Friendzoned

XG. — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 23:49:41 +0800

Greetings Love Guruuuuus!

So, my story starts like this. I am very close to a girl until the point that people around us thought we should be or already in a relationship with each other. Last week, she told me that her friend asked her to consider me as her boyfriend. And when I asked what does she think of the consideration, she replied, "We never know what will happen in future, but at least we are close friend right now."

Days ago, she told me that her friend again, asked her to consider me. Her reaction this time was different. She was so surprised with her friend's suggestion and act as she doesn't like the idea because she don't want to lose a friend. This time, I man up myself and made a confession that I have the intention to go further in our relationship. She rejected me, saying that she never thought of this before and has no feeling for me. And when I asked if we can go further than close friend in the future, she replied:

"I don't know how's future but for now I feel comfortable with our status and I really treat you as my best friend which I can share my problems to you with no worries..."
"I do feel comfy with the situation now"
"The friendship we build"

It is rather an expected answer, at least there are still rooms for us to go further. So when I said I am fine if she wants to keep it that way (close friend) for now and I am willing to wait, she quickly replied that, "I prefer that la, not further than close friend". And then I asked how about in the future if we can go further than that, she got frustrated that I emphasize what's gonna happen in future.

Until today, when she was bragging about video calling a foreign friend (probably a China man) everyday, I asked if she wants to go for long distance relationship and yes she said, "Might be". This really strikes my heart! I don't like the idea because she was once hurt by a China man who wanted to make her his small three, spare tyre until the point that they unfriended each other. I was there to listen to her complaints and comfort her during that period of time. I then sarcastically wished her good luck as to me, LDR needs alot of trust on someone that is miles away from you and if with the past incident doesn't demoralize/teach her a lesson, Good Luck! (Of course, she doesn't like my sarcastic wish )

So,
1. How do I escape the friendzone?
2. Should I proceed? Her replies were different on 2 occasion.
3. Should I move on and get a life? (I am afraid I will be taken for granted. But I treated her as a spare tyre before, so I think it is ok if she wants to take me for granted. Karma!)

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