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Fell in love but can't be together.

forlowyat1 — Wed, 25 Jun 2025 16:14:05 +0800

To all readers, may take this as just me ranting haha. I'm just overwhelmed with a variety of emotions currently. It's kinda new to me.

Well I think it's more like a one sided thing.
So here's the story
We got to know each other through sort of a dating app.
She's real, and she's beautiful. No catfish no sales nothing.
Just genuine people getting to know people. Or maybe it's just me.

She just broke up with her bf after caught that guy cheating. She shares story with me. Real heavy ones that puts me in a lot of pressure ngl.

She asked me real difficult questions after she's drunk. Multiple times at that. All I could say was I can't answer her right now or some really vague answers. You could say that I didn't grab the opportunity but to me I'm more into honest and determined answers if I would want to be responsible of taking care of her.
One of those questions being could I afford her, of course I said I couldn't and was sad and helpless.

She's a really nice girl, she did apologized for having me taking care of her when she's drunk. I didn't do anything. Just pick her up and drop her back home. Was hoping that I could lend her my shoulders but she doesn't seem to be asking for it and I felt like it's not right to do so at the time.

Anyhow, days gone by, I sent her messages almost every time I get the chance. But like if I asked 2 questions or gave 2 answers. Either one would be ignored or all of them ignored. As if nothing ever happened.
Each time I got ignored I thought that okay, I guess that's the end of our "friendship". But then suddenly a text would pop and the conversation would continue for a few text and then she'd be gone again.

Well thanks to her I'm motivated to make tiktok videos and grow my social media hopefully to the point where I can earn money.
And thanks to her I'm also motivated to write a punk rock song about my feelings.
But unfortunately I'm getting real depressed and sad occasionally on a daily basis when I think about her.

Honestly you could say that I'm just being used, I probably am, I just don't know what I should do next, not knowing if I should continue to pursue her without letting her know my feelings.

I do think that I'm kinda rushing this if I did confess.
I'm probably just insecure cause well she's beautiful, guys would line up to pursue her knowing that she's single now.

But the funny things that she told me when she's drunk, it's like she had feelings for me, told me that we could get married blablabla. I know she's drunk and all. But I do believe that she's pretty sober when she say all those things. Many questions just left unanswered.

The song Jenny by The click five kinda feels like my exact situation especially the first 2 lines.

I had a hunch that if I do confess, I'd probably be rejected. And so I kept quiet. And it's been weeks, my feelings are bottled up and bursting, I'm keeping myself sane by writing letters that I won't send and making music.

I even cook meals for her when she said she's hungry and drove 30 minutes just to send her food. I'm willing and not complaining. Just wanted people to see I'm putting in the effort 😂

I'll stop here for now.

If anyone could advice, here's my question

Should I confess and tell her everything?
I didn't say anything was because she's still sad about her breakup, still misses her ex, technically still in contact with her ex. Her ex still looks for her and all. They kinda argued again when her ex knew me.
Fyi I did NOT wreck their relationship. She Broke up AFTER she found out her ex cheated. Plus I didn't do anything to her. NOTHING AT ALL

Should I just wait for her to look for me?
I'm insecure yes, she can message 10 other guys that has way better profile than I do. I'm afraid that because I kept quiet and did not approach her, she would lose interest in me. But then I don't want to be a simp you know ahhahahaha. I probably am but I'm trying lol.

I'm just confused and my mind is like SpongeBob sorting brain files in his head in fire if you get the reference.

If there are other advices do share to me. I'd be grateful.

Thank you for reading.

Car sound proofing/deadening/treatment

forlowyat1 — Fri, 06 Jun 2025 00:03:19 +0800

I'm trying to DIY my Vios ncp42.
So my next upgrade would be the sound treatments in my car before I do any major sound system upgrades.

I've been searching around shopee for brands. The cheapest one would be the 3M gold or black. But I don't really trust them as I haven't seen any informative review. Only those fast delivery etc. not much valid reviews. I don't really trust the quality for the price but if anyone here tried it and it's good do tell me haha.

So left the expensive "good" ones are STP.
These quality I would trust them but they come in a variety of thickness. Mainly 2mm 3mm and 6mm. In theory 6mm would be the best.
If anyone has cheaper options please do tell me 🥹

So I need some feedback or review on which one to get. How to apply I think I'll just YouTube it. If kind sirs are willing to teach I'm willing to learn 😎

Thank you all. 🙏🏻

Android player for NCP42

forlowyat1 — Fri, 23 May 2025 14:59:50 +0800

I'm looking to buy one from shopee and fix it myself.
Any recommended brands or specs I should look out for?
I'm thinking of adding speakers too.

Just got rejected after first date

forlowyat1 — Wed, 16 Apr 2025 02:17:12 +0800

Long story short.
We matched on Boo. It felt like she really liked the way I was chatting with her, and I really liked her too. Exchanged Instagram and chat a little more there.

She invited me to join her on classpass, I was too afraid to start a date like that and I declined. Then I decided to invited her for lunch instead
So we meet for lunch SPONTANEOUSly. Probably a stupidly bad idea, was never prepared for anything. She said it's okay, it's not a date. So I'm like alright, I'm super excited to meet her.
So I went to pick her up, started talking from the moment we met,
I Probably got way too exited, I feel like I opened up way to much. Shared a little too much stories because I wanted to keep the conversation going.

Then shared a little bit about some things that happened
"I hated that friend that sells insurance"
She's like, oh. I sell insurance too.
Me thinking: oh shit... I didn't mean it that way. I'm probably failing so bad already.

I tried to be as genuine as possible. But after that encounter. It makes me feel like sometimes being toooo genuine is a red flag also.

the whole process just makes me feel like I'm such a failure.
Did not think about her feelings, maybe scared her a little because how deep my convo goes.

After this encounter, I come to an understanding that
1. It's never good to open up right away, take your time to slowly get to know each other even tho you want to share your stories.
2. Sometimes staying silent and listen is more than enough. If the girl is interested in you, she would ask you questions and talk to you.
3. Never do any spontaneous meetings, always be prepared, if you're not. Just postponed the meeting. If she lose interest, it's probably not even worth your time anyway.

This encounter makes me feel like I'm back in middle school where love at first sight still exist. It literally feels like flowers started to bloom all around her.i was genuinely in love or should I say, I liked her instead.

Just wanted to share my experience and then let it go then move on. It's been bugging my and I couldn't sleep because of it haha. Talk about pathetic 🥲

Thank you for reading. God bless 🙏🏻

BMW F32 car group

forlowyat1 — Thu, 10 Apr 2025 18:06:09 +0800

Are there any enthusiast groups that I can join for discussion and maybe car meets occasionally?

Hair salons/stylist

forlowyat1 — Wed, 09 Apr 2025 23:37:51 +0800

I usually stick to my hair stylist for my haircut. But I'd have to wait until I have time to go back to my hometown just for a haircut.

Was wondering if there are any recommendations of hair salon in KL/Selangor. Can be PJ, Sunway, Cheras or anywhere.

I'm looking for a hair stylist that can recommend hairstyles for you by looking at your face shapes etc. I've always stick to the classic side part with fade cuts or middle part.

Of course if possible don't recommend an overpriced salon haha. 50bucks for a haircut is kind of a luxury for me already.

Medical card

forlowyat1 — Thu, 20 Feb 2025 06:02:59 +0800

I have a medical card since young. My mother bought it for me, I think it's medisavers by lonpac insurance. Its written as 250vip
I'm wondering if anyone knows, buys this and used it before.

These days I've been wondering maybe I should start worrying about these as I'm "adulting"

What should I know about my medical card? Is it good enough? Should I get an upgrade?

D.i.y glass polish on your car

forlowyat1 — Fri, 03 Jan 2025 19:31:19 +0800

I'm sharing what I do first.
So I bought 2 stuff, a powder glass watermark removal/polish and glaco.
After removing water mark, just applied the glauco product. It works.

My question would be,
is my method wrong/not good enough.
Are there any guidelines "real" way to polish your windshield.
A friend told me we could use car wax with a polish machine. I thought it's only for paints and metals. Can search 911 metallic cleaner waxco auto care.

How to meet up with more girls?

forlowyat1 — Wed, 01 Jan 2025 00:51:24 +0800

What kind of activities or communities should I go so that I can meet more people, know more people and potentially meet my other half?

Dating apps doesn't seemed to work for me, I'm always genuine, you could say I'm a super straight guy. Plus I'm kinda scared of some weirdly enthusiastic girls from China which feels like a scam to me. So I've never met them irl.
For locals,I can understand there are tons of guys getting matched with them no problem, but maybe because of that the girls felt tired of all the bs they have to go through lol.

I'm thinking of joining some sort of sport. Maybe go to church?
I'm definitely an introvert, cause it always felt scary to me when people are overly enthusiastic haha.

STD/STI/HIV/HEP test price

forlowyat1 — Thu, 26 Dec 2024 14:30:06 +0800

The picture shows price for tests by a klinik in bangsar south. They seemed to be specialized in this area.
Wondering if anyone have experience with this? I'd like to know the prices and what kind of procedure will you be expecting.

Thank you 🙏🏻

Any Group for Vios ncp42?

forlowyat1 — Thu, 26 Dec 2024 14:15:19 +0800

I'm looking for a group that usually discuss about problems or mods of their cars.

I'm doing a survey on brake calipers haha. I've been thinking of upgrading the brakes. Looking for brands that could fit in my car.

Vocal teachers/coach/lessons

forlowyat1 — Sun, 01 Dec 2024 10:31:21 +0800

Anyone have any idea where to find them? Any recommendations? Pj,sunway, cheras area

Just wanna learn how to not hurt my throat every time I finish a karaoke session or bathroom star.

Motor crash the car Infront him

forlowyat1 — Sat, 30 Nov 2024 18:00:42 +0800

So the story goes like this.
I'm in a highway making a U turn with my signal on slowly. A bike from far way back honk me maybe because it feels sudden for him? I don't know. It's heavy traffic. I don't know why he drives so fast.

So the point is, he drove in front of me just to take a good look at me and pointing me while he did not see the traffic stopped in front. By the time he realised it, he crashed reaaaaaal hard to the car Infront of him. I drove away because I can't stop in the middle of the high way with alot of cars.

It ain't my fault right? Haha. Kinda feel bad for him. And the car he crashed into. Lol
I mean he could've just saved the hassle by not wanting to look at me and pointing at me lol. The distance was really far also. Sad

Where can find ford car community for questions?

forlowyat1 — Thu, 28 Nov 2024 20:11:36 +0800

I like to D.i.y my car and I drive a ford fiesta. I'm looking for a group/page/sub Reddit or any platform where people usually ask questions about car problems.

F.y.i the issue is
If drive long distance, the air vent will close and cannot open. All the buttons works fine, it felt like a flap closed the air vent which prevents the air coming out.
Blower works fine
Just not sure which actuators got problem
Suspect the temperature control causing the problem.

How you deal with customers? (Car workshop)

forlowyat1 — Thu, 21 Nov 2024 23:52:07 +0800

So I'm just a mechanic working under a shop.
My friend recommended his friend to bring his car to let me check and fix it. Well call him Ahkau. He just bought a second hand mercedes with air suspension system. Which he bought without consulting with his friend which is also a mechanic.

Long story short,

Ahkau rear air spring broke, I gave him a quotation and suggested him to opt for a convert which no longer use the air spring. It's about the same price.

Ahkau went to another shop, fixed it. Came back to me with other noise problem.

Gave him a quotation, he ask for discount, I ask from boss, gave him, then he ask for discount again.

Noise came back, totally unrelated to previous problem. Complain, fixed it, ask for discount again.

He makes late payment every single time, which scares the shit out of me.

Front air spring broke, came to me, complain, ask for discount.

Quotation came, same price as convert suspension system.

Ask for discount again. Then I ask him for deposit. Because this is expensive.

He got mad saying that I don't trust him or my boss don't trust him.

This is where I cannot take it anymore and decided to share.

Then he said fine, I'll make full payment now. (Which is not made yet)

I explained every single shit to this guy, gave him discounted price, not getting my commission, and still need to hear him complaining about shit that he's supposed to be responsible which makes it looked like I'm the one to blame.

For fk sake I only have 3k month and I need to deal with this shit without commission just because you asked for a fkin discount? For fk sake you drive a MERCEDES BENZ. DRIVE A TOYOTA OR A PROTON for fk sake.

I'm sorry I lost myself right there.

Anyways, how do you guys/business owners deal with customers like this? Can I just smiled and ask him don't come and look for me after this? Recommend another shop for him? My friend is the good guy, but not this Ahkau.

I do apologise for my foul language

LHDN SAMAN

forlowyat1 — Tue, 23 Jul 2024 15:18:42 +0800

I started working at 2020
I received an email few days ago from LHDN saying that I failed to file taxes and need to pay RM200 saman.

Growing up, no one told me that I should file taxes, I asked people around me about filing taxes yet everyone around me tells me that my salary not over 3k no need to file.

My salary at that time was about 2k only. Working as a mechanic. It's been 4 years now.

Does anyone know any cases about this? Like suddenly kena saman for no reason. Living from low salary already hard enough now the gov still wanna saman me because I never file tax 🥲

Tax problem

forlowyat1 — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 14:28:49 +0800

2019-2020 My mother (definitely a tax payer) bought a house under my name before MCO. I got taxed 9k instead. Any idea what information i need to provide to LHDN so that its cleared?
I dont even have a job during that time. just finished studying. I was planning to go renew my passport which failed because of the tax problem.

Do i need to hire an accountant to help me with this problem? if so any recommendations?

additional info, i've never done tax filing because no one actually taught me how until now. was told by my friends that i dont need to do any filing because my salary not over 3k which is a big mistake. now i need to pay 5months worth of my salary to the government? this is insane....

Any recommendations for HIV/STD test?

forlowyat1 — Mon, 01 Jul 2024 21:41:09 +0800

Only had one unprotected sex like 4 years ago I forgotten. Since then I always had protected sex. Never tried to get tested. Just wanna make sure that I'm clean cause occasionally felt itchy nearby pubic area. Got some really small mini rash looking patch near there also. Not sure what's that.

I was wondering what type of package I should mention. I want to get all the test if possible. Hiv?Std? What else? Not really sure.

Does any one knows estimate price? I'm thinking of getting HEP B vaccine also since I remember not having it.

Want to buy my first car

forlowyat1 — Thu, 09 May 2024 01:20:08 +0800

I've been thinking for quite some time about buying a brand new saga. But considering the price, 40k(saga) is not a small amount to me. Therefore I'm thinking about maybe try looking in second hand market and see what hidden gem I can find...

Looking for a daily
I don't mind driving a manual, and I don't mind driving old cars or local.
As long as it's reliable, parts easy to find, I can fix it and maintain it myself since I'm a mechanic myself.

I'm not familiar with second hand markets or old cars in general. Therefore I'm wondering if there's anyone out there who knows quite alot about second hand cars and which brand or model to tackle.

What I've looked on are
Saga Flx
Wira
Inspira
Satria
Satria neo
Toyota SEG/KE70/GX/GL/Altis/Vios
Honda civic EJ/EG

If I'm not buying any, I have an old E36 sitting at my parent's home waiting to rust. Either spent the money restoring that or ditch the idea altogether.
Restoring it won't be small amount of money either, plus with the parts that are rare and hard to source 🥲

Thanks in advance to everyone that will be replying to this thread.

How I got tricked into multi level marketing

forlowyat1 — Wed, 03 Jan 2024 15:00:42 +0800

About 2months ago, I met a girl online via FB dating. Im just looking for new friends which might have the potential to be a girlfriend.

She told me that she'll be drinking with some friends and maybe we can get to know each other.
I was thinking well, no harm in knowing a few more people.

I arrived at the designated bar. In which I didn't know 90% of them are on the same boat. I thought I would be getting to know 1 or 2 more friends. Who would've thought that they are all "business partners"

All start with a simple self introduction and some questions about work and life. Sounds harmless, but the pitch comes when she starts to say: I'll introduce you to one of my business partners.

At that moment I was like, okay? Business partners? I didn't thought much about it and started talking. Same pitch starts with self introduction and some stories on how he became successful or something that change his life when he joined this group of people.

Everything sounded "professional" and "high class". I won't go through the details.
She then introduced me to another guy which is her up line/senior on that business partner ladder thing.(at that time I still didn't know)

They never mentioned about selling products or whatever. They just kept mentioning about this group of people or community that is really amazing and earned a lot of money.

And so me being a naive person that has never heard about stuff like these, says that I'm interested in what you guys are doing. They then made another appointment on the second day where I could talk to a few more "successful" people that is within the community.

Same pitch as stories with how they got into it, how everyone says that it's a scam, how they got to where they are today, how it changed their life etc.
Then here comes the part where they ask if you wanna join them with just 3000 ringgit. With this money, you will be joining in as a member of the community and go to classes where they teach you lots of things which they'll say: "come on join us, you won't regret this, you'll learn tons of stuff here."

Me being a naive person again, I paid 2000ringgit because I don't have that amount of money to begin with and started to go to their so called class which is just listening to a guy talking about life empowerment and some company policies on how you earn that money.

Then after those classes, you'll be swarmed with people telling you that you should become the upper level member which cost about 30000ringgit
Going there almost every single night listening to people talking about their background story, how they got there , why they start with upper level membership that cost 30000ringgit. Then asks you to borrow money from friends and family to start this business.

Of course at this stage I'm completely convinced that I'll be jumping in a deep hole if I did borrow money to "start this business"

I don't mind if you try to get me into this MLM thing. What I'm angry about is that they promised about a certain product but they did not mention about the catch of getting the product which is the 30000ringgit part.

And so what I'm ended up with is a few health products that I would most definitely not use.

Is it worth it to pay 3000 to experience MLM? NOPE

Did I learn anything?
Yes I do, to sell a pen(product)
You'll have to start with simple friendly non related conversation which let his/her guard down. Then question them with his/her worries, needs, dreams. Give them a need, a calling.
Then close with a yes or not question.

Also I've experienced first hand on the power of a group of people saying the same thing, agree on the same thing, believing in the same thing, which in turn brain washes you into joining them.

I'm just a single man trying to be in a relationship which got convinced into joining this "business". And end up with an empty wallet and a broken heart. 🥲