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What to do when ex-3rd party reappear..with her bf

gracechew — Fri, 28 May 2010 08:28:26 +0800

Well, where to start...If some of the loyal members in forum (mostly active in Cupid Corner), then maybe you will still remember me.

I don't even know how or where to start. sorry, it will quite long..

I will start from the past:

I found out that my bf cheated on me with another girl (she was the daughter of his colleague, same age as me). When he left me, he and that girl got together but only lasted for 1 week. It lasted for 1 week because my bf "realized" that the one he really loved was me. I gave him a chance and we got back together on 9th of July 2008. Things was hard at first, I kept on coming up with questions and wanted answers from my bf. He was patient with me when we were still in the period of "healing"...Throughout these two years, things slowly got better, soon I slowly heal from this incident, I really did officially "healed" from this incident after almost 2 years. But the past came back and haunt me last week Sunday.

Sunday, 23 May 2010:

I was to meet my bf at 2pm. So I went Facebook a while to play game. I noticed there was a message, so I clicked on it. The title was "Something Regarding Magnum" (My bf chinese name is really magnum) from this unknown guy (I don't think I will provide the name, although this idiot hurt me, I think I will fong ko hei by not exposing his name in Facebook). I thought this message was those advertisement about Magnum Toto, so I clicked on it to read. But the message goes like this. I can't give you the messages that I wrote back to him because my sister deleted it, but the messages he sent to me, I retrieved it back from my email.

First message:
Subject: Something Regarding Magnum
You should see a picture attachment, if cant plz add me.. i will let u know the truth of magnum( ur current bf or ur ex bf ) did ..if u choose to ignore..is ok.. i just think that u should know wat is going on.. good luck

In this attachment, its showed an email that was sent from my bf's email to that girl's email. Email Date was 22 May 9.49pm. I roughly know how the email message goes, because I read it a few times but my bf deleted it yesterday from my desktop so I won't go on reading it again and again and think think think.

The attachment: (Can't really remember the flow, just the main points)
Hi (biatch name), I don't know whether you are still using this email, depends on fate then. I'm glad that you finally found a bf that you truly love. I wanted to express my hidden feeling..(don't know what already). When I go holiday, if I was with you now, maybe we are happy together..bla bla...When I go Tesco or Giant, I imagined that you are here but its just an illusion and I feel sad. When I used the Sunsilk shampoo that you use, I remember the fragrance and I started missing you again. I tried very hard to forget you but eventually nothing works. I still sing the sing that you like "Title of that shitty song that I introduced to him although I once loved that song very much too" and say the poem (a Bible verse which I also told him I loved it very much). This is the final letter, I hope you will be happy and take good care of your health. (I think my bf just wrote 1 email, because that idiotic guy just able to give me this email).

When I read this, I immediately called my bf. Asked him bout it, deny at first, but when I read out the first sentence, he asked me to stop reading it. Scolded him, shouted break up and everything. Slam the phone. Called my best friend, told her what happen. Asked my sister to come to my room, showed her the idiotic guy's message. My sister asked me to calm down. Somehow I can't remember, my sister (older than me) got contact with my bf (I think I gave my sister my phone when it rang non-stop). I wouldn't listen to what my bf was saying. My sister went out (before I called her into my room, I know she was waiting to go out). So I talked to my best friend, she asked me to reply that guy. Ask him what he want and what's his motive. He replied me in second message. This guy even dared to add me as friend in FB.

Second message: Please bear that I did not even scold or mention any foul words when I replied him.
Re: Something Regarding Magnum
are u stupid? are u blind..if you don't understand, please re-read again the attachment.. nothing much actually, just wanted to show you what your bf did doing behind your back...and it's not my gf who disturb your bf...ask him to behave himself please as you are his gf, isn't it? and your bf just smsed her saying that the email is not from him...if it's not from him, then who else?? jerk~~

During this second message, my sister was back, together with my bf. (They went out to discuss the situation). I did not reply the 2nd message, my sister replied him saying that he hacked my bf's email.

Third message:
Re: Something Regarding Magnum
LOL.. nothing make sense in wat u saying..
rest in peace... =.= ..ur brain cant be save..

Fourth message: He was very fast at replying, I think he was waiting for me to reply him all the while.
Re: Something Regarding Magnum
u wanna come out and talk? serious.. u need help .. Permanent Brain Damage help.. if u say i make things up.. we shall meet.. alright? u dare now?

Fifth message:
Re: Something Regarding Magnum
you're just one blind woman...it's still up to you to believe it or not...by the way, we have no problem in our rship...your rship is at stake. If you need help, four of us can come out and you will see the whole story of how coward your bf is.

My sister did not replied him after that, we just ignore that idiot guy, don't need to continue arguing with him, don't even want to continue talking to him.

During that time too, I calmed down and listen what my bf have to say and explained what happen. He said that his account was hacked. (After thoroughly thinking about it and also with relevant evidence, we believed that this guy was behind it). My bf told me the email was written not long ago when he just got back together with me but he can't be sure when was it. I did not believed and was not convinced at all. After that guy kept sending those messages, I can't stand it anymore that I use my bf phone to call the girl's mum whom is my bf's colleague (Keep in mind that although I hated them so much in these 2 years, I never contacted her mum to spill out all that daughter bad hidden secrets. I told the mum who I was, she also knew what happen last 2 years, but I think the daughter told her those part where she was the "victim" and not the biatch that steals people's bf. I told her " you know what your daughter did last time although you don't want to admit it", but I did not kacau your daughter although what your daughter did to me, why is your daughter's bf suddenly harassing me after 2 years (Cause I'm thinking, if that email was really sent recently, why did you bother telling me in the first place when you don't even know whether I'm still with him or not, since he said that his relationship has no problems). Then my sister took my phone and talked to the mum. (I don't think the mum even knew that her daughter has a bf now).

From there, after the mum and the girl's sister checked biatch's wall at facebook, we found out that the biatch actually wanted to end the relationship with that guy because she can't forget someone, and the guy mentioned he will do anything to get back with her.(Are all guys like that, looking at appearance?? Just because the biatch is pretty, so many guys are going after her and will do anything for her?!!!)

Then at night, the guy even called my sister's phone, as usual, speaking cantonese foul language, but my sister was the best, even my mum too, scolded them both (bitach and the biatch's bf), I too scolded that biatch. It sure was fun scolded her after for so long. They don't even have the chance to talk back cuz all they know is just talking foul words...

I can confirmed that my bf's email really was hacked (whom, I don't know, but highest possibility would be that guy). After the phone calls, that guy sent an sms 2 my bf's number, asking him to watch out when he goes to work as he will bring along his "friendssss". At that night, my sister, mum and me all agreed that we won't be putting a hand in solving this problem, as it would be my bf who need to solved it. (We knew that the more we get ourselves involved, the worse it would be, so just let my bf handle it tomorrow).

In the morning, when my bf went to the office, the mum ask my bf whether did we or my bf send anything to her daughter. She said that we sms-ed her daughter that morning. Duh...we won't be so free to do that...So proves that the daughter was lying..After they talked, the mum knows that they are the one who are making problems...The daughter even told her that I'm the one who finds her the first place...I was like..."What the hell, is your freaking bf who messaged me first in the first place!!" I think that biatch also kena tipu by her bf. Before my bf goes to work, I asked my bf to tell the mum to tell her "good" daughter to stop their nonsense. I don't even want to have any contact with them from the first day I back together with my bf last 2 years. My bf told her if any of them both trying to do anything more, we will take legal actions, I have all the evidences of them harassing me.

About that email that my bf wrote to her, I knew that biatch does not have friendster (2008 we were still using a bit of friendster and more facebook). My bf mentioned that the email was wrote not long ago when she made a friendster account and wanted to add my bf as friend. I checked back my friendster and find that girl's account. In the girl's info, the info was that she joined on August 2008, means roughly 1 month after we back together. Then my bf said after that, after he did not have anymore contact with her. I know that in the email, he did not mentioned he wanted to back together with her, mostly is just "starting to miss her again"...But, I'm extremely sad by what he wrote and also again betrayed me when we just back together during that time. I know one is never easy to forget someone on such a short time... but I still feel that the scar is just been open up again + added salt in it....

My bf has been very extra extra loving me since this incident, I also know his love for me now is even deeper...these 2 years (minus when he still miss that biatch), he has been very good to me, I think that's why even my sister and my mum also forgive what he did and helped him to get back with me...My sister asked me not to regret if I leave him because she told me "In your heart, you know what what he has been doing for you all these while...only you yourself will know whether these 2 years is till worth it or not"...

Is it normal for people to still miss their idiotic 3rd party just not long after they broken up..If I knew back then, I'm sure I will be breaking up with him, but now after so long, and when he really loves me, how to react? My friends told me is already the past, and look future, but I'm still hanging there somewhere, when I think back all these bad things, I wanted to break up with him, but when he is with me or I'm ok, I want to be with him. Although I know that now I want to still be with him, how to take these sad, betrayal, feelings away, at least make it to the minimum, so that I won't keep thinking of breaking up when I'm in my down moments. These few days was hell for me, I can't sleep and cried a lot, even I feel like the biatch don't even want to let go of me when I'm sleeping, I woke up feeling very frighten each moment when I almost fall back to sleep. Today was the longest sleep I got.

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gracechew — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:51:37 +0800

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PLEASE LEARN TO LOVE YOUR PARTNER

gracechew — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 21:27:03 +0800

its quite a long sory..well please have patience 2 read on..

I had this bf..ops i mean x bf..i was 2geta with him 4 4years...4 beautiful years where i thought i have found the ONE..i was loyal 2 him..love him with al my heart..support him no matter what had happen..what a gf wil normally do 2 her bf..
everything started 2 went wrong wen he went 2 his company's annual dinner,he meet his girl where she replace her dad's place cuz her dad was sick..there in the dinner they met..
they got 2 know each other and soon the girl was complaining 2 my x bf that her bf is treating her bad and was cheating behind of her..my x bf told me bout this as he alwis tell me everything...
i was so naive 2 even ask my x bf 2 console her and giv her advises..she soon sent my x bf smses saying that she miss him..my x bf stil told me about this..i trusted him that he wil have nth 2 do with her..
but then..the gal started 2 confess her feelings 4 my x bf..i told my x bf 2 ignore her s she wil slowly 4get bout it..at 1st my x bf told me a plan 2 get rid of her..the plan was..:act that he like her back den show that he is the desperate type of guy..den the gal wil eventually get scare and back off..
i of cos disagree wit this plan and jus ask him 2 ignore her..but he did not listen 2 my advise..instead he went on with his plan behind my back..i found out..he wrote 2 her..:i love u shereen,giv me a kis if u love me.
i confronted him and he cried wen i say i 1 2 break off wit him..i blief him that it was his plan..not cheating on me..i trusted him...soon few months pass..end of may..i was angry about sumtin..i jus say break off s i was angry..he asked me not 2 leave him..i say no cuz i 1 him 2 pujuk me back..den instead of him continue 2 pujuk me...he ask 4 break 2...now opposite..i had 2 beg him n cry..i nvr beg any1 b4 in my life..that whole week was the worst week of my life...i had assignments 2 do where i had 2 interview,2 test in my college,the PTPTN loan where i had 2 find my lost certificate..go CIMB BANK few times,KL central 2 make my loans.. and i was sick vomiting cant even eat..at last he was back with me after a few days..i asked him y he can treat me so badly wen i needed his support most..he leave me..i keep asking him until he admit he like that gal..but he say he wil 4get bout her..ok i giv him another chance..trusted him that he wil change..
after a few weeks..i found out that he was stil contacting wit the gal..i ask him 4 the truth..but he did not told me the truth..last week he told me evrything..he did wen out wit that gal and kis hug him..i was so devastated..he ask me 2 giv him a chance again...but i did not..cuz i cant accept the fact..he cried n beg me not 2 leave him..i knew he love that gal aredi..he was so sad..i cant help it 2 c him so sad..so i told him that i wil leave him in order 4 him 2 be wit that gal..(such a stupid idea)i was so sad 2 make him do it..al bcuz i dun 1 2 c him unhappy...crazy me..that few days after that happen..i was crying n sick again..n i even found out that my dad is having an affair 2..my mum told me..I WAS SO DEEPLY HURT THAT I CANT C ANY WAY OUT..MY X BF LIKE THAT..MY DAD ASO LIKE THAT..Y..Y DOUBLE BLOW IN JUS FEW DAYS..i cant take it..i dun have any1 2 lean on the shoulder 2 cry..he was wit her wen i experienced al this..the time where i needed him the most he was not there 4 me again...
on fri nite..i was so painful that i couldnt help it 2 sms him..he was wit her..he ask me not 2 sms or call him cuz he was wit her..den suddenly a call came..it was from him...the gal call me cuz she saw my msg..she ask me 2 tel the truth about me n him..she tot my bf aredi broke up wit me few months ago..but no..it was jus a few days ago..
i was crying badly..that gal aso did not trust him n think that he was cheating on her 2..
my x bf say he come find me..4am in the morning,he come 2 my house and explain..he say it was a trap 4 that gal..he 1 her 2 think that he was cheating on her..den wen she think that my x bf is cheating on her..she wun be wit him anymore..i was happy..i back 2geta wit him..den the gal kept on sending sms n asking y he hurt her like tis..she say she rely loved him wit al her heart..den oni he realize that the gal rely loved him..he felt guilty of doing this trap 2 her..he cried in front of me..i was so unhappy 2 c him cried n sad..i asked him2 tel her the truth of what had happen..i was scare that the gal is sad n unhappy..I KEPT ON THINKIN ON HOW THEY WOULD FEEL INSTEAD OF THINKIN 4 MYSELF..i din even blame or scolded that gal..so my x bf did tel her the truth n they cried on the phone..den unexpectly my x bf dun 1 me anymore..now im alone again..which is my fault..al bcuz i was trying 2 be kind 2 them both...i should be selfish..but i did not..in the end..im the 1 who suffered..but now..i realize that although im stil sad n angry..i felt a burden lifted up my chest..what u wil do if u were in my state???

Do you think its ok to steal a guy from other ppl?

gracechew — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 13:29:26 +0800

there is a gal who admits that she liked my bf. my bf alwis tells me everything bout her including what she sms-ed to him n what she said wen she called him..she alwis tells my bf that she is not happy wit her relationship wit her current bf, n of cos my bf alwis console n advise her to leave her current bf...This eventually made her liked my bf cuz she thinks my bf is caring towards her..My bf cant jus push her away cuz she is my bf colleague's daughter...(the mum doesn't know bout tis) She knows that my bf already have me but she continues to make contact wit him n flirts sumore!!!!!! I don't know whether im right in jus letting her do tis 2 my bf, as i know that my bf loves me very very much...i noe that he wun cheat on me but on the other hand i cant stand tis gal's attitude using her self pity problems to attract my bf to care 4 her. So do u think it is right to ruin other ppl's relationship jus bcuz u c their relationship is happy?? My bf n I have been 2geta for 4 years.... my bf is 23 and im jus 20 (that idiot gal is same age s me)