Need advise on my situation

zen10 — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 00:18:11 +0800

What should i have done perhaps to avoid this situation the next time? what went wrong?

Recently breakup with my gf,we been together for 1 and half year, At first the reason our relation became strain due to I have been jobless for 3 months.i have apply so many jobs and interview many times before,but still waiting for the results. Then she started to feel dissapoint in me and getting tired,and feel im useless. She knew im caring and treat her very very nice,but she doesnt feel this is enough for her. As she is like efficient people and those very impatient person. She even ask about what is my future planning,when that time im still jobless. She say if i continue like to be jobless,she dont know how long our relation can survive. When I first heard it,im totally sad and starting to loss self confidence about myself.

But then miracle happens,and I get a good job in and very good company. Our relation back again but the scar is already there. Eventhough Im just join the company for about 2 weeks, Im still thinking alot about what she says about me, as Im already 30 something and she just 28,I have not much savings,still driving my parents car,but havent own a house yet. I feel very very pressure about what she always say about she feel insecure with me for future. As i think back, she do make a point. If I cant even manage to take care of myself,how do I take care of her,financially.

So Im still thinking whether or not to let her go,as we already started to be less topic talking on phone and even went out. That time shes already been in contact constantly with the other guy on phone. At first i didnt suspect anything but when i knew shes calling him darling,then I knew the time has comes to make a decision,I wanted to breakoff with her,but i suggest to her for cool off period,as im still very much love her. We mutually agree for the cool off as I suggest I feel very pressure and I wanted to concentrate on life planning and build up my career and my self confidence too. But I didnt told her about shes in contact with the guy. She at first have bit of shock about me suggesting to breakup or cool off.

But then after a week of cool off,Im able to think properly and would like get back to her. Then I knew she still having dissapointment and misery feelings on me,so that day I ask for breakup as I dont want her to suffer for me anymore. She agree on the breakup and said she wanted to us to be concentrate on buildup our career and life first. I too just want her to be happy and back to herself. But after a week of breakup,she straightaway together with the new guy and they been together now.

As I know that she already together with the guy, im really really sad about the promise she say fight together and build our own life first so if have fated we will sure back together again. I feel like been play and betray by the person who I love and care for more than a year.

Now Im have some weird feelings about thinking whether she really love that guy or just use him as a rebound,or the guy is just a player,Im worried that she will get hurt,as shes been fail in a relationship many times before.

Care to have any some of guys/gals here to discuss about whats really happen? is it a because of financial causing the breakup? is it im myself a problem as im not so financial stable yet? or is it because shes a materialistic person? just want to discuss,and share your stories as well.

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