Fiance staying with my parents

madeline2882 — Wed, 25 Mar 2020 12:27:17 +0800

Fiance (35) and i (32) are about to get married this year. Have been dating for 15 years & he was a loving guy who have utmost respect and patience especially for elderly people and kids. When we were dating we have discussed about moving in together with my parents after we married & he agreed it. Since we have fairly low income & definitely couldn't afford a house at this moment. Fiance are from another state & since i'm the youngest, my 2 eldest sisters expected me to take care of my parents since they have their own family in hand already.

My parents were happy we move in together with them as they have us to take care of them. They renovated the master room's toilet, brought new ceiling fan for us, spending quite some money just to make sure we stay comfortable. Well both of my parents are quite depending on us actually especially my mum. Both of them are not in very good health either. My mum like to ask us to fetch her around during weekends to go shopping and i couldn't said NO (My bad actually as i'm too soft hearted) and my fiance are ok with it. My dad are ok actually while my mum in the another hand are much more difficult.

My mum doesn't really understand the concept of respecting other's people privacy. She would just barge in our room & start to checking from our drawer to our closet and start to nag if she found it's not according to her liking or the way she want our stuffs to be arranged. My fiance are kinda frustrated about this but choose not to argue with my mum because he respect my mum but i kinda feel sorry for him. My mum like to ask my fiance to do house chore, from washing our dishes to drying out clothes, from fetching her to morning market to helping her to take everything that she brought & yet sometimes she still want to complain / nag my fiance but in the another hand he kinda love this future son in law.

As a daughter i have a fairly good relationship with my mum. She a good mother with an attitude problem. My mum is very demanding & control freak. She is not the one that you can have a sit & have a nice discussion or someone that will compromise with you. She will be just living in her own world which she think it's right & demand everyone to listen to her. My fiance which have the most utmost patience for elderly people had started to freak out & frustrate. He will start to complain to me while i'm there listening stuck in the middle & don't know what should i do?

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