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Problem with Love

mengtheem — Fri, 15 May 2009 14:24:17 +0800

[color=blue]well i get along with this girl for sometimes & now we are couple now but...
it was not suppose to be.

let the story begin.
i used to have lovely GF but break-up for sometimes ago...
yet i try to forget & i did it. i mix with friend & some forumer on LYN. yeah is kinda cool.
now i had a new GF is more better than my previous one. she is the type of good wifely person.
of course most of the guys will like it. for me i'm consider the lucky one to have her.

let me debate my problem...

old GF...
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered at times. Passionate and Emotional.

new GF...
Very organized. Need order in their lives - like being in control. Like boundaries. Tend to take over everything. Bossy. Like to help others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. Attractive.

haizz...
very headache... yet i'm still prefer the old one but the new one is more better.

seriously i need u all an advice. i don't want to hurt new GF feeling...
the problem with me now i slowly don't have feeling with her or maybe she just too bossy.
what should i do? i still loving her. the girl been helping for longtime & i know i should appreciate more than other.

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update 2
her bad habit - sometimes she only bath one time a day but mostly she don't talk bath at night until i ask her to take
then argument started. being most always control her attitude by not talking bad words especially in the car keep
nagging & scolding bad words when car blocking her way that i don't really like about it. i given & advice her many times
yet she still doing it then argument started. anyway i'm hokkien & she is hainanese. that what i concern of it especially
parents. i don't know what they gonna say about it. (that more on culture)

Can be friend after break-up?

mengtheem — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 22:33:45 +0800

well i got a problem here... i don't know weather i'm a genderman or not? but mostly all my friends & family ask me to move on. yes i did...
yet still friend with my ex after we both break-up. during the break-up should end properly not by 3rd party (kena spanner).

but somehow i don't feel uneasy for that...
i really don't know how should i go on that

i'm happy & cheerful but it still bugging me...

Let the Love Section Begin

mengtheem — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 02:23:02 +0800

For those still in single or those still waiting...
I believe you all can find a true Love...
Give yourself a change to be in Love again...

But how?

Do you believe in destiny?
Do you believe in true Love?

How many advice you wanted to give?
How many question you wanted to ask?
How many of you that hurt in Love?
How many wishes that you wish everyday?

What you want?
What you aiming?

Now is time for a chat...
Let go some old feeling...
Give yourself a break & start moving...

Come, Come, Come & share... No need to shy! No need to ask why!
Just Do It ! Just Go Ahead !
Make this treat Alive !
Leave Out All The Rest...

Love Blind

mengtheem — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 01:22:55 +0800

There something i would like to issue is about Love. What is Love anyway…? Is hard for us to tell what actually is called love. Yes! Yes! Love is something that we fall into someone. Love sometimes can be blinded too.

Besides that there also had many 3rd party nowadays. What is it? A new trend? Why would you like to be a 3rd party? Doesn’t it sound ridiculous… I’m not saying you can’t Love with someone that they really fall into. Perhaps that’s why some of us are still single and waiting. Well, i think any of us shouldn’t put it by the way of treating other nice and being together with. Treating someone nice and being together with someone is totally 2 different kind of things. Being together with someone have to be comfortable, readily to accept him/her weakness (tolerance) and happily together with.

Don’t go break someone’s heart regardless of him/her. Besides, everyone has their own preference on how and what to find in their better half. We just can’t force to accept that we shouldn’t be. Breaking up with someone & jump into another person is just like switching a gear. Scandalous… is not suppose to be happen even he/she doesn’t know about it instinct playing hide and seat with them. What does it to be like? What if you are them (in opposite way). How does it feel? Don’t you feel ashamed? People had given so much of hope & willing to spent the whole life for him/her. You may cheat your future lover. Perhaps you can even change your perspective on taking looks as a trait to look for.

If you really love that person, you should ended it a proper way. Don’t be a 3rd party (some called spanner with someone). If the relationship between he/she doesn’t work well prefer ended it well & walked with open at lease he/she would feel more better. Other people would look into a respectful way. No doubt to yourself. Not afraid of other people though.

For those already hurt in Love or afraid to be in Love. You can always give a chance to be in Love again. Don’t be someone who likes to screw up other happiness. What if they are you? If others who did that and at end of day they will felt the same way. Unfair? God always give fair way… No one can tells. No one will decide it. We can save it. Loyal and happiness will always be there.

Being loyal and being stupid is just beyond a thin line…

Being loyal is of course good, but being loyal to an unloyal partner is stupid.

Would ur GF get salary higher then u?

mengtheem — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 01:37:05 +0800

hmm.... i got a question?

would u have a GF that is higher salary then u?

nothing special just curios to know ur opinion...

what do u think?

chinese girlz going to married with malay guyz

mengtheem — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 23:53:47 +0800

well i had a friend of mind (chinese girl) is been a relationship with guy (malay) for some years.
of cause the girl is very happy with that guy. might say this is her 1st love.
her age already 27 this year. no kidding...

the problem now she face is her family, especially her mum...
if her mum know about it, i really don't know what gonna happen next
i really don't want to see her to break-off with her family
untill now her family doesn't know about it or how long they go

some more that guys plan to married with her & already ask for propose
she haven't given him an answer, she been too emo recently
she couldn't make a decision...

all of our friends could not tell what gonna do but advice been given

the most thing i'm kind of worry that she make a wrong move
well guys i need some of ur advice or opinion & this is not a RACIST issue
sometime everything would get better if have a solution.

Let's give a try to help her (SERIOUS business) religion, family & life matter!!!

What should i do...

mengtheem — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 00:50:37 +0800

After the breakup i was back to normal ... haha~~~ try to be myself again. Something bothering me... Suddenly i was out of mood & hard to sleep at night. Haizzz.... Chinese New Year is just around the corner. Everybody sure back hometown. Supposedly i'm happy but turn up scare & uneasy. What should i do when i back hometown sure i will meet my ex gf lol . She still part of my friend group & she would join them even i also had to join the gathering. Some of my friend prefer me to face the fact or pretend just a normal friend . i know is just a normal friend even we both already breakup just for 2 months ago but i found out is uneasy. I just don't want to spoil the mood of chinese new year gathering.

What i do? Any advice?

Should i meet her or just run away & hide?

Is Hard To Forget Someone you Love

mengtheem — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 13:38:40 +0800

i tell myself i need to stand up but is hard. my gf broke up with me coz i found that she had another person that she love but i really don't know or that guy like her. me & my gf been together for almost 4year plus but just end up like that. i really don't know why she cheat on me. she know this guy for almost 1year plus & start together for 1month but still sleep together on the same bed with me. at first i start to suspect she turn different. our conversation become distant. the way she sleep face another side. sometimes i make joke or try to comfort her but she feel annoying. so one day i ask why do u treat me like that coz i keep on asking and all the sudden she gone mad at me & say the word breakup, for me she been say break up for many time to me since we still together but this time is real. i ask her why & she just ignore what i say... then she decided to broke up with me until i cry whole nite till next morning, she just attend to work as usual. i just can't do anything feel so lost & i didn't plan to go to work. so i take a bath to refresh myself then suddenly she come back & knock the door. she cry at me... she scare i do something stupid... we hug each other but i keep on asking please come back to me. she just said she already make her decision. she wanted to breakup with me. so we both start talking why this happen. she told me everything... yet still i did not angry on her. until i found out there has a Love Bite on her chest. i asked do u sleep with the guy & she admit it. my mind feel so angry & why she did like that to me.
i start to tell all my friend what should i do. all of them try to help me to bring her back. they helped no matter what cost. then one of my best tell her just be fair to each other. asked her to think twice. so she decided to not have both & rent a small room different floor. so she did. for me i try my best to bring her back but i know once she stay separated there no turning back coz i can't see what she doing. until one nite that keeps my mind to stay awake. i can't sleep properly. it almost 4am in the morning. so i sent some msg & went to check on her. once i reach there i found the window did not open. i tell myself that she is not in the room. coz in the earlier she said go out with some friend for yam char. my heart was sad & mind so confuse. then a msg reply. "i just awake, gdnite o" i know is a lie.
after 2week later we still stay separated. sometime i got ask her to come for a dinner then she come but i know the guy was beside her. we had our dinner & i try not to tell the past. day by day i try to keep it going like that. sometimes she said busy or not free. everyday i in the work i can't concentrate. i lost died. i can't sleep well. something telling me i had unsettle business. i ask a few friend what should i do. they only say better settle it & ask her one more time & don't waste time. so i did follow what they said.
i asked her to bring the guy along. both of them feel surprise coz i tell myself i need to settle it. we started to talk then follow the guy. so they agree what i say. Finally i agree both of them to be together coz i don't want to lost a my gf. i agree to treat her like a best friend but something tells me... i really don't know what to do. should i continue to be like that or just forget about her... or she become more annoy.
time pass by & almost 3 weeks later finally i saw with my own eye she hand in hand with the guy... i can see both of them so happily together even i pass rite in front of them but they pretend did not see. my heart so broke & ugly. why she treat me like that. even she already move out but still left some of the stuff in my room. what should i do? she tell me she come over and pick up some slowly. i really don't know i can be like this... i don't want love turn to hate. even friend turn to enemy. i need help! how long can keep on like this... i wanted to cry again & again...
Sometimes i would listen to some song or movies keep on bring my memory back when me & my gf used to be together. Eventually i also scare to go back home rather overnite at friend house & i know i feel "mah fan" but i have no choice. Day by Day i lost weight... Day by Day i feel so lost... I tell myself i started to hate in Love anymore. i tell myself is it all girl are like that. at first they will follow you till you die. you jump, i jump but seems everything is fated away... Sometimes i wonder am i the only loser... How can i be like this again & again... Is hard for me to trust someone... Is hard for me to be someone companion... Is hard for me to be her best future husband... That why i say the word "IS HARD TO"...