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PSA Rude Pulis at Fed Highway KL-PJ Roadblock

thatsound — Tue, 17 Aug 2021 17:16:25 +0800

Was driving back alone from KL to PJ at 12noon. Roadblock at KL-PJ white elephant on Fed Highway pass by standard road block.

Ok lor. I got my MITI & office letters ready. Then stop in front of pulis name Kh@iru1, the fella wearing sunglasses and macam bad mood. He kept looking at me, I look at him for like 10 secs, waiting for him to gesture something but he did nothing. Then he walked to my window, no gesture, I thought he just want to see if I carry any passengers. Then he bang kao my window, not tap mind you, bang with his fists, so I wind down lo.

Then he say in BM " Why you don't wind down window? You think you very funny is it? You want me to hold you up for a long time here is it? "

My first reaction like wtf, you PMS is it bro. If you said anything I wouldnt hear you cause you are masked, and you are wearing sunglasses so I obviously cant read what you want cause idk where you looking at. And you got pair of hands but nvr signal anything to me also, so how tf I know what you want oh.

But I still replied politely lo, give face "Sorry bang, I tak dengar arahan."

Then he keep accusing me say I not abiding by the rules la, that I have to wind down window at road block la, say I playing a fool la, main-main la, say sorry senyum-senyum no use la, say I'm wasting his time and other people behind me's time la.

zzz. Then ask to show my MITI letter and all those. I show lo. At this point he has no reason to stop me d what.

Then he pass the docs back to me and say something along the lines of " I am police you know, you perlu hormat, next time road block kena wind down window baru boleh lalu"

I'm like haiya duwan argue with you la. Fellow /k just careful if come across him la.

edit: I see alot of /k betas ask me straight wind down when see police? are you kidding me? are we not in the middle of the pandemic where virus is air borne? are there laws stating that it is an obligation to wind down my window at every road block? That's why I was waiting for him to at least signal to me what he wanted. Does he want to wave me on? talk? have a cup of tea? Well abang K here did none of the above. Stood there like a statue expect me to read kao his mind is it. Then next thing you know started fisting my window.

And maybe dashcam, or leaving my letters on dashboard would help. Key here is to reduce contact ma. Later Abang K ada covid apa macam?

second edit: haha didnt know a simple thread rant can polarise so many. My car windows are not tinted as many here have alleged. I drive a modest car. I don't expect to be treated like a VIP, merely a regular road user. If he is the person of authority, shouldn't he then at least hint to me what he wants me to do then? like making simple hand gesture or just tapping my window instead of standing there expecting me to guess whether he is screening my car for passengers, like a lot of police on road blocks do? Isn't that so much easier than picking a fight with my window and try to intimidate me? Courtesy? You want to talk about courtesy, why don't he not whack my car and actually try and talk to me instead, by using common sense and basic communication to tell me to wind down my window? What? Just because he wears a badge and uniform, I have to buka seluar for him now is it?

work 7 days per week

thatsound — Sun, 14 Jun 2020 19:31:18 +0800

during MCO when WFH I found some opportunities here and there to make some side income. Now that everything is resuming back to normal, and everyone can go back to the office, I find myself working 7 days per week so that I can stay on top of my side-income work too.

Grateful to be making some extra money but I don't think I've had a proper weekend's rest now since early May. Me time used to be a few hours during the weekends. Now it's just work, and probably 15mins Youtube before sleep.

In the long run this is not going to be healthy. Since /k got many workaholics 20k high achievers. Need advice on how you manage your time.

Gooding biznes in future?

thatsound — Thu, 14 May 2020 00:49:41 +0800

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Ever since Covid 19, see more and more prepper/survivalism content start to surface.

Even my friend also getting serious into this field and start selling prepper products. Above is his promo video lol. He ask me share I ma share lo.

But srsly since /k all towkey T20 biznes ppl, want to ask /k this biznes idea gooding? Got future?

Politicians becoming obsolete

thatsound — Tue, 14 Apr 2020 13:38:47 +0800

If there's one thing this global pandemic has shown, is that it highlighted many countries' flaws in their system of governance.

Do you think as a collective society, people should relook the top-down pseudo-democratic approach, and emerge new way of governance?

Few years ago I had this Irish coursemate in my class who has lived through the Troubles write a thesis about self-governance and wrote codes and simulated societies which practice new form of governance. Wonder if this might actually come true.

Bincangkan (5 markah)

Was there a time when Msia were properly United?

thatsound — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 13:24:57 +0800

I'm born in 90s, so 2", only knew the version of Msia when it was run by bigots and racists.

Want to know if there was a time in our history where racism was not prevalent?

My 2" theory is this, whenever something bad happens to our country, taktik plotek come out, finger pointing starts, everybody vroom. But during good times, everybody rilek je.

Thoughts ? I actually want to research more on Malaysian Unity. Gonna work on a personal project on this.

Bincangkan (5 markah)

Exercise

thatsound — Thu, 19 Mar 2020 18:09:51 +0800

So we all know to combat viruses like Covid 19, our immune system must be good.

So one major contribution to good immunity is good physical health, ie, exercise. *add* but cannot go out. Tempted to jog in local taman but seen a lot of people online advising against doing so.

/k all how exercise apa macam? or just sit at home rot and fap until uncle diabetes come knocking?

Someone call me say I'm involved in fatal accident

thatsound — Wed, 18 Mar 2020 22:01:18 +0800

So a legit sounding man, claimed to be from Mahkamah Tinggi called me this morning, he has my name and IC no. Said I'm involved in a fatal car accident on 16/03/2020 So I was like wtfisthisshit. He said a man rented a Honda Civic from me in Perlis hit and run and gave my details.

Fact 1: I was in KL working on said day
Fact 2: I don't operate a car rental business
Fact 3: I don't own a Honda Civic

He told me the renter's details, full name, IC and location of accident. I was konpius as hell. But I know something is off, so when he asked me to repeat the renter's info I hung up.

Sounds like a scam to me, but what's more worrying is how this fella got my phone number, full name and IC?

Would should I do?

Inb4 Covid-19 bigger worry than this

Losing hair

thatsound — Thu, 06 Feb 2020 22:27:15 +0800

So I've been losing quite a lot of hair over the past months.

I can't put a finger on what the cause(s) is.

1. Hereditary? Non of my immediate kin experience hair loss.
2. Stress? I don't feel that way. Occasional regular work stress yes, but other than that, not much.
3. Nutrition? I think my diet is well balanced every meal with high emphasis on fruits and veg.
4. Exercise and Lifestyle? I exercise regularly. Maybe 3-4 weekly for at least 30mins. I quit smoking a year ago and drink moderately.
5. Drinking Water? I did spend 4-5 years in the UK until 2019. UK's tap water is drinkable, but is considered hard water, meaning it contains high level of minerals. I was drinking hard water during the entire duration.

Me no understand.

what if everyone is self employed

thatsound — Wed, 29 Jan 2020 17:34:04 +0800

Thanos day day try to make pipu get into biznes and entrepreneurship. It's a long shot, but what if Malaysians are all self employed?

pros n cons?

Part II Architect

thatsound — Sun, 05 Jan 2020 19:38:02 +0800

So just some context,

I am 27, Master's degree holder, registered as a Part II Graduate Architect with LAM in 2018, total combined work experience around 3 years +
Like most, I aspire to do my Part III examination, as soon as 2021.

I don't know how many Architects are there actually browsing LYN but I figure maybe this is the best place to post.

So, I do love architecture, can't imagine myself doing anything else. But just very recently, I am starting to doubt my career path.

The truth is, architects generally do not get paid very well in relation to the work and hours invested, the job scope is usually very demanding, the respect for the profession is seemingly dwindling at an unbelievable rate (because I think the public just is not fully aware of the responsibilities and actual work that architects do to the point that they take architects for granted).

I feel like this sinking reality is chipping away my passion for the profession bit by bit everyday.

So my question is, how do architects keep themselves motivated?

Is it the money?
Let's face it. Most developers/ clients have no respect for us anyway. Delay payments, don't pay at all, underpay etc, and that has a ripple effect on the architectural industry as a whole.

Is it the satisfaction of creating?
Unless you are fortunate enough to have clients who give creative freedom, and do not hold cost as their number 1 agenda for building something. Good luck finding satisfaction. All 6 years of architectural education designing cool stuff is confined to cuboids.

Is it because it is an esteemed profession?
Architects were very highly regarded in society for centuries. Until now. To the point that all people think architects do, is draught. Heck, don't talk about layman, even the developers themselves treat us like CAD monkeys who are only good for churning out drawings, with little to no regard of our professional opinion/ advice, which is a real shame. Because architects are not only trained to be designers, or to be good at drawing. They are trained to administer contracts, to be project managers, etc

Is it passion?
This is highly subjective.

I think accountants and doctors are on a pretty similar boat too. So I won't limit this discussion to just architects. But how do chartered/ aspiring chartered professionals keep themselves going?

So my parents

thatsound — Sat, 04 Jan 2020 17:50:23 +0800

They have been retired for awhile now, maybe 7-8 years. No doubt they used to work really hard to provide for the family and were always busy, and I am grateful for that. So they've made a small fortune and have since decided to retire, which is great.

But their lifestyle for the last couple years I really cannot tahan. They will spend the entire day looking at their iPads/ watch TV, mostly stay at home activities. They sleep at ungodly hours and wake up in the PM, and maybe eat very little and highly irregular meals.

They are both round abouts 60, I am really concerned about their health and well being. I've tried bringing them out for some healthy activities like morning hikes, evening walks, but they don't seem remotely motivated to maintain a healthy lifestyle. And they don't really have any social activities, which is worrying. Like I was suggesting that they join a health club, or be part of some kind of community, or do some charity, anything to just talk to other people. But they seem very uninterested.

/K , can't believe I am saying this, but, how do you encourage your folks to try and live a healthier lifestyle?

Signed,
concerned child

Y pipu so angry wif PH ?

thatsound — Thu, 26 Dec 2019 23:43:13 +0800

2 years in. Results are not ideal. Many promises not met.

What is the surprise here?

Don't people know how politics work? It's about being populistic. Making choices that appeases the mass, regardless if it works or not.

Do you think BN/ any political party is able to change things overnight if tomorrow a snap election is called and they really win?

No.

It's going to be 2020 soon. Why are we still having this delusion that politicians are our saviours. They are not. They only care about their self interests. Just look at politics all over the world, the narrative is always the same.

So stop the hate gais. Leave the politicians be, whatever it is that they are really fighting for and just support the lesser evil lah.

Why do some people

thatsound — Wed, 11 Dec 2019 19:02:36 +0800

have zero regard for our environment?

Literally littering everywhere without an ounce of shame .

Throwing shit out from their vehicles.

Spam plastic consumption.

Pfft so third world man. Other countries already practicing nett zero carbon initiatives, recycling and thinking of ways to reduce waste, and here we are in Malaysia, creating more waste.

Inb4 TS sea turtle sympathiser

Just liddat weekend over

thatsound — Mon, 09 Dec 2019 00:59:49 +0800

Saturday morning - Went to construction site to check on work progress, make sure contractors all no curi ayam.

Saturday afternoon - masuk ofis do some paperwork to document some curi ayam.

Saturday evening - potential client call me up to see land. Went to see site, long story short, was a waste of time.

Saturday night - dinner with family then sleep.

Sunday morning - another client call me, say got problem at construction site. So off I went to inspect the site. Wasn't a big deal, but required more paperwork.

Sunday afternoon - after site visir, needed to go back ofis settle some paperwork. And then I was like wth, since I am here, might as well do a couple of tasks that were supposed to be for the new week.

Sunday evening - reply few emails, planned for the week ahead. And before I know it, it was already 7pm

Sunday night - dinner with family then come home and complain in /k. Been quite a few weekends d that I have to somehow do some work.

Sekian.

Career Path

thatsound — Thu, 28 Nov 2019 23:48:45 +0800

Just thinking about the next few years of my life. Thinking I cannot slave myself with a 9-5 forever.

Since /k so many in 20k club, what would you do?

Say you already have a stable job with fair progression, with chance for promotion, or would you come out and start your own company to fully utilize your skills and reap the maximum reward (or losses) ?

I feel like I am struggling with confidence

thatsound — Sat, 16 Nov 2019 22:16:39 +0800

I wasn't always like that. Until I met an old friend, who I've not met since college. So we started talking and he pointed that I have changed a lot. And after thinking about it, I agree with him.

I remember during my college years/ early adulthood, I was always beaming with confidence, smiled a tonne, able to socialise with almost virtually anyone, extremely care-free, unafraid of being judged, surrounded by many friends, always spoke my mind. I felt like I had a lot of ambitions too, and I always see things with a glass-half-full mentality. And most importantly, I always wanted to be dominant in everything that I do. Whatever I do, I always gave my all without holding back.

But somewhere down the line things started changing. I realised I exhibit body language of someone who has low self-esteem. I became more conservative, spoke less, started overthinking things, becoming more pessimistic (or more realistic? I don't know anymore), getting stressed-out and anxiety very easily, constantly doubting myself, and becoming very reserved, and at times, defensive, especially during arguments.

I tried to narrow down a few possible causes:

1. Maybe this is just part of adulthood.
2. Maybe I have poor mental health.
3. Maybe this is just the dents and fractures caused by society in general, where a couple of bad experiences can have a ripple effect, whether I realised that or not.
4. Last year, I was let-go from my job and was unemployed for 6 months in the UK.
5. I am working a pretty demanding job, maybe work has taken a toll on my mental state.
6. Maybe as we grow older, social circles get smaller, and we tend to be more alone ? If that makes sense ?

Anyway, I want to make a change to this. I don't want to feel weak/ unconfident anymore. I've started doing small, incremental things to develop a more positive outlook, like exercising more, try to go-out as much as I can, trying to try new things etc.

But I feel like something more drastic needs to happen. I want to feel like my college-self again. The energetic, confident and determined version of myself. Because I feel like I can accomplish more in my life, and I am not really capitalising on my full potential. I feel like my self-esteem is anchoring me, and preventing me from being a go-getter.

Is there anything I can do? Like a motivational course or something along those lines? Or tips/ books/ YouTube channels/ podcasts that you listen to, that can help one's confidence?

How to prevent ppl walking all over u

thatsound — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 00:21:53 +0800

So I am probably the least exp and youngest person in the company. Naturally I absorb things like a sponge as much as possible as the learning curve is steep.

But I find that seniors/ boss is generally pretty critical and unhappy with virtually everything that I do. And I usually just take it in and swallow their lectures/ scolding without saying anything back.

I can't blame them, because they are also always under stress. But I don't know what's right and what's not most of the time cause everyone is just too damn busy to give me moment.

Idk if what I am doing is normal and should I kena the cucuk until my anus lining become tough and learn things the hard way.

Inb4 TS "2 stohbeli gen beta spotted snowflake

Gf is anorexic

thatsound — Mon, 11 Nov 2019 21:56:54 +0800

So it's year 4 now of me being with my anorexic gf. If you want to read the full background in my original post you may click the spoiler below.

I feel like I am at a breaking point. I've been losing alot of sleep recently just thinking about it.

I don't want to sound like a complete cunt, but my gf who is anorexic is being showered with love and support (and obviously concern) from her family and friends but she is still very much in denial and is refusing treatment. While I on the other hand, do not have any one to share my agony with, because no one within my circle actually understands the problem as ED is still pretty much under the radar here in Malaysia. And I feel like I am walking this road alone. I really do feel very very lonely on this journey and just wish if there's someone I could talk to who would understand my situation.

I've actually already proposed to break up with my gf before, citing that this simply cannot go on, but each time she promised to try and improve herself and commit to living healthier. Of course these promises only lasts a short while and she will revert back to her old ways. And the cycle just repeats itself

So far, I've been doing what most partners of successful recoverees did. Just show as much love, empathy and support as possible, because frankly, I've tried it all and feel like I'm out of options. I think I've read almost every conceivable blog post out there and successful bloggers and medical professional articles/reports available on the Internet and feel like I'm already at my wits end.

I am at the stage of my life where I am already thinking about marriage and maybe start planning to have children, but obviously this cannot be achieved if my gf continues to be anorexic.

I don't come here to expect advice or answers. Maybe even the fact that annoymous readers are seeing this would make me feel less alone.

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I will try to keep things short without leaving out crucial info.

My gf and I have been together for 4 years. We lived overseas for the entirety of the 4 years and recently came back together. We lived in different cities, so fair to say we were doing LDR most of our relationship. She wasn't always anorexic, just 2 years ago when she went overboard with her fitness routine. (And I reckon Instagram is a major culprit too)

I love cooking. So I cook whenever I get to see her. But it becomes very disheartening when even the two spoons of rice that I make for her is left untouched. Her family got concerned and started giving me pressure to get her to eat. But people who have dealt with anorexics know that forcing them to eat is counter-productive.

So after much convincing, I got her to see the GP. And no surprises, she has eating disorder (ED), so was referred to a psychologist. The waiting list was long to see a psychologist, and she was very reluctant to receive treatment. (Being in denial and defensive is a trait all ED sufferers have). So I brought her to a support group instead. It was a good session, but she refused to go for the following sessions even after exhaustive convincing.

So she kept losing weight, as she exercises at every chance and not eat at every chance too. And I feel like throwing our relationship away because of this a million times. Because in her mind, what she is doing is normal, and I know damn well this is gonna take a toll on her health. We quarrel from time to time because sometimes, I implode out of sanity.

It's a miracle we are still together. So fast forward 2 years, we came back to Malaysia. I thought maybe if she remembers how delicious our food tastes, maybe it would help slightly. I was wrong. It didn't help whatsoever. She will still avoid eating anything substantial, be in constant denial, extremely defensive with her decisions to the point that I get really really tired sometimes.

I feel like a dick to leave her, as I do love her, but not with this illness. It's like she is completely possessed and have completely changed to someone else. Also, I feel like there's nothing more I could do as I have tried all methods to no good effect.

So...anyone who has dealt with someone with ED, specifically your other half? How did you do it? Any tips?

Quit Smoking Successfully

thatsound — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 22:49:05 +0800

dear /k,

This will come across as a bit syiok sendiri. But I have successfully got rid of my nasty habit for roughly 10 months now, with no urge to go back to smoking.

This means no vape, no tobacco, no nicotine patch and all those "lesser-evil alternatives" nonsense.

Prior to this I was smoking ciggs for nearly 10 years, vaped for about 4 years. Until I came across a book that totally changed my life.

It is simply called "Stop Smoking" by Allen Carr. It taught me so many things that I did not know about addiction, and helped me understand why I should quit (other than obvious reasons, like lung cancer). Recited all the common excuses smokers make (yes, even the "casual smokers" pfft there's no such thing!), and debunked them all, leaving no good reason to actually pick up a smoke.

The lessons from the book helped me a lot, and I feel more in control of my health than ever before. I think this can help a lot of people. So I just nk share je la, do some good once in awhile.

Sekian.

Everyday kena cucuk

thatsound — Mon, 04 Nov 2019 22:00:05 +0800

Started new job for about 2 months. Everyday hit new walls . Kena gangbang by senior and big boss everyday. Workload damn high, sometimes kelam kabut until make mistakes. Then kena cucuk.

Any /k good at kena cucuk? How to remain positive when kena cucuk?

Inb4 TS stohbeli gen, TS 2", TS minda lemah