face your sadness and overcome it by yourself eventually.

@ Other activities you can ease yourself with:
vacation, gardening, praying, doing what you had neglected/lost progress before, hangout with friends, finding a new hobby, spending time with family & siblings, pouring out and reaching support with your bestie buddy . Any activity to occupy your time and letting go your ex/rejected person.
@ Depend on how long it takes you to got back to stable state, you can start all over again with a refreshed view on yourself. You might have learnt something from the previous relationship/failed courting. Widen your social circle and know more men/women, instead of harping on a single person who might not respond to your
Avoid starting a new date too soon, don't victimize the next guy/girl to be a rebound and to be sad as you are now.

@ Restarting over:
My thread for guy: http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1638219
My thread for girl: planned for later writing for CC and ask somebody to post it at GC

@ Each relationship is like a new branch in a tree. If it wilts, I suggest you to move on to another branch instead of harping on the damaged part. You are like a tree, each day is a new day!

FAQ:
1. Is it really over?
Life is a branch of possibilities. Break up doesn't mean the end, you might patch back when you are 1 week away, 2 years broke up or 50 years apart.
2. I'm feeling suicidal..
Remind yourself that you lived until today and plead with yourself not to end your life at this instant. It's never the end.

*Disclaimer: Each person is a different individual. The above are generalized and TS shouldn't be held responsible if you have prolonged depression, in which you should seek professional qualified psychiatric medical treatment.

-Going to improve on this from time to time, will skim through comments in baronic's post to improvise.
-Thread will be used as my "reference" thread for breakups rejections from 29 Dec!
Update : page 17/73 reviewing as of 29th December 2010

Cool Story Bro!

SwooshY — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 19:07:36 +0800

Shouldn't it be cerita dingin, bang instead of cerita sejuk, bang?

U rokok yg dingin ke atau yg sejuk punya lol

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Baby guide to be the man struck with cupid arrow

SwooshY — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 06:42:26 +0800

I'd like to contribute to cupid's corner since most of my time is spent here. Intend to write a 101 guide to love & relationships for guys with slight motivation to try for a 'pinned up thread'.

Intro

Love and courtship is such a bi**h. Since teenage years, I had been flabbergasted, why we don't have a manual on how to chase girls and why are they reacting so differently than we expected them to be?

In a full cycle, I had crushes with the fairer sex, right up to tertiary life and working life, love didn't come easily as I seen in other guys. Among my thoughts are, "he and his girlfriend are so together and loving", "why am I being alone, I had tried to chase this girl and she didn't respond", even to the extend of receiving "let's be friends" reply etc.

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Credits: Tetsuhighrose's Daily LI. Will ask his permission soon.

Today, I came to provide the conclusive answer:

YOU HAVE NOT INITIATED THE "SPARK" NEEDED TO START THE RELATIONSHIP AND YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE "RIGHT" CRITERIA TO BEGIN/PROGRESS WITH

Guide-made-easy

I'd may be generalizing but put this in your mind:
1. Life is unfair to begin with. There are rich people and there are the poor, it's not fair for all and inequality exists.

2. There are no single fix-it-all pick up line to get the girl that you want.

3. Most of men aren't auto born with charm/know-it all on how to get girls, all had started at somewhere at some time and space at different condition.

4. Men and woman think differently. Given a catalogue of Triumph underclothings, men tend to look at the models external features like breast, facial looks. Women would notice on the undergarments, the patterns, the emotion of the models and spots the accessories like earring/necklaces/braces.

5. You can get any girl you want, you are the initiator, to do things first. Adam was created before Eve. However, there is no perfect guarantee on her to have the same depth of with you as you both progress.

Before I continue on, I place these as excellent read up threads.

A. 5 Ways to Let a Girl Know You're Interested In Her, with none of this "confessing" nonsense (n00b13)
http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1111256
B. Enough Whining Already, THIS is why you fail (spunkberry)
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1601822
C. How to get the girl you want!, Yes, the secret is here (silverhawk)
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/991149

Rule of thumb:

* What are you looking for? A girl or wife or without any strings attached affair? Know your aim before you get started.

* Being nice is not good, but being a gentleman with charm and grace is good.

* Make the eye contact, smile if you must and start approach. You fail to approach, then that's it, you had failed to spark anything. Same thing applies if you took too long/cowardly don't dare to go near to talk or to establish physical proximity. The ladies love a man who will move forward and progress, not a shy boy.

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* Okay, this is the time you read on the ABC thread, good quality threads My add on, the general example.

I meet a lady at (anywhere suitable). We had eye contact, exchange smiles and I approach her. Breaking the ice, hi whatever and (this is where your creativity/social prowess should shine, a light hearted joke would work wonders).

Part ways and ask for her numbers/email or fb address. Some of the "seducer community members" recommend all these actions should be less than 5 minutes, from meeting to getting contacts. No doubt you may be scared but if you don't approach, you will lose the chance for life.

Chat, socialize and initiate the meet up. The meet up can be in a light manner, such as getting to know you more over tea/coffee or attend social events/doing something.

This is where spunkberry's thread will help you, being nice is unattractive enough. Present yourself well, have a standard of your own, read more in silverhawk's thread. Physical contact is another hurdle like the first time you try and approach this girl, mentioned in n00b13's thread. Humans bond with each other socially with physical contact. Avoid mundane topics and it's not necessary detail your work to extremely fine detail. You can be daring with the topics itself.

* During this whole process, it's better not to "submit" easily to the girl with CONFESSING (more in n00b13's thread). It's too early to do so, remember we love some challenges and value of an item depreciates if it was too easily attained. So, know your own market well!

Ending

Each female is uniquely different. There is no single direct "cure" for everything. Should you follow this guide and the lady responds coldly to you, it could mean that you appear as too pushy, uninteresting or too rushy. Being calm, confident, charming and unperturbed is the best.

She might be having a rough day like being fired from boss, having premenstrual aches and many other possible reasons. Keep on trying with more woman and improve on yourself each time, be positive with it and go easy.

That's the end of this guide, with , SwooshY.

Comments/constructive flames are welcomed, with some edits . Errors/misconception made in this thread is sincerely regretted. If this appear as blogging then I accept the decison of this thread to be closed by baronic/other mods

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What do you think about maturity and relationships

SwooshY — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 05:33:25 +0800

What do you think of maturity level between the guy and gal with relationships..? What are the effects, in your opinion, what do you seek from partner's maturity level? I read with interest from tatsumaki's quote from http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1542247
[Be Myself or ?, ~Roll in ppls, need serious opinion~ (Advice Wanted) ].

Tatsumaki, if you are reading this, this quote is

QUOTE(Tatsumaki @ Aug 28 2010, 10:39 PM)

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Scenario:
1. guy is immature, the girl mature
2. guy is immature, the girl also immature
3. guy is mature, girl isn't
4. guy is mature, girl is mature

Best if you include your views from your broken/current relationship compared to the scenarioes & how long did it last, or someone who can define me a matured relationship with matured attitude or what is matured to you as a guy/girl..

I had scenario 2 and 3 during schooling days and tertiary days - the relationships didn't last long at all
And I had scenario 4. but the girl is an ex now (I know I'm a heartbreaker, I had made many decisions with her and it felt compellingly right to break with too, a mutual break )

Add on: I'm not too sure of myself as mature or immature. Though my other half would claim me as the latter but when it comes to relationship problems, I would be the one who's calm and open to discuss (She'd might be displaying negative emotions while I remain neutral )