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Am i not good enough? -Update- -Closure-

vaan321 — Sun, 05 Jul 2020 20:24:06 +0800

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Update 1-Aug: Just had another talk today after dinner in my car.

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me: Since we had been in relationship for 5 years+ now, you never thought of staying with me sometimes? Is it something about me that is not good?
She: No no, you are already very good, a lovely bf a girl can have. But i prefer to spend more time with my parents
me: I am not wanting you stay with me all the time, a few days a week, and can still visit your parents, we can always discuss
She: I prefer to spend every moment i can with my parents
me: Then, do you have any plan in mind of our marriage?
She: I know you want to and capable to give me a good life and treat me very well, but i prefer to have personal space and personal achievement to meet, so no, i do not have plan so far.
me: I know, what i am saying is put it in time, i planning for our marriage in 2 years.
She: Sorry, but i do not see that in near future.
me: You know that i do not want any children after married, right?
She: I know
me: I see, since we can't come to a middle ground on this arrangement, I don't think it brings any meaning for us to continue.

*She stayed silent and left to her house.

In conclusion, didn't work up, it is not a matter of my financial or physique, i have no regret that i am financial capable and good fit physique that i achieved now, but the thing was that i just lost to the upbringing value of both of us. We see things differently.

I believe that's the end of my situation. Yea, i am disappointed, heartbroken, and many other things, but at least in this relationship, i was in my true self instead of being a template of the "ideal man" that people think a man in a relationship should be.

Thank you all for you view/comments.

is it not normal for couple not staying together?

vaan321 — Sat, 14 Jul 2018 14:31:57 +0800

Some background of me and my gf:
I am 31 and she is 29. Our houses are quite a distance (around 110km one way) to each other and KL situated at the middle of where we stay.
We are working adults, but she has more paper/reports workload than me. Well different field anyway, I am a project manager, she is in HR directly under an ops boss.
Due to her nature of focusing on career, she likes to bring work home and finish it. Which is why sometimes is hard to ask her out. Or sometimes she has family time with her parents and sister.

My gf and i already in a relationship with each other close to 3 years. We never quarrel throughout our relationship.
Maybe I just being a very calm person, which contributes to this.
I only recently announced this relationship to my parents earlier this year and had a dinner together with my gf and my parents.
Though, not much discussion as I asked my parents not to stress my gf for first meetup.

Recently, my mother asked me that
“are you sure you in a relationship?”
“why you never bring your gf home and stay overnight or something?”
“3 years already, still not staying together?”
“You should bring her home during weekend”
“Why you stay home during Saturday and not dating? Couple supposed to stick together most of the time”
“I don’t think a gf will reject a bf request for date”
Etc, I can’t recall all of it. But her words are hurting me actually.

I know that some couples really stick to each other 24/7. But, based on cases I read on cupid corner, some needs some alone time.

My gf and I had been to Melaka, KL, PD, etc for day trip and oversea trips (trip for this year also had planned). Sometimes I not even sure where to go anymore during weekend other than movies & shopping malls.
And my gf is a career focus lady who sometimes feel tired after a week of work and prefer to rest during weekend. I totally understand that, which is why I just let her rest.
And she put more attention to her parents (age around late 60s) and staying together with them.

I do feel I am being ignored sometimes but then I can’t be selfish right?
I just let her be and maybe sometimes raise the suggestion if she wants to stay with me during weekend or something. But she hesitates most of the time, so I let her be.

The question is whether what my mother said is correct? According to her, a couple should be easy to be with each other and clingy.
If anyone who are in a relationship and have the same situation as me and last till marriage, you are most welcomed to provide your opinion.

after error loading os! pls help! urgent

vaan321 — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 13:14:14 +0800

hi,

last night when i was reformatting my external harddisk to fat32(now i only knew anything larger than 16gb will causes crash! ), my whole system crash!!! and a black screen writing "error loading Operating System"

then i tried the methods on the net about xp boot cd dos screen(which is the screen after pressing "r" button) but cant fix the booting problem.

so, i tried reformatting the c drive coz my c drive is now in unknown format( dont know why... ) and the window boot normally...

so now the question is...

my pc last time is dual os which 2 window xp in 2 partition drive, one is in C: and the other is in F:
upon switch on, it will prompt me to choose which os to use...

but now after reformatting the C:, there is only one OS in the system! i cant choose the F: window xp...
but my file(ie: windows, program file...etc remains in F: but cant use...all the programs have error running)

is there anyway that can reactivate the window xp in F: without deleting my files? thx

urgent, pls help! thx