GF hides stuff about past

MissingSwimming — Sat, 13 Feb 2021 03:05:21 +0800

I recently started dating a lady for 3 months, whose husband has passed away for slightly more than 7 years ago and last year she finally wanted to try dating as her children are older. We like each other and meet almost every day as we live close by. The issue with her is that she does not lie but tell the whole story of things especially about her past.

When we started to get intimate with each other she suggested that we do not use the condom as she does not like it and she did not use it when she did it in the past. I was surprised to a great extend as most girls I know forced guys to use it. I had always used condoms when I did it. That’s when I asked her about her past, and she told me about hers and she only did it with people she wanted and she had never made a mistake about it plus she does not drink alcohol. Believing her answer and after a month of dating we started doing without condoms. When we started dating I told her I did not care about her past. But she wanted to know all about mine so I told her everything, including the few one night stands I had in the past. I thought it was reciprocal. She told me she only did it with only 3 partners (her ex-husband, a ex bf she dated for 3 months, then me).

About 2 weeks ago, She had a yeast infection and I went to the gynaecologist clinic with her. Most couples was going in together but she wanted to go in alone. Not a big deal. When she came out the doctor recommended she get a STD test apart from testing which bacteria it was. I was kind of shocked as I was not expecting that. I thought as we are new partners that’s why the doctor asked for a check. We had a sincere talk again about our ex-partners again. I even suggested that I get a test so we can be not worried. Thank god the STD test came out all negative. She just told me but she did not show me the test report.

Anyway, long story short. Yesterday we were talking about something regarding her parents knowing that she is dating me and might want to meet me in person. She said that she showed guy T photo to her parents and he parents said he was too young for her (I am also around the same age as guy T). From what she told me earlier she dated this guy a few times but was not in a relationship with him. I just felt it was funny as you don’t show your parents about guys you just go on a few dates with. So I decided to ask her about him. She was reluctant to answer and brushed around the subject for a good 45 minutes. and tried to covering the statement that I told her I didt care about her past before. She finally said she dated the guy for 4 times before she slept with him, he then proceeded to break up over the text a few days later. She never told me about this guy when we talked about past relationships and sex partners. I told her that she was not being sincere and I felt like she had lied to me. She said she never wanted me to know about it so she hide the truth.

Honestly I am not angry about the number of people she did it or how many relationship she had as I had my fair share too. I’m more upset that when I asked she was angry the whole incident with guy T. She said she was not angry with him. She also when to meet guy T after he broke up with her over the text 3 months later. Which turned out to be a bootycall message as he was lonely and wanted to be with her again. She told me she went to listen to what he had to say. She said she rejected him but honestly I don’t know. Anyway, now I am not sure if what she told me is true all along. Or how much more things that is a lie. She had like 3 to for chances to tell me about him when we talked about our partners. This was not the first case. She did not tell me about her having children and was married until we dated for 2 weeks or 9 dates.

My gf tried to kiss me passionately today but I managed to avoid her today and sent her home without doing anything as I was sure I was clearly not in the mood. I’m wanted to sleep this out but i'm kind of lost and writing this late at night. Not sure if I should take a break from the relationship as dating a single parent has its hardship as i cant be open about the relationship with my parents. I really started to love her a lot at this point of time as we match in almost every other thing physically and mentally.

Dating App, am i trying to hard ?

MissingSwimming — Fri, 26 Jun 2020 21:48:53 +0800

I matched with a girl on a dating app. We started off slow and we both responded to each other very slowly like a day or a few hours apart.
Soon, we exchanged social media and we chatted quite often.

Now we chat almost everyday or every other day. She tells me some private stuff and I would say we can talk about a variety of stuff.
But the issue is this, I tried to ask her out twice but she did't want to met. I asked around month apart.
She did say that she does not want a relationship and she just wants to be friends. I can understand that and so be it.
The funny thing I think she dislikes me filtering with her and she never really flirts back.
Even causal flirting. Its kind of new to me because most girl i talk or talked to kind of like some causal flirting and getting praised.
I do not really flirt much when texting but once in awhile.

I felt that maybe she was loosing interest from our conversations as she taking way longer time to reply or reply late at night so we would minimize the time we can talk. I also feel like i'm the one trying to carry on the conversation some times. Its ok sometimes but not always.
So since I had this feeling, i started keeping my distance. I did not contact her for a few days.
Whenever this happens she would be the one to contact me with some funny story, meme or some random stuff. This has happen around 2 - 3 times.
We been talking for quite some time and its almost a few months here and there.

I'm not a saint and started speaking to a few other girls from the dating app as she seem be disinterest in dating.
But personally feel like i don't enjoy talking to the others girls as much. It feels like i'm not giving my all when i talk to the other newer girls.
Over the months / years, i matched and made friends with a few girls. After chatting or meeting the feelings kind of dies off in a month. But she is the only one that i have continued talking so long over in chats. I wonder if truly like girl A.

Any ideas why she would not want to meet?
Do you think I'm trying to hard?
Should i keep my distance more?

Any girls are here? Just say if a girl is uninterested, why would she want to keep the friendship or conversation going.
If it was me, i rather let it die off.
I'm not asking any tips or ideas for her to like me. I'm just here to vent and maybe get others viewpoint.

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