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Why should I care

DownSyndrome — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 03:05:38 +0800

Perhaps its the sleepless nights I'm having due to stresses I have to go through lately, but I just feel like blurting everything out because I feel like it is hard to talk to someone about this.

Okay here it goes, there's this girl who is also a coursemate in college which I have no idea how we describe our relationship, really close friends I guess? We started off as "just friends" until she constantly seeks help with her assignments and studies and I was always willing to lend her a hand. We would stay up late till morning to just study or do our projects together, and I remember she would borrow my car and drive home to take a shower and buy breakfast for me.

We would text each other, skype each other alot everyday, especially when she's back in her hometown for semester breaks. We practically tell each other everything normal friends wouldn't just talk about casually, like past relationships, family, childhood, secrets etc and I actually feel very good to have a female companion to share my joys and sorrows with.

Then we have this holiday trip among our coursemates and because I wasn't feeling well at that time and so was she, I didn't really make full use of the time spent together, well, better for the both of us. She went back to her hometown after that for the remainder of the semester break.

Towards the end of the semester break, my friends wanted me to make a move for her by fetching her from the airport with her entire family (her family were coming to KL to spend their holidays) to their hotel. I sure as hell would think she'll think this would be awkward, and not surprisingly she declined my offer because she'd think its way too weird to be meeting her parents. While on the phone, I then explained to her that alot of our friends around us are constantly talking about us thinking we should be a couple, wanting to get her view on what she thinks but well she thinks that people will stop talking if we start ignoring them, so okay. As the weeks go by, more and more people started talking about us to the point where it somehow made two of our close friends quarrel (its another long story here if you want to know the relation), she broke down and cried and when I was comforting her and I felt really sorry for her so I've decided that maybe we should keep some distance between us, just for the mean time until everything is resolved.

Okay, I knew her for quite some time and this is what I think her nature is. She is very sarcastic at times and its really hard to tell whether she's serious in something or not, like for example if she meant what she said. Because she has been trying to stop me smoking for awhile, I did try to the best of what I can to stop but theres always that occasional puff with a bunch of friends, and whenever she finds out she'll be like totally cool when in front of her friends but whenever we're on the phone or when we are in talking to each other alone, she'd bring it up and start talking about it as if she really does care.

There was also this time when she was forced to go to a club when she doesn't really want to, for the sake of accompanying a friend and I thought it was best where I tag along, just to be sure they are safe. At that time I didn't have my car with me, her friend sent us to the club. She kept telling me that she feels uncomfortable entering a club so I offered to borrow the car keys from her friend to send her back, and then back again to the club. Its not a very big gesture but I feel like I wouldn't complain just to go through a bit of trouble just so she could be happy.

Fast forward to the month of August, somehow, I don't know, the piling stress of assignments maybe? Perhaps we are in different classes? I sort of feel like our relationship is somehow strained, we talk less, we hung out less, she'd talk about guys that she's been meeting with (which I have to admit, sort of made me jealous abit) But we still text each other almost everyday, skype when we are free and stuff like that.

She even said that there's this guy that has been hitting on her and she does not know what to do, which of course my advice will somehow lead to keeping a distance away from him since she thinks he's a douche anyway. She still reminds me every now and then to not smoke if I can, comes to me whenever she has problems with assignments, tells me things etc.

So now that I've written practically highlights of our "relationship", I just want to say I am confused myself whether am I really that into her? is she into me? was she into me but not now? or is remaining as friends the best thing for the both of us? Because I do miss a lot of those times where we can spend time together alone, like, a lot. Because as of now, she is practically the only girl that I am talking to, there's nobody else in my life as close to as being a girlfriend than her, and somehow I'm assuming it applies the same for her. So I'm confused as hell as to what to do next.

Tomorrow night we are invited to go clubbing at some event thing, she told me she's not keen, and I'm not a hardcore clubber myself but she does not want to feel left out because all her friends would be there and she'll feel left out if she didn't attend. Because I have things going on before midnight, I was thinking that if she goes (which she still have yet to decide), I'll join her at the club so that she is safe (shes not a frequent clubber), but if she decides not to go, I've decided to drive to her house anyway to either bring her out for a drink or just chill at her place just so she wouldn't feel lonely while her friends are out partying.

But the more I think of it, somehow there's this voice in my head telling me that she's actually not into me but I don't know. urrgh this feeling sucks, and the more I think, the more I ask myself, "why should I care?" if I continously be nice to her, helping her out but she ends up with another guy somehow, it wouldn't be worth it ain't it? Not that I'm expecting anything from doing nice things for her, but I just don't want to get hurt real bad in the future, just in case it happens.

Okay, here is a list of things that would probably make her think if I say I were to confess to her

1. She does not like the crowd that I'm always hanging out with, although they are all guys and she has always asked me to mix with her bunch of friends more.
2. She really hates people who smoke. There was once we had a bet on something and if I lose I'll stop smoking for a full month, which obviously failed in the second week. I told her myself that I've been smoking and her face turned red as hell and she practically ignored me for a few days. And there were a few more times which I failed to keep my promise and she was obviously pissed at me. She's been doing this for a year now, trying hard to stop me from smoking. I know it might not matter to alot of people, but I can tell she is really concerned on whether I smoke or not.
3. I have mentioned to her about my ex and she keeps asking how we were like, how was she like, do I still keep in touch with her. I choose to be honest and told her that on and off we'd Facebook chat or something. My ex studies at the same college as we do, so whenever she sees her, she'd tell me. And she has this illusion that I somehow still have feelings for my ex which I obviously don't.
4. We are in the same course, we see each other practically everyday, and if we get together and somehow something bad happens to our relationship, we have to deal with it for at least 2 years.
5. This is the silliest thing of all the things I've done, me and my buddies playfully came up with a list of top 5 best looking girls and she was at #2 and another girl was #1 on my list, I kind of told her about it and so happened at that time I was assigned to do a project in a group with #1 girl. I have a feeling #1 girl sort of have a little something for me at that time. She asked me what would I do if I find out that girl #1 likes me, would we get together? I playfully replied "No, are you jealous?" and I can see the expression of her face sort of changed and just looked down literally onto the floor as if she regretted asking me that.

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Hi k, need your advice :)

DownSyndrome — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 23:58:59 +0800

Hey guys, I'm a total newbie in regards to clubbing, I don't know no shits about it because I was never really into dancing and stuff like that.
But since its a friend's birthday celebration, I've decided that maybe this time I should tag along.

I'm still in college so I am not looking forward to splash too much cash but I'm going to be with some really rich, spoilt friends, so I'm expecting my wallet to burn :/

We're going to Zouk on the coming Friday. Any advice for a newbie like me? Like what should I expect, or what should I wear.

balance between studies and getting a gf

DownSyndrome — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 23:32:17 +0800

I'm an architecture student, currently in my first year and from what I hear, the following years will get more and more grueling.
Don't get me wrong as I do love what I am currently doing, it's just that I am spending many hours in the course, up to 3 sleepless nights if there are unfinished projects.

I just feel that it is very hard for me to have a relationship right now because it is difficult to give equal (or more) commitment to my love life.
But on the other hand, my last relationship was at form 4, and sometimes I do miss those times. Plus, everyone around me are starting to have relationships, especially now where Valentines Day is coming.

I have celebrated the past 19 Valentines Day single (for some reason, my past relationships never lasts to VD), giving me more reason to start looking for a girlfriend.

There is a girl currently in my course who is pretty cute, where I find that we have a certain bond ready to be expanded.
She made me control my smoking habits, helped me out when I have problems in college etc etc.

But again, I don't know whether to
A) give 100% focus on studies and remain single?
B) get her and give more emphasis on studies (but how?)
C) find a balance between studies and her (again, how?)
D) wait till she makes a move (which is the most ball-est move)

What does Barney Stinson do for a living?

DownSyndrome — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:45:41 +0800

Can afford nice suit yo

afford big collection of porno

=winrar get the tits

So /k/, how to be winrar like Barney? He doing what for living?

serious question here regarding cheque deposit

DownSyndrome — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 22:28:54 +0800

Okay. I had a Hong Leong bank cash cheque for Rm190 which I'm not sure if I banked in to my friend (Nick).

I went to Maybank to the cheque deposit machine, clicked on cheque deposit and clicked 'enter' twice.

Then, I key in his bank account number and put the cheque in.

After that, receipt printed then I ciao, 4pm +/-

Then my friend called me seconds ago (10.20pm) to tell me he hasn't received the money. Did I go wrong in any of the procedures?

[wta] urgent cheque deposit question

DownSyndrome — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 22:25:27 +0800

tomorrow meeting hot mudab**** yo

DownSyndrome — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 01:02:53 +0800

me meeting her. expect drillz

where best place to chill?

DownSyndrome — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:01:57 +0800

just sit and chill. we're probably gonna get a beer, possibly shisha.

its not some big celebration, but just a small hang out

maxis football extra no more fun liaozzzz

DownSyndrome — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 19:51:02 +0800

no jamie yeo....replaced by ugly flat tits

[wta] how much for car paint job

DownSyndrome — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 12:18:39 +0800

my gen2 aqua blue recently just fixed after bumper kemek. its ok now but the paint job is still not done.

want to change my car to black. how much ar? and which shop offers most reasonable price?

anyone got exp?

Proper shoulder and chest expansion

DownSyndrome — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:11:17 +0800

Hi, am 17 going 18, 167cm and 63kg.
I look very small for my age, not just because of my height but my overall body frame.

I've put effort into doing regular 50 push-ups a day, although there are improvement on the chest area but not so on the shoulders which still makes me look small.

Therefore, I need suggestions on helping me improve on my shoulders breadth and also recommendations to make me taller / bigger / "look" taller.

Thanks