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Got my ex-gf pregnant...

jabroni — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 20:45:02 +0800

Just met up with my ex-gf recently, old feelings came back & in a night of passion, we did it. Since then, we've been keeping in contact more than usual, and it looks like we might get back together.

Now after 1 month, when I'm away in US for a business trip, she called me & told me she's pregnant! She used 3 different pregnancy kits, and they all came up positive. I know I've been really stupid for doing it without protection. I wish I can fly back immediately to assume responsibility & give her whatever support I can.

But she has decided on an abortion (it's not a light decision, pls no abortion debate here...) since she is not ready to have a baby yet, with her career just starting to take off.

Also, she doesn't want anybody to know, especially any of our parents or close friends. But of all things to happen, I'm supposed to go for another 3 week business trip to the UK tomorrow to handle a major deal and if it goes through it could mean a big promotion for me, which happen to be something I've just told my parents after I called home recently when they were asking me about the effect of the recession on me.

So, if I suddenly back off from this trip and fly back, not only will my parents realize there's something wrong, I'll most likely be blamed if the business deal doesn't come through and in this economic climate, I might even lose my job.

Anyway, we talked about this and I know she's really afraid & feeling extremely helpless now. Also, delaying the abortion until I come back would mean more pregnancy woes for her. She wants me to be there but at the same time she doesn't want me to sacrifice my career as well.

I've arranged stuff with the abortion clinic and handled all the financial stuff. Now, I can't help it but feel really selfish for making her do this alone. I now feel like a failure...

I hope fellow forummers can help me figure out if there's an alternative which can solve all this.

Copenhagen & Malmo

jabroni — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:49:49 +0800

Hi guys,

Will be going to Copenhagen & Malmo soon for a short weekend trip. Any places that's a must go/heavenly food/clubs/etc?

Making a Move

jabroni — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 04:21:23 +0800

I happened to live in a serviced apartment and this morning, while waiting for the car to pick me up for work, a really hot girl (looks Latin-American) came on a taxi, but has no small change for the driver. She asked me & I said I don't have change as well (shouldn't have said that...lol). She then went to the reception to try to get change for her big note, but came back empty-handed.

This time, I offered to pay the taxi for her. Initially, she said no, but after digging her whole bag, she really couldn't find any change. So, I approached her again and told her I'll just pay her first, then she can just leave the money in the reception after that. That way, she doesn't need to be embarassed about it and we don't even need to see each other again. So, she agreed and I told her my room number.

So, just now, I just got back and found an envelope under the door with the money inside with her name (she underlined it) & room no written on the thank you note. Well, I'm just wondering if I should make a move or am I just perasan...lol?