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How to wear fragrances without bothering ppl nose?

thematthewkoo — Sun, 18 Aug 2019 21:10:49 +0800

Hi, I am a fan of wearing fragrances , been interested in it for the last 3 years, but I don't use everyday and I don't spray that much, only 1 spray to wrist,dab on other wrist and both sides of neck, or sometimes 1 spray to my shirt's sleeves(although I know that spraying on clothes isn't good for the clothes and doesent bring out the scent).

My fragrances I am using now are popular designer ones like Bleu de Chanel EDP(2014), Montblanc Explorer(2019), and YSL L'Homme and YSL La Nuit.

I am Chinese male and my age in my mid 20's and I noticed that my Chinese guy and girl friends back in the private university I went to last time don't wear fragrances and my colleagues now, both male and female, don't wear fragrances too.

I am open minded and like to interact with all races but right now my peers I see everyday at work and out of work are majority Chinese and I am conscious of how people around me react to my fragrances. Recently I searched on Google for the topic 'fragrances for Asian men', because I think I have heard that Asians prefer lighter fragrances and also, Chinese dont wear much fragrances.

I came across this few years ago Basenotes(a perfume website) thread. The threadstarter stays in Taiwan and wow the reactions he gets are quite terrible and sad. I feel bad for him. Have a read and see.

Could maybe some of you please share ur experience of wearing fragrances in this country and whether the people around u at work or out of work also wear fragrances? And what type of people do you interact with daily and what positive or negative reactions u have gotten? And please do share any advice you may have for me regarding perfume selection and application. Thank you

Any of you guys work hard in career

thematthewkoo — Mon, 20 May 2019 03:54:54 +0800

Hi,

What motivates you guys to work hard in career? I know typical reasons is because u need the money, u wanna be successful person, useful person, etc. But, is one of the reason, or maybe the MAIN reason, u work hard in career is because you wanna make ur exes regret for not choosing you?

For me, sometimes while working out (lifting weights, doing pushups), I think of the few girls who didn't like me, and I get a boost of energy. A bit of angry feeling. Make them wanna regret for not choosing me.

Not sure if this is normal or if I'm the only one who thinks like that.

Good girls like bad guys

thematthewkoo — Sun, 05 May 2019 02:33:45 +0800

Bad girls such as girls from broken families, or who have been treated with neglect, abused, lonely, have daddy issues (father didn't care well for them, bad relationship with father),will prefer guys that are nice, caring, gentleman because these girls have never received attention and care in their life, so when they receive these kind of care and love from guys, they would fall for the guy.

Good girls, such as girls who have caring family members, comfortable home, education, happy family and friends, they don't prefer a guy who treats them nicely and caring and gentlemanly. Why the f*ck? Because:

1) They can already get this kind of attention and care from their own family members and best friends. Good girls already feel secure with their dad and mum, they don't need to seek security from a guy.

2) Good girls can go yumcha and eat and drink and share stories and do stuff with their female best friends and besties, girls don't need to seek a guy to do all these things with.

So you see, why the f*ck will the good girls want a good guy right? And so, good girls prefer a bad guy. Or I should put 'bad' guy, because I don't think I literally mean bad guys who do criminal things. I mean guys who have one or more of these characteristics: cool, cocky, mysterious(actually what the f*ck does mysterious even mean? I often see this word when reading about 'bad guys'), playboy, don't give attention to the good girl etc. These good girls seems to think that it's a nice challenge to be with a bad guy. The challenge is to make the guy from bad to good. Plus females are more nurturing so its in their nature to gravitate towards bad guys?

Share your views. Is the above true?

Or is it just because the good guys I described are 'NiceGuys' who feel that girls are obligated to like them and these 'NiceGuys' are actually not confident and not genuinely good people so that's why girls don't like them. While the 'bad' guys I described are actually confident and strong guys and fun to be with and so girls like them.

I don't know. It's late and I'm just ranting. Maybe the above are stereotypes. No offense to anyone.

Why I rant? Because I am sad. I have been nice to a girl and caring to her but she said she doesn't have feelings for me. I'm quite sure I'm not a 'NiceGuy'. I think I am confident and have other qualities too and not just nice and caring. Who is the girl? A girl who is still studying. Above 18 years old. I am also still studying. And I feel the girls around my age from 18 years old to early 20's are childish as f*ck. These young girls don't know what they want. These young girls think they are very pretty and still young and so they wanna have fun and date many guys to find what they want. Not sure if I can blame them...they just want to gain experience I guess.

I think I now know why some guys become 'bad'. Maybe they think the same way as what I typed above. But I can never be 'bad'. First reason is I don't know how to. Lol. And second reason is because I prefer being myself. I believe I will meet the right person one day who can accept me for who I am la. One day. Hopefully la. F*ck.

Love is not fair

thematthewkoo — Sun, 31 Mar 2019 02:08:36 +0800

This is a late night post so I might just be tired and irrational. But anyway I feel I am unlucky and useless and can't find my special one. When I was in school and in university, I didn't know how to chase girls. Now I realize got 2 or 3 in school probably gave hints, they said I was cute, but I didn't realize they liked me. Its too late to regret though as it's in the past. And there were 1 or 2 girls who I tried chasing in university but I wasn't well dressed and also I became fat in university and was unattractive. I also wasn't funny and wasn't charming so my personality couldn't make up for my unattractiveness.

I'm a uni student about to start my first job soon. I had 2 very short relationships in my early uni days and from the relationship, I know how kissing feels like now. It feels great.

I don't have much money in my savings, I have no car, I don't have my own property, I am staying with my parents, and my academic and extracurricular results are just average. I am the most average person ever. I am horny and want sex yet I am still a virgin because I can't find a girl and I don't dare to find prostitutes. I had thought about it but I think I never will because I don't want to get any diseases. I am good in nothing. I can study, I can play sports, I can play musical instrument, but I am good in neither of those. Jack of all trades, master of none.

In 2019 I have started dressing better and am less fat. If last time I was a 5/10, now I'm a 7/10 la. I like this girl who I met at the beginning of this year. It's more than lust. Last time the girls I tried chasing was because I liked their body la. This girl I really like her for who she is la. After chatting with her and going out a few times, she says I am just a friend.

So I shall remain virgin this year la. I shall continue using my right hand (ok just kidding, but true also).

I see peers my age f**king left right and centre. Guys who have money, have cars, have looks, all having success with women. Lengluis attracted to them, although some guys probably just pump and dump. Got money got honey.

And I am this potato. I have nothing. I am grateful to my parents for giving me an education, grateful for my health, grateful for food, clean water, blah blah blah but other than that, I have nothing.

I don't do any bad things, don't smoke, don't drink, don't go clubbing. My looks aren't too bad, friends say I look like a nice person.

I wanna get a true love before starting work la..people say work place hard to find girl and girls more materialistic at work.

I probably starting to sound like a 'NiceGuy'.

But I know my weakness la. I think I am the problem. I should just focus on myself la..but dunno la when my time will come. I know I must not objectify girls. I should not look for girlfriend just because I am horny. I know all this la. I like the above girl because of her personality la. But dunno la whether can get her or not. If not, have to start all over and keep talking to other girls, hoping to find love. I think I will become a wizard soon (wizard means old virgin).

Just ranting here. Thanks for reading. Any opinions or views to share with me? No need to make me feel better. I am already feeling so low..I think nothing can make me feel lower la. Hopefully only way from now is upwards.

Edit: No need to tell me to let things happen naturally. No need to tell me that I will find love when I least expect it. No need to tell me to focus on myself and automatically I will meet a girl someday. Because that is bullshit. If I don't initiate first and seek for love, no girl will initiate. If I wait for a girl to fall into my lap, I will still be a kissless virgin la. Or maybe its not bullshit. Maybe its true...just let things happen naturally. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother so much...so maybe if I start to not give a damn about finding a girlfriend...I might have better luck.

In Malaysia, is age 26 considered quite late

thematthewkoo — Mon, 11 Feb 2019 22:57:44 +0800

Hi,

I am a 26 year old and only now starting to look for my first full time job. Previously I only had a compulsory 3 month internship. I have a degree and my field is accounting.

In Malaysia, is it considered quite late? Because I have friends who are the same age as me already working 2-3 years or more. And in my field, those who after SPM straightaway do ACCA/ICAEW already start working when they are 21/22 years old.

So I feel that I am quite slow.

What do you think? Honest opinions please. No need to make me feel better.

And also, if you yourself started your career late or if you have friends who started working late too, do share some insights. Thanks