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i was cyber bullied by a myvi driver

child of escobar — Thu, 05 Mar 2020 20:49:42 +0800

should we ban this cyber bully ?

my story:

yesterday i started a topic with telling some of my story.

this myvi driver suddenlly comes in and attacked my post with really mean and rude comments about me.

I was so upset that i replied to this bully and the bully replied by saying even more bad things.

I was scared and devastated when this myvi driver bully who I thought was my friend commented about how annoying I was.

Once I had enough I decided to did something about it and speak out. below are some of the harming, harassing, threatening and humiliating messages that he/they postedd

PS: myvidriver is a alias . real name has been censored.

QUOTE(myvidriver @ Feb 2 2020, 11:10 AM)

please la, stop with your shit posting & delusion of grandeur ... do you self loathe so much that you keep coming back to a place where you're not welcomed?

go suck on a dildo or something bro, stop sucking on our dicks here on /k, you gonna make me cum in 30 seconds.

you ain't even worth shit.

ps: please fuck off.
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QUOTE(myvidriver @ Mar 5 2020, 12:54 PM)

Can you please stop being sucha fucking trash to /k and society?
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QUOTE(myvidriver @ Mar 4 2020, 01:18 PM)

fucking sohai
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QUOTE(myvidriver @ Mar 4 2020, 01:32 PM)

You're the epitome of Chinese trash.
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QUOTE(myvidriver @ Mar 4 2020, 03:54 PM)

Don't stop on my account. Just waiting for my turn to cum inside your tight ass hole.
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QUOTE(butterkijen @ Mar 5 2020, 08:50 PM)

No im on his side fuk u
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QUOTE(Baconateer @ Mar 5 2020, 08:52 PM)

go die la dupe
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how victorias secret lost its sparkle

child of escobar — Thu, 05 Mar 2020 12:25:21 +0800

Dudes, Don’t Be Sad Victoria’s Secret Is Failing

Here's the reason why your girlfriend hasn't shopped there in years

Look, I’m not judging: Victoria’s Secret catalogs were one of the first things you probably beat off to. Who could blame you? You poached these real-life angel lookbooks from your mom or sister and dog-eared pages for the time you could sneak off to your room and yank it to the sorts of women a teen boy could only dream of: women who were lithe or Brazilian, and women who were lithe and Brazilian. The catalog ceased printing in 2016, but now, thanks to retrograde ideas and some very public missteps, the company itself is tanking faster than pubescent ejaculation. It might be time to prepare yourself for the end of an era. Isn’t that sad?

Not really! Here’s why.

What Happened?

Victoria’s Secret’s fashion show ratings are down, CEO Jan Singer resigned and the brand is fading fast with its customers, as evidenced by decreasing sales over the last few years. Recent lines have been described as bland and poorly made, and the brand lacks the sort of authentic backstory millennials require these days.

Two years ago, a brand analyst predicted VS would be the next retailer millennials would “ultimately dethrone,” because they couldn’t abandon their affection for stale logos (“PINK” emblazoned across the ass of athleisure wear), and their obsession with presenting one consistent type of female body across all the models at a time of peak demand for diversity and inclusivity. What’s more, Victoria’s Secret has no clear cause or alliance outside of presenting a fantasy for male consumption and female aspiration.

That was more than enough for decades, but the times, they are a changin’.

The CMO Is Stuck in the Past

In an interview with Vogue this month, Ed Razek, chief marketing officer of parent company L Brands, made clear they don’t want plus-size models or trans women to represent the brand. They’ve thought about it, they just don’t need to market to anyone other than who they already sell to:

I think we address the way the market is shifting on a constant basis. If you’re asking if we’ve considered putting a transgender model in the show or looked at putting a plus-size model in the show, we have. We invented the plus-size model show in what was our sister division, Lane Bryant. Lane Bryant still sells plus-size lingerie, but it sells a specific range, just like every specialty retailer in the world sells a range of clothing. As do we. We market to who we sell to, and we don’t market to the whole world.

Later, he elaborated, calling transgender people transsexual, which is an outdated term that is typically less used and offensive for some transgender people:

Shouldn’t you have transsexuals in the show? No. No, I don’t think we should. Well, why not? Because the show is a fantasy. It’s a 42-minute entertainment special. That’s what it is.

I Don’t Get It. Don’t Guys Like Hot Babes?

Of course, but the strict definition of hot is changing! There is no longer one monolithic standard for female beauty or sex appeal, and the increasing fragmentation of porn and fashion everywhere else show us that there’s a market for, and desire for, beauty presented in all sizes and all sexual orientations. Fantasy knows no specific measurements.

As transgender model Munroe Bergdorf told Mic about Razek’s comments:

“Discriminating against any model on the basis of wanting to provide a fantasy is ridiculous, as a fantasy can be whatever you want it to be. If you only want that to include very beautiful, very thin, very cisgender, very femme models then you should say that — not make an excuse for the fact that you are actually transphobic and fatphobic.”

But the Real Issue Is Lingerie Is So Much Better Now

The lingerie market has also changed, in large part in response to body-positivity movements that argue women are sexy and beautiful at every size and ought to be able to buy sexy things that fit them. At Victoria’s Secret, sizes don’t go bigger than a 16 or an XL, at a time when plus-size markets offer up to a 24 or 28 to accommodate a wide range of shapes. A number of competing companies have rushed in to fill that gap, offering sexy underthings in a wide range of sizes with campaigns that stress diversity, inclusiveness and body positivity, such as ThirdLove, True&Co, and others. They’re better made, offer better customer service and are built on a mission of acceptance for all body types. They also tend to focus more on being comfortable and wearable than the old-fashioned crotch-chafers of ill-fitting lingerie that looked sexy but had you itching all night.

And then there’s the style itself. VS still peddles an extremely standard-issue, generic sort of sexy lingerie at a time when companies are branching out to offer more vintage styles and more high-end design. Agent Provocateur, for instance, with its more sophisticated, refined lines and taste, makes Victoria’s Secret look like the sleazy feather boas and tarted-up lace stockings you used to have to go to Frederick’s of Hollywood for.
So Victoria’s Secret Is Kinda Trash Now?

Li’l bit. It’s not hard to find people noting that Victoria’s Secret is not the class act it used to be anymore:

Victoria's Secret makes cheap, tacky products and I wouldn't buy them before, so why would I buy them now? https://t.co/jJn8pZZ2nb

— Catherine Schreiber (@cdschreiber64) November 13, 2018

Victoria’s Secret lingerie brand aimed at teens who are too young to know that being ‘sexy’ doesn’t mean you have to squeeze yourself into over priced tacky lingerie.

— Jane Badu (@wearenomadsuk) November 14, 2018

Victoria’s Secret aesthetic is tired. It has BEEN tired. Shit is tacky and boring.

— lil jeffy (@Jeffertiti) November 13, 2018

It wasn’t always so. Check out this great collection of vintage Victoria’s Secret catalog shots from its origins back in the ’70s and ’80s, even through the ’90s when it still sold apparel and actually seemed kind of classy for the time.

Looking at it now, it’s always seemed a little cheesy, like a costume version of playing Rich, Sexy Heiress. As someone who occasionally ordered apparel from the catalog in the ’90s, I can tell you that even then, it was disappointingly cheaply made.

Now, the catalog’s cheesy lace and the fashion show’s elaborate cosplay look like an incredibly sheltered teenage boy’s idea of what a harem might lounge around in. The models, who no one would argue lost their looks, used to represent a rare breed of exotically high fashion with lusty appeal. Now it looks like a time capsule for an era when we pretended no other kind of beauty existed.

That’s just not how we think of sexy anymore:

So No Need to Pour One Out for Our Homie?

In fairness, Victoria’s Secret was started for a perfectly logical reason. It was founded by a man in the 1970s, Roy Raymond, who was famously embarrassed buying lingerie for his wife because of all the “ugly floral-print nylon nightgowns” for sale in typical department stores.

That’s a good thing. But so much of the pornified world we inhabit, from Playboy to Victoria’s Secret, is a double-edged sword for women. It frees us from the constraints of schoolmarm-ish propriety, but it often has the unintended consequence of trapping us in a new, equally impossible prison.

Raymond’s creation not only became the No. 1 lingerie brand, but its image of Angels and lace and inaccessible accessibility, and the models who represent it, became synonymous with a mainstream ideal of sexy. And while this ideal was easy for men to want, it was never so easy for most women to aspire to. That’s changed. Some things need to go away.

Still, go ahead and pour one out. Vicky’s Secret is an iconic brand that for a long time was the standard bearer of our notion of How to Be a Sexy Woman. It’s just that they stood for the idea that there’s only one fantasy, and that’s just not true. Women finally, after decades of protest, get to be the closest thing to real they’ve ever been — stretch marks and all, flaws and all, back fat and all.

For most of us, it’s a good, if not particularly malicious, riddance. I can’t speak for men. But if I might offer a gentle suggestion: You should be as thrilled as we are. Body positivity has given us all permission to feel good about however we look, and that goes both ways.

why do women like to shop for clothes

child of escobar — Wed, 04 Mar 2020 13:17:12 +0800

ladies love to shop? i know why

Shopping holds out the intoxicating promise of controlling one's destiny

In the late 90s, when I was doing research for Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to Be Wanted, I discovered something surprising about women and shopping. Everyone knows, of course, that women love to shop. Most men, it seems, shop only reluctantly and at the last minute, especially during the holidays—except perhaps for cars, trucks and big-screen TVs. But women, regardless of the season or the state of the economy, seem drawn to shopping. Even in these times of economic downturn and scarcity, my women psychotherapy clients struggle with their material desires. "Should I really buy that new pair of boots?" "I probably shouldn't go out for Black Friday or the after-Christmas sales at all." "He asked me to make a budget for my holiday shopping, but I don't know how to do that. I've never done it before, and besides, I resent doing it because I am the bigger wage-earner and this is the only time of the year that I splurge!" These, among others, are the comments, laments and complaints I hear on a recurring basis—especially so at this time of the year. But what is the root of women's irresistible desire to prowl the malls and department stores?

Women's shopping is often crudely explained as a "female drive." Such naturalistic reasoning seems to originate with socio-biologists, who search for reductionist biological explanations for sexdifferences as though our all of our habits, even ones that are clearly culturally influenced or determined, developed in a jungle. Frankly, as a feminist, I find myself in passionate disagreement with a theoretical stance that too often implicitly depicts men as superior: in this case, as just naturally more frugal (i.e., "reasonable") than women. Until men and women are on a level playing field in terms of rights, income, and leadership, we won't be able to separate true gender differences from differences that arise from unequal power. Shopping is a case in point.

According to the socio-biologists, women are linked to shopping in the same way that men are linked to sports. Often women's behavior is explained by something like the "shopping gene": men are the "hunters" (conquering stuff) and women are the "gatherers" (finding stuff). Remarkably, though, shopping (as in "real shopping"—serious bargain hunting and a whole day of meandering around through different shops) is not a primordial urge. It began historically, as an offshoot of advertising and commercialism, as a way to encourage women to feel in charge—deceptively inviting them to make choices and decisions of their own.

Beginning in the late Victorian era and continuing through the explosion of full-blown American consumerism in the 1920s, women were seduced by a "liberation" movement they didn't design. Previously excluded from significant economic activity, they were suddenly thrust onto center stage. The dry goods stores of earlier eras (where women went to buy personal items and materials required to make clothes) had been dark and unattractive places. No one wanted to spend the afternoon there. But at the turn of the century, enterprising merchants began transforming these dark, unattractive spaces from an environment you'd want to avoid into places you'd dream about visiting.

When glamorous, well-lit and artfully decorated "department stores" first opened in cities like New York, Chicago, and San Francisco, they were celebrated as a cultural achievement. Macy's, Marshall Fields, Wanamaker's and Altman's were among the first to lure middle class women into their soothing interiors. Shoppers were encouraged to come to the stores for pleasure, conversation, and to avail themselves of a range of new, ready-made garments. But it wasn't just to "buy things;" they were encouraged to "make their own choices." Attendants brought a variety of attractive offerings into a sitting-room environment (where shoppers were having tea and refreshments) for women to review. For the first time, the American woman was being asked directly what she wanted! She was being encouraged to become the Subject of her own Desire (instead of the Object of Desire, the muse). And so, well before upper and middle class women had won the right to vote, they were allowed to practice individual freedom in department stores and told they could shop for what they wanted.

Once ready-to-wear became widely available, department stores began to promote an increasingly extravagant and widespread demand for new clothes, cosmetics and other personal products. Prior to the advent of department stores, "fashion" was the province of the most privileged women only. But now, keeping up with fashion began to make all the difference to the life of an ordinary middle-class woman, who could not—naturally—stay current with an image that changed repeatedly and was manipulated by advertisers and retailers (mostly men) who were creating a national appetite for consumption. Perhaps most important for an understanding of current-day shopping warriors, however, shopping felt liberating to ordinary women. Across the country, women increased their number of shopping days. Instead of shopping for dry goods twice a year, they were shopping every third or fourth day. In this way, women and department stores paired up to create a profound new cultural environment that openly encouraged women to act on their own desires.

Even today, in the grip of the Great Recession, shopping continues to hold out the intoxicating promise of controlling one's destiny ("getting what you really want"). It is perhaps the single activity on which all shades of the political spectrum agree (even the liberals believe in shopping sprees, especially during the holidays)—encouraging women to make their own choices and indulge their desires! No wonder even feminists like me can still be compelled by the smells and sights of a well-appointed department store—taken in even by the incidental glamour of its branded shopping bag.

In the archetypal shopping heaven of the "right" department stores, we women feel a measure of control we rarely feel at home when we are overwhelmed with our responsibilities, out with our spouses who may keep an eagle eye on our spending, or hampered by the ever-dwindling possibilities for autonomy at work. We feel we can make choices for ourselves when we're shopping; finding a "bargain" is a triumph, and picking just the right color is magic. Shopping offers an escape from our resentment at having to "give in" to others' wishes and desires; and it promises that we, too, can mold our images to fit the current cultural muse.

In reality, of course, women are not in control of the iconic images of current fashion or the retail enterprises that trick us repeatedly into believing we must transform ourselves to mimic the momentary Object of Desire. Retailers seduce us into buying an illusory freedom—a freedom that is in fact no freedom at all, only another form of subjugation. Sad to say, modern consumerism creates desire but doesn't satisfy it. Those beautiful, sensual, pleasing displays—the sights and smells of the modern-day department store, real or on-line—evoke over and over again memories of our first taste of freedom. No wonder our male counterparts fail to understand what motivates us to "shop until we drop." They don't have a black hole of self-doubt where self-determination should live.

how should i reply to her

child of escobar — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 15:34:41 +0800

i still don know how to answer her . need your suggestions.

I was surfing some dating website earlier today. then

an full size looking girl messaged me. after chatting a while we moved to use whatsapp.

she seems to be sweet and has a good heart

but then she stun me by asking me a surprising question.

how do i answer her ? after 5 minutes later , i still havent answer her. her question is on my mind.

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replied to her. no thanks to ktards

pls help translate

child of escobar — Mon, 02 Mar 2020 09:49:57 +0800

my engrand not so good, [@Aparaa] pls help translate

what does she mean by this

child of escobar — Mon, 02 Mar 2020 00:27:28 +0800

just 2 days ago when we were together dating, she told me she was happy to be with me. she said she wanted to be my gf and me to be her bf.

and during when we were having smexy time, we was shouting my name and making loud noises non stop for many hours.

but today she sent me this message. i read it many times and i still dont understand. why ?

what does she mean by this ? does she mean she wants to break up with me ? is she gonna dump me ?

pls help to advise me. i feel so sad and lost by her reply.

apology to your cat

child of escobar — Sun, 01 Mar 2020 13:15:59 +0800

to my dearest n [@your cat]

my honest and thousands sorry if i had said or done, anything bad to you recently or long ago in the past

i apologise ans hope u will accept me humble apology. i only wish i can meet you in person to tell you how sorry iam and how i feel about u

thank you n have a good day

some weirdo ktard keep on boethering me

child of escobar — Sun, 01 Mar 2020 12:50:16 +0800

[@your cat] mohon penjelasan.

why keep on pm me? no balls to reply in public? kihkihkih

my cap keeps slipping off my head

child of escobar — Sat, 29 Feb 2020 10:40:13 +0800

why my cap keeps falling off my head? is it because my head too wet and cause it to slip off?

it feels too loose. am i wearing it wrong?

yesterday night i wear 3 cap all 3 came off. spoil our mood only...aiyaa

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i think i know why , its because too much water came out from her, makes it slippy and easy to fall off. will use rubber band to ikat next time.

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TGIF - whats your plans this evening

child of escobar — Fri, 28 Feb 2020 11:19:43 +0800

/K pls advise me how to ask her out (age 27)

how to meet foreigners using app

child of escobar — Tue, 25 Feb 2020 20:32:20 +0800

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i am hoping to connect and meet foreigners and expats residing in Malaysia . specifically Indonesia and Phillipines community. which app is recommended? i just want to connect with foreigner expats . thats my goal n intention.

a bit about me:
i am a nice man in my 30s. have had moderate success using apps such as tinder, cmb , badoo over the past few years. my bahasa is decent, am fairly well traveled, and i don't consider myself to be a racist

i don't have much chance to mix with indons n pinoys in my daily life. that's why i need a starting point so i hope that online apps can help me to break the ice

indonesia cabinet ministers

child of escobar — Tue, 25 Feb 2020 20:28:03 +0800

below is a picture of indonesia cabinet ministers taken recently after their general election in 2019

indonsia population - 300 million
number of cabinet ministers - 35

malaysia population 30 million
number of cabinet ministers & deputies - 50

what does this say about our governemnt ?

how to meet foreigners

child of escobar — Sat, 22 Feb 2020 11:20:22 +0800

a bit of background about me: i am a local Male in my 30s. have had moderate success using apps such as tinder, cmb , badoo over the past few years

now hoping to connect and meet foreigners and expats residing in Malaysia . specifically Indonesia and Phillipines community. which app is recommended?