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Seeking clarification with A Levels

prelude23 — Fri, 17 Jan 2020 12:55:24 +0800

Wanna seek clarification in this matter.

Understand UK government has decoupled AS and A2 in their A Levels qualification in 2017. Which means AS result doesnt contribute to the overall A Level result.

https://www.cambridgeinternational.org/prog...els/uk-changes/

I'm just wondering if this is applicable in Malaysia as well. Appreciate if anyone who did A Levels this few year can help me.

Thanks.

Anyone still awake?

prelude23 — Mon, 04 Nov 2019 04:05:54 +0800

Anyone still awake? I just wanna talk cause I'm feeling really depressed right now.

Whatever happen is as follow:

I grew up in a strict family. My dad was a disciplinarian. Typical Asian dad who put a lot of emphasis on my studies. Whenever my grades were bad, I was caned and hit. I would not said that he physically abuse me but yeah, this was his way of making sure I excel in my studies. He was really this strict to me and my sister. It was harsh love growing up. My dad was uneducated so he wanted us not to follow him. I knew he did all these because he love us but its just the way he did all this was harsh. I learnt all the curse words from him which says a lot. However, my dad provided well for the family in term of resources. We were never financially lacking and he gave us the best that he could.

When I was 12, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and he left us after 2 years battling with the illness. It was a very devastating period for me and my family. The good thing is that he accepted Christ during his sickness. Though I went to church since young, our family was never a Christian family. So after he left, I went into a rebel mode. My mom could never control me because I was never scared of her. I was scared of my dad. My grades dipped dramatically and a lot of shit happened to me during that time. My dad left use a huge house before he left which was fully paid off. My mom's brother persuaded her to turn this house into mortgage to raise funds for his new business venture. My mom did and long story short, the business failed and we had to sell off the house because we could not afford paying the monthly loan. This was the main reason why my relationship with my mom became really bad. We stop talking for like more than a year because that time I was angry at her for losing our house. We had to rent from one house to another. My sister got a scholarship to study in the States while all these happened so she was out of the picture for quite a long time.
So basically, my relationship with my family was non-existence. Things have gotten better with my mom but it was never like how it used to be. While we go for dinner together once in a while, I stop telling her my problems. As for my sister, she is living in another city and she has her own life so I won't want to bother her with my problems.

Probably because I grew up in an a female environment, my closest friend are girls as well. I always thought that girls are better listener whom I can share my problems too. Both my closest girl friends have been my friend since 7. I have very close guy friends as well but they are not the kind of people who you would share your problems to. I'm sure they will drag me to the bar and ask me to relax when I share my problems with them. Thing is I don't really like drinking or smoking. But we still hang out over meals and all. I hang out more with my girl friends and over the years, I find it easier to make friend with girls rather than guys. Another thing I find it hard to be close to guys was an experience when I was young. I was 10 or 11 when I joined this camp. I was sexually molested by a guy elder than me when we slept beside each other during the camp. Why I am telling you this is because this became an issue later on.

So I became a serious Christian after my break up in my 2nd relationship. It was a 4 years relationship that crushed me and I had to rely on God that time. It was in the church I met her. She is a very God fearing girl and grew up in a Christian family. She is everything that I am not. The youngest in the family, she is disciplined, her family is soft and gentle. However, one thing similar is that she lost her dad when she was young too. Because of this, she grew up having low self esteem and lack of a father figure in her life. As you can see, we are two individuals with a lot of issues growing up.

When we got together, we had a rough time of trying to adapt to each other expectation. She was very sensitive with the words that come out from me and who I hang out with. Me on the other hand was very insecure because of the lack of family connection. When we quarreled, I would throw harsh words to her which I dont mean it. Subconsciously, I was behaving like my dad. She on the other hand, set a very high expectation on me. A lot of time, I find her comparing me with her cousin, her brother in law which seemed unfair for me because she was taking everyone's strength and comparing it with me. So as mentioned previously, most of my closest friend are female and this is something she struggle to accept. These are friends I have known since I was 7. I have very close guy friends but they are all married with kids so we don't hang out that much now. I tried inviting her to our outings to show her there was nothing between us but she just could not fully accept this. She initiated a break up in March as she thought that we are world's apart but we instead of breaking up, we had a cooling period for 3 weeks before patching up again. I made adjustments for her. I tried to keep a distance from my girl friends as I know she is sensitive in this area too. We only met up on special occasions and I always brought her along. This is the girl I wanna stay forever with so I was willing to make some sacrifices along the way.We manage to iron the differences and stick with each other.

Another issue we had was physical intimacy. We both agreed not to have pre-marital sex and I respected her decision in this. We never went across each other necks to give you an idea. Although there are times I wish we had more, I never asked her to compromise. However, I did not know that she would even feel guilty from passionate kissing. She only revealed to me after the break up. For me, I told her although I agreed to not having pre-marital sex, I have my needs and desire as a guy and I struggle in them. Few months ago when she was at the crossroad of her career and she always wanted to go overseas to work. I accompanied her to fly to another country to attend an interview and I told her if she got this job and made her decision to come over, I will follow her as well. I was prepared to leave my current job and family to go with her. The reason why I did not plan to work in a bigger city was because of my mom. I don't wanna leave her alone because my sister is already living abroad. But I was prepared to go with her that time. She did not get the job though.

I thought everything was good and all. We even went to a marriage counselling because we are prepared to bring this relationship to another level. In probably August I was searching my chat in her phone and I accidentally found out she was talking with her sister about me. She told her sister she doesn't know how to continue in this relationship. She mentioned she was struggling in it. This caught me in a surprise because I really thought everything was good. I was meeting her 6-7 days per week. Basically almost everyday. Either for lunch, dinner or both. And she did not appear like she was having issues in this relationship. Of course we had minor quarrels every now and then but nothing major. Like which couple doesn't quarrel? I admit I am not a very soft person that gives in to everything we quarrel. When I read the conversation, it was already a week old so I decided not to bring it up to her. I thought she solved it herself already and I was afraid bringing up might give her the chance to initiate break ups. I mean since she did not bring it up to me, I better act as if I did not know about this. Maybe while I was working, I did not reply to her message or sometimes, I will ignore her the entire afternoon. I thought that might be the problem. She was a home baker so she actually had a lot of free times. She was going to start a full time job in September so I thought things will be better once she started working and got busy.

There was this other girl. She was a work acquaintance from a competitor company. We were friends and she was divorced. Initially I tried to talk to her to help her get through her divorce. This was way before I got into this relationship. I had empathy for people going through such heart break because I knew what it felt. So after that, we kinda texted each other every now and then talking about work and what not. It wasn't frequent, probably once every month or so. I had no feelings for her but in September, she got bold suddenly. She started sending me photos of her in beach wear. September was a very low period for me because I quit my job over stress, my dog pass away and I had to go for a surgery over my knee. My mistake here is I did not let my gf know how low I was feeling as she was struggling in her new job as it was an entirely new industry for her. I did not want to add over to her stress. I know I had no excuse for doing what I did. But I did it. Maybe I was desperate for sexual gratification. I said things that I should not be saying to another girl when she sent her photos over. It happened over a week and I cut it off. There were not nudes or nothing physical involved. I thought it was harmless because it was pleasure to my eyes and I would never do anything more than that. This girl is staying in a different city.

My ex found out when she stayed over with me in the hospital. She could not accept this betrayal. I admitted and took 100% responsibility that it was my mistake. I fell into a temptation that I should not have. I was weak and I lost my self control. I pleaded my case and asked her to extend grace to me and give me another chance but she told me this was too much to take. I shattered her trust and destroyed her self esteem. Of course when she doesnt trust me, everything sounded like a lie. I told her if she needs to believe one thing, please believe me when I said it was not her problem. It was mine. I dont want her to think that she did not do enough in this relationship and her shortfall caused me to do whatever I did.

It has been 2 weeks. The last time we spoke on the phone, I told her I will be praying for her recovery. I told her I will be reflecting on my action and repent hard. This is a reminder to me what damage sin of lust could do and I will bring this lesson into marriage. We will not be contacting one another because she needs to rebuild herself back and any contact with me will only remind her of the terrible things I did. For myself, I have to go back to God and sort myself out. I asked to to pray for our relationship too. Put our relationship at the corner of her heart. It will not be the focus for her right now so keep it in the corner. If our relationship is God's will, He will bring us back to one another regardless how long we need to take. I want her back. Of course I do. But I have accepted for this moment, I need to let her go.

You know I always wanted my own family because I thought I havent had a good childhood growing up. Family was almost non existant for me. My dream was to have my own family and I would give my children whatever I was lacking off. Ironically, I ruined my own dream and cost us both our future together. I dont know how will I ever forgive myself. She told me she doesn't hate me and she forgive me for what I did. She just cannot stay around in this relationship anymore. Each time I felt depressed and broken, I reminded myself she is probably having it worse than me. Very often I asked God why the punishment for my sin comes with such a big price to pay. But I am totally aware that I made a huge mistake in life and I just have to carry this consequences with me.

So this is basically my story.

Identify this Kuih for me

prelude23 — Thu, 16 May 2019 19:11:40 +0800

Was in Ramadan bazaar and I was asking my gf if she have eaten this kuih before. The thing is I don't know the name. Let me do my best to describe it.

Long like hot dog or pulut.
Wrapped round and round in a kind of brown leave and stapler at the end.
When you unwrap it, the leave will be like spiralling
Inside is dark brown color, texture is jello like.

What is it called?! Omg it's killing me. I tried googling it won't come out. I describe to my gf and she said she never eaten anything that sounds like this but I'm sure most ppl do.

If you're thinking about anything in these few photos, it's not here.

https://images.app.goo.gl/6y5rfhFEEJhNUhNUA
https://images.app.goo.gl/QKwUN2n8onWudzHQ8

Am I overreacting at this case?

prelude23 — Mon, 21 Jan 2019 12:28:14 +0800

A brief background about us. So I'm 31M and she's 30F this year and we have been together for 6 months. We have been together for 6 months but have known each other for almost 4 years. We are both from a small Asian city with a population of 400,000. I have a full time job that pays well and at the same time have a side business with my partner that is only starting to gain traction. Moving away from my city is not in my plan as my single mom lives with me in the house that I have bought. My sister is a 2 hours flight away from us in another city.

And for her, she left her corporate job and works as a freelance baker. Her mom is a single mom too but she has 3 siblings who stay in the same city. Ever since I've known her, it is always been her ambition to go overseas to work at a bigger city for better experience, exposure and what not. At first it was Australia and then China popped out since her relatives have connection over there. All these did not materialize and after we got together I think it mellowed down. She no longer talk about wanting to go overseas for work.

At this point I have to mention while she has been going for yoga classes for quite sometimes, only recently she seems to plan to take it more seriously. She talked about going for a short training courses overseas to get certified as a yoga instructor but I asked her to consider carefully as there are already quite a few yoga studio in our city and competition is fierce. However this morning at the breakfast, she told me that it be good that if she can go work in the overseas for a year while attending the yoga courses over there. She will only plan to be there for a year and then later come back to continue her freelance work which will be continued by her sister while she's away.

I kept my thoughts to myself and asked if she had spoken to her family especially her mom and what did she think about this. Her family has long known this is her ambition to work in overseas and told her its okay to leave just for a year. Me, on the other hand, of course did not react well to this piece of news. I'm at the point of my life where I wish to settle down and we have made it clear with each other that marriage should be the goal of this relationship. We both agreed on working towards this goal and that is why we are together at the first place. My real concern is that 1 year of long distance would jeopardize the relationship. I'm not someone who works well with long distance relationship. And whoever can guaranteed that she will not stay longer than one year if the pay and the work is good over there.

I wanted to tell her that she was really selfish to leave everything here just to pursue whatever she onto. She does not even have a solid plan as all she is doing now is putting in random job application through the web. Why can't she be contented with the life she's having right now? Then there are moments I thought probably I'm the selfish one. Why can't I support her in whatever she does and put more trust and faith into this relationship? I'm so in the crossroad at this situation and it doesn't feel good. Am I overreacting or what should I do to support her without sacrificing my feelings?

What do you call this feature?

prelude23 — Tue, 13 Mar 2018 13:36:59 +0800

Hi guys! Disclaimer: Non programming user here so pardon me if I do not speak programming jargons.

Referring to this website:

https://www.udacity.com/pathfinder

You see how you can choose your choices and it brings you to the next choices and next choices without having the url to change and load. What is this feature call? I mean how do I explain it to web designers or developers instead of describing this in the long winded way which might confuse people.

https://imgur.com/a/2IxLl

7% p.a Guaranteed Return?

prelude23 — Sat, 16 Dec 2017 20:07:43 +0800

Saw this property back in my hometown and was quite interested in it. It's a studio apartment that cost RM249k per unit. However, what caught my eyes was this claim of 7% p.a Guaranteed Return. I called up the sales office and they're like saying after you buy you can lease it back to us and we will guarantee you 7% return every year.

How legit and normal is this practice in the industry?

Christmas Crafts

prelude23 — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 00:47:46 +0800

Where's my best bet to go if I wanna buy Xmas decorations and crafts for DIY purposes?

Help!!

New PC cannot Windows 7 in normal mode

prelude23 — Thu, 16 Jul 2015 23:27:38 +0800

Hi all,

Just bought a new PC from Idealtech and I am facing this problem. My new PC keep getting stuck in this Windows 7 loading screen. My boot drive is a Samsung SSD.

I am really not sure what's the problem but let me describe it as detail as possible:

1. It takes a long time to load (or sometimes cannot get through) this Windows 7 loading screen.

2. When I reset it manually and boot it in Safe Mode, there is not problem with it. Fast like how a SSD suppose to work.

3. Only once when I fall asleep waiting for it to load, I woke up to find it inside Windows 7. I must have slept for 30 minutes so God knows how long did it take.

4. It was a new PC so I havent really install any software. Idealtech did help me install Windows 7 before sending my PC to me (I stay in East Msia).

5. The only thing I did myself is installing the GPU into its slot. I did not even install the drivers.

Below is my PC specs:

CPU: Intel Core I5 4460
MOBO: ASUS B85M-G RM270
RAM: Avexir Core Gold 2x4GB DDR3 1600mhz
GPU: Palit GTX960 Jetstream 2GB DDR5
Chassis: Thermaltake Versa H25
HDD: WD 1TB Caviar Blue HDD
SSD: Samsung 850 EVO 120GB SSD
PSU: Seasonic S12II 620W
Monitor: BENQ 24" GL2460HM
OS: Microsoft Windows 7 Pro 64Bit

Any expert kindly help please. I am actually posting this on safe mode.

Stories About People Who Have Broken Up And Gotten

prelude23 — Mon, 06 Jul 2015 11:59:13 +0800

Hi all!

Just wanna bring in some positivity into this corner here. Anyone can share if they have heard of stories of couple who broke up and later on get together again? Be it your friend, your relatives, someone you just know or even you yourself. Come and share how did it happen and any advise to give?

I do believe that if two people are meant to be together, they will always find their way back to one another. Or, when two people love each other so much, they are willing to ride out the waves together, and end up beating the odds. Let's just bring some hope to all the broken hearted people in this forum!

Building a Gaming / Download Rig

prelude23 — Thu, 11 Jun 2015 21:32:21 +0800

Hi guys!

Did hell lot of research but still couldn't decide if this is the best rig for me.

Background: I am not a hardcore gamer. I do play games every now and then and I really do not mind if I don't get to play the game in its full setting. Besides occasionally gaming, I download a lot. My partner and I, we are movie and TV geek. Hence basically my computer do more downloading than gaming. In this concern, I am looking also in the computer's noise, power consumption and temperature. Also, I don't overclock too.

I have come up with this build:

CPU: FX 6300 or i3-4150?? (Read the review that i3-4160 better than FX 6300 but scare it wont play the latest games)
Mobo: Asrock 970 Extreme3 or M5A78L-M LX V2 - I could use with the USB 3.0 as we transfer a lot into our external but I am not entirely this is the best mobo for this system.
GPU: GTX 750 Ti (Asus? Palit?) or R9 270 (Sapphire or Gigabyte?)
RAM: 8GB DDR
SSD: Intel 530 or Samsung 850 120GB - I want this to improve day to day computing experience.
HDD: WD Caviar Blue 1TB
PSU: Seasonic M1211 520W
Casing: Open to recommendation too.

My budget: below RM2500

I really really appreciate comments from everyone. Feel free to correct me if you think my rig is not balanced. Thanks in advance peeps!

Planning to Register first

prelude23 — Sat, 31 Jan 2015 20:28:09 +0800

Hi all.

I have thought about this for long and I think it's time for to tie my knot with my girl of a 3 years relationship. Basically I think I am ready though I am not sure about her. One big factor that puts me off is the wedding cost. My budget would probably stretch to RM25k which I think is not enough for a proper wedding. Thus, I decide to register legally as a married couple first and then have the reception probably a year or two later.

Just wondering...what are the process too? I have seen some people do it at the immigration department and some in the local Chinese chamber.

Also what are the cost to prepare if I just want to register legally as a married couple? Take a look at the costing below:

Wedding Album - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony
Engagement Ring - RM5,000
Wedding Band - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony
Engagement Lunch - RM5,000 (6 tables for relatives and real close friends)
Wedding Dinner - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony
Dowry - Not sure do I need to give this when I register or on the wedding ceremony but RM10,000
Angpow for relatives and friends - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony
Decoration and props - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony
Actual Day Shoot - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony
Miscellaneous - Not needed yet until wedding ceremony

So total would roughly be around RM20,000 (including dowry) if I register as a married couple first. Anything did I miss?

Spiky and furry sides that sticks to each other

prelude23 — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 18:08:41 +0800

You know as a kid, when we wear our shoes there's no shoelace? Instead there are these straps with two sides that stick to each other.....one a little bit spiky, and another a bit furry. They stick to each other. What do you call those surface on each sides?????

Picture for those who dont understand.

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Please comment on my self-built rig

prelude23 — Sun, 01 Jun 2014 04:25:00 +0800

Hi all experienced forumers. My 5 years old computer just kaput last week so I am looking to get myself a new rig after so long. I am not a heavy gamer but I do spend my time playing football games like FIFA and Football Manager. Most of the time my computer will be on download mode as I love watching movies and series when I am free.

After spending a lot of time reading, this is the best I can come out with. I am no expert in this so bear with me.

Intel Core i3 4130 - RM360
Gigabyte B85M-D3H - RM299
Sapphire HD7790 1GB GDDR5 DUAL-X OC - RM460
Team 4GB DDR3 Ram - RM100
Plextor SSD M5S 128GB- RM299
Western Digital Green 2TB - RM285
SeaSonic S12-II 620 620W - RM320
Any basic casing - RM200???

How is this looking? My budget stands in RM2500. Feel free to change if you have a better alternative in any parts. One thing I am not very sure is the graphic card.

Thanks all!

Spymaster Pro

prelude23 — Sun, 18 May 2014 18:46:26 +0800

For those of you who are not familiar with this software: http://www.spymasterpro.com/

I am not sure how this software operate but it seems like it can track every movement of your phone. From your whatsapp messages, to your photos and to your internet browsing.

Well, I just got an iPhone 5C from my company and one of the terms and conditions states that company phone MIGHT have spymaster installed in it. No confirmation hence I just want to check if my phone has this software or not.

Any kind soul care to shed some light?

Malaysia Airlines

prelude23 — Wed, 02 Oct 2013 14:29:12 +0800

New Livery

Old Livery

Which one do you prefer?

Japanese Buffet

prelude23 — Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:33:54 +0800

Hi guys. I will be in KL for a few days. And craving for Japanese buffet dinner.

I'm very tempted to go to Jogoya cause their coconut and Haagen Dasz icecream but I believe they are better ones. Does any place has endless supply of coconut and Haagen Dasz icecream like Jogoya?

Any recommendation? Thanks!

Play movie on LCD using pendrive

prelude23 — Thu, 06 Jun 2013 18:16:45 +0800

I wanted to watch movies (.mkv) on my Samsung LCD with my family. But my TV cant support .mkv format.

Now, there's this thing where you connect it to your LCD. Then you can plug your pendrive into it and it allows you to watch video in any format.

What's the thing called again?

Building a durable rig

prelude23 — Sun, 12 May 2013 16:01:35 +0800

Hi guys. I think it's time for me to get a new desktop as my old desktop (since 2008) has been giving me a lot of probs. I'm not even a computer expert so I'm not sure where to begin besides than asking for help here. Here are some issue to take notes:

-My budget is around RM2000

-I don't need a monitor and DVD drive

-I am not a gamer but I am a hardcore downloader. Which means very often, I on my desktop for days before shutting it down. That is why I need a durable rig to cope with this.

-As I download a lot, I need a big HDD.

-Not sure if I can do this, but I have two HDD to salvage from my previous desktop. 1TB and 500GB each. Can I transfer them to my new desktop?

-I need a better PSU for further upgrades in the future.

Thanks in advance guys.

What the prob with my computer?

prelude23 — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:27:44 +0800

What's wrong with my computer? Why got so many weird graphics come out on my monitor?

How do you call those weird stuff? I can't google without knowing the word.

[WTS] PS3 Games

prelude23 — Tue, 12 Feb 2013 00:07:28 +0800

I have a couple of games that I have done playing with. Looking for trade or selling it off.

These are the games:

Dead Rising 2 - sold to Najihaha

Grand Theft Auto 4 - sold to Najihaha

Resident Evil 5 - RM35

Killzone 3 - sold to Najihaha

FIFA Street - RM35

Earth Defense Force: Insect Armageddon - sold to metal_greymon20
Little Big Planet 2 - sold to h3r3tic insult3r
Gran Turismo 5 - sold to eatsleepnDIE

Dealing Method:
COD if you're in Sarawak or else by postage.

I'm looking for:

Tomb Raider
Sleeping Dogs
Far Cry 3