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Marriage regrets

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 02 Feb 2024 14:37:30 +0800

From some of the threads here, I have seen some comments saying they themselves, their friends, colleagues and relatives regretted marrying.

Is the concept of marriage slowly losing its meaning in modern times?

What are some examples of marriage regrets that you guys can share here?

Edit: To put in context, I am currently looking to date for a long term relationship with view to marriage. But reading some of the comments here which discourages marriage as notion overall somewhat put a doubt in my mind. Is marriage needed after all if we disregard the legal impact on the children?

Which is more important starter in relationship?

Imaginebreaker — Wed, 31 Jan 2024 14:26:06 +0800

Recently, I had a lunch with a girl I met via a dating app. The whole conversation was basically like a job interview on me.

1 standout question was 'What are my goals for the relationship?'

After that, I was wondering whether trying to know a person's character better has taken a backseat compared to have common goals for the relationship in current times.

I feel knowing the character of the person is really important because for all the goals he/she can spout, it can be all worthless if there is no credibility.

Sugar baby v Rental girlfriend

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 05 Jan 2024 10:50:17 +0800

Can anyone share what are the pros and cons of getting a sugar baby v a rental girlfriend?

I am at a point of giving up on actual relationship. I am now just a desperate man trying to throw money at the problem.

What are the benefits of a marriage?

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 29 Dec 2023 14:35:23 +0800

Can anyone advise from a legal point of view the benefits of being married?

The obvious ones are for will-writing purpose, joint-account for insurance claims and able to apply loans/services under spouse name when needed.

I will probably be #foreveralone unless there is a strong motivation to get married to gain substantial benefits.

Becoming a baby as I get older

Imaginebreaker — Wed, 24 Jul 2019 14:40:36 +0800

As days go by, I am becoming more and more like a baby. I make baby sounds, treat other people like babies, whinge like a baby amongst others.

Does anyone else undergo the same transformation?

Is texting a must when chasing a girl?

Imaginebreaker — Thu, 01 Jun 2017 21:51:27 +0800

Here's my story. I have known this girl for 5 years but seldom see or text each other after we left college.

Recently, we met up during a yum cha session with our group of friends. I asked her out and we had a lunch date a month ago.

After the lunch, I texted her to ask her whether she would like to have lunch again in the future and she say she is ok as long as she is not busy.

After that, I did not text her to chat on random topics or asked how's her week etc.

Is this a bad move from me? I feel awkward to chat girls up with random topics especially on daily basis.

Would the long absence of contact affect my chances? I do plan to ask her out again next week.

Knowing whether the girl is interested

Imaginebreaker — Wed, 10 May 2017 16:37:31 +0800

Hi guys,

I am in this group of friends and I am interested in one of the girls. I would just like to ask her out for a date.

I am planning to get my best friend (guy) to ask her what does she thinks of me as she is close to my best friend (best friend is attached so no issue there).

My only concern is I would not want to risk the friendship if she finds it awkward later on.

Are there other ways to go about this without ultimately risking the friendship?

I would gladly move on if she's not interested for a date with me.

Crap service provider + Crap customer = ?

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:27:36 +0800

I am really fed up with being a service provider. Its bad enough when I know that I am not doing my job well enough. The customers are rub*ish also.

I want to become a good person

Imaginebreaker — Thu, 25 Apr 2013 14:01:38 +0800

I would like to get rid of all the worldly desire within me. Especially my obsession with money. I don't want to become a monk as I would need to shave my head. Would prefer someone cool like the Jedis. Anyone managed to do that here?

Twilight mess me up

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 09 Nov 2012 13:21:57 +0800

I am currently facing two groups of people. On one side, its the vampire side with all the beautiful people there but I know they are materialistic bloodsuckers. On the other, the werewolf side where the people looks friendly and funny but anytime they can backstab me and hang me to dry. How to survive among these creatures?

Is becoming parent consider ambitious these days?

Imaginebreaker — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 14:38:19 +0800

I got 1 friend. He said he is not an ambitious person. He just wants to have a family, one son and one daughter. I said, "Are you f**king serious? Firstly you gonna lose your freedom and secondly, it's one million bucks for each child." So it got me thinking, is it ambitious to become parents these days?

How much you give your parents?

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 18:35:23 +0800

My mum demanded me to give her 500 bucks every month from now or else she will halau me out from the house. How much usually you give your parents?

How low can you go?

Imaginebreaker — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 16:21:38 +0800

I did a disgusting thing a few days back. I went and sh*t at one of the outer corridor of a shopping mall. Anyone has better 'achievements' here?

I want to be gila

Imaginebreaker — Wed, 04 Jul 2012 15:01:21 +0800

I just want to be insane so that I don't have to think of problems in my life and be stressed out. There is no hope in life

I am a bad guy

Imaginebreaker — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 15:23:00 +0800

I woke up one day and realised that I am a bad guy. It is my true self all along as I was definitely denying it at the early stages in my life. Should I be my true self or put a fake persona in appearing as a good person to others? Is there a place in the society for me?

Love of a loser

Imaginebreaker — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 21:46:54 +0800

Hi people,

I have recently met a girl in a part time study class. We attend the class every weekend. The thing is she has a ring on her left middle finger which I'm not sure whether is an attachment ring. She's also always texting on the phone which makes it highly probable that she's attached. Update: She has a bf

Being the loser that I am, I have failed in my past attempts to date girls. However, this time, I'm not sure what has gotten into me, I do not want to give up without even trying. Spanar-wise, I have plenty at home and prefer using it to fix pipes. How should I throw myself into the hat to compete with her current partner? Update: You know what, scr*w this, I'm just gonna spanar this. Like what belowaverage said, do first, think later.

Previously, I've had this loser mentality of having a stable job, nice car and all those bla bla bla rubbish before getting a girlfriend. Its time that I show some courage. Give me some hope please!

How to undo a stolen heart?

Imaginebreaker — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 14:51:03 +0800

Hey lowyaters, I need some advice here. What can you do to be normal back when you start to fall for someone? I have not been in a relationship before and I don't intend to have one for the foreseeable future. The thing is I use to have silly crushes on girls last time but I know that is due to the hormone effects. However, I thought its the same this time with this lady. But the damn thing has not gone away and the fellow's image keeps popping out now and then. Then I know sudah kena her 'trick'. I have seen advices such as 'get busy with work', 'avoid seeing her' being given in lyn but I think thats just running away from the whole situation. I don't want to spoil the current friendship with this girl because of my impure thoughts. Any philosophical advice, love?