Cheated, broke up and get blamed

mexsheep — Tue, 01 Sep 2020 18:45:00 +0800

Hi All, was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years and recently broke up.

Lets start from the beginning, I remember chasing after her for 2 months and found out that she was actually having a bf that moment. So i decided to end my pursue as i do not want to be a "third-person". The very next week, she came to my office and meet with me, told me she broke up with her bf. Me knowing myself very well that i have a strong feelings for her and decided to continue to go after her. Another 2 months passed, we are couple.

One thing i find that is weird, that she is very active in social media, be it facebook and instagram, while me not even having an instagram account and my FB latest profile pic was taken around 2013. She brought me and introduced me to her family, including her relatives. Things go well and i started to ask "Why you never introduce any of your friend to me or post our photo on your social media platform?". Answer that i got from her was "I dont want my friend to know that i am dating a new guy right after i just broke up with my ex" , so stupidly me taking the answer as alright.

Fast forward 6 months later, i bought a house for us, its under my name, but i brought her over to the condo along with the property agent and choose the unit based on her preference. (I never like a condo..) Some of you might be asking, why would you buy a house that quick? Well, she told me she is getting older (She is 2 years older than me) and would like to settle down with me, and start bringing me to Poh Kong , Tfifany & Co to choose proposal ring. So i see the seriousness from her and i get blindfolded by the love, that when i decided to buy the condo.

Renovation and furniture are all her pick of choices, and my jobs are to get it done. Another 6 months later, condo is ready and we moved in (Its a completed project). Now i asked her the same thing on why none of our photo was ever being post online. Her answer "I dont want to let anybody know that i am dating my patient" (She is my dentist... she helped on my braces), then i told her " hasnt i stopped being your patient for at least a year? ". Her reply usually ended with either "Its easier to attract more male patients if people though i am single", or she will brought up how i mistreated her.

So now come to the part on how i mistreated her. Yes, from last year, i quit my job and joined another company and i got stress out, so sometimes we will have some arguments , me being impulsive and raise my tones (Not yelling or scolding, i am sure of this). Another reason is that i am busy creating her clinic software program and busy looking for shop to rent for her own new clinic, maybe that lead to me being stress out.

I remember i waited for hours just to look for shops to rent, servicing her car, saving her from a car accident, buying her all the things she ever needed (foods, earphone, headphone, frying pan, etc , too much to list out), i am not comparing how much i have done for her, but she wouldnt even come to my house to visit me when i broke my leg...

So, what happened? Why she is not visiting you? She not staying together with you in the house you bought for her?

Here what happen: During MCO lockdown, she went back to her hometown for close to 2 months. After she come back, things go well but eventually down to drain. She seldom come back to the house to stay, and told me she wouldnt want to have sex with me. Again, me stupidly thought she want to be more faithful to god and want to practice no sex before marriage, when i asked her this, she said yes..... Fast forward 3 months later, my grandma passed away, and she rather go out with her friend than coming to my grand funeral wake.... but the next day she promised me to come, but we found out that she actually went out with another guy and kind of forgot the whole thing until i whatsapp her on what time she is coming, because due to MCO SOP, funeral wake has to stop before 9pm...

Then my leg broken, and again same cold treatment from her and not event want to come back to the house. So here i am, decided to initiate a breakup after a serious talk with her. She agreed to it. And right after one day, i regretted it. I realized i couldn't live without her. I started to call her, text her, and even go to her clinic and look for her. Most of it got turned away. Tears shed every day and i couldn't sleep and eat... I went to her place to beg for one last chance, she thrashed me like hell and keep saying how bad i am , even worse than her ex. Claiming i am not christian enough, dislike her family and trying to control her.

After 2 weeks, i decided to move on and i kind of suspicious that she might be having another guy behind my back all these while. So i asked her to come over and pack her stuff as i decided to move on. Along with it, she admitted sleeping behind my back with her ex and her new BF before we even break up..... Now she is staying at the new bf house...

She blamed me for the cheating, claimed that i am not christian enough, not mixing much with her family, and dont let her to watch webinar till 5am for everyday......blamed me that because of all these doing, her feelings faded, thats why she started cheating behind my back...

I know its over now..... But when she is packing her stuff from our lovely house, stupidly me even beg her for one last chance that i dont mind she was sleeping with others behind my back, i even told her we can put all these behind us and live a new life.... i guess i loved her too much.... Again, she turned me down.

I was crying badly nonstop when she is packing her belongings, and she show no tears or guilt at all... I even bought her alot of supplement and reminded her to take it since we are no longer attach....

I booked a hotel room in penang for proposal, bought a RM8K proposal ring, and all these has become pointless now...

I had suicidal thought and try to kill myself by taking a lot of sleeping pills, glad my brother saved my life when i didnt reply his text or call, and he come over to my house to check on me (My whole family and friends know about this, and see me crying almost every day for one whole month, so they usually check on me every few hours, just making sure i am okay).

I had depression , confirmed by my physiatrist, taking those depression drug now and have to go for counselor every week. Lost a lot of weight, couldnt really eat and sleep. Night time is the worst, keep thinking of her and i have noone else to talk to... my biggest fear. Oh yeah, she knew about this, when she come over to pack her stuff, she only dropped me by saying "Dont do stupid thing, suicide will go to hell", that's it.

I started to go back to church, try to be more faithful to god, pray harder, hoping things can get better.

Why would a woman can be so cruel when fallen out of love... i started to think she is a relationship hopper. Because of what she did to both of her EX-es, is happening to me...... And I really don't get it, i thought we were suppose to get marry and settle down, that's what she said.

It really hurt like hell, i will never ever wish this thing happen to anybody, including my worst enemy.

[wts] Hisense 49N2173P 49" DVB-T2 Full HD LED TV

mexsheep — Thu, 07 Nov 2019 23:32:51 +0800

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mexsheep — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 20:05:23 +0800

Item(s):Hisense 49 inch LED TV HSE-49N2173P

Package includes:TV

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Warranty: Yes

Dealing method: COD in KL / PJ / Kepong

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Hi All, My house is using 500mbs Unifi with router TP-LINK AC1200. Its a landed 3 storey house, so the router is being placed on the ground floor, and i also placed another wifi booster (TP-LINK AC1200 Wireless Dual Band Extender WiFi Booster Repeater RE305) on the first floor. But silly me thinking this might help the another house (100meters away) to get a stable internet connection, in this case, it doesn't.

The other house (100 meters away) can detect the wifi and connect it, but connection wise is very unstable. It get disconnect often and speed is only ranging between 2-3mbs. Please advice if any good router specifically for longer range or any other solutions are welcome. Thank you!

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